here it is, the day before my surgery, and i cant stop coughing.

Ive been coughing for a couple weeks now, left over from when i got sick, but now i woke up with a tiny bit of a scratchy throat and im coughing more than usual. Im drinking all the orange juice in the world right now, hoping im not getting sick. It was a bit windy so maybe its just dry.

if im sick the day before my surgery i dont know what ill do. i seriously have the worst luck of anyone...

Here's the kicker- looked up the facts about the stuff they've been making me take. It's pretty unsafe. When taken by mouth it causes throat irritation and freaking extra bleeding during or after surgery.

Ive never heard of anyone else taking this stuff and it's herbal so screw this! If my surgery gets cancelled tomarrow because of the dumb herbal stuff THEY gave me, I'm going to be so mad.

You can take Zycam, unless your surgeon doesn't allow it. There's nothign on Dr G's website against it.
I've found it effective, but not 100%.

--Jay

so i have a fever

they cancelled my appointment until i get better

i dont know why this happens to me all the time

i should be used to it by now i guess theres no real point in updating this thread so i guess i just wont

thanks for all the support from everyone i really appreciate it

Man, I'm really sorry.  I hope it is rescheduled soon.

Sorry to hear about that, mate.  But honestly - better safe than sorry.  They have cause and concern to not go ahead with things so it's better for you and your well-being to wait.  I'm sure they'll get you scheduled back on in no time.  Chin up and get feeling better!

The soonest date that we could reschedule for is the day after my boyfriend's surgery. Otherwise it messes up our precariously planned out next few months.

Right now we are scrambling to find someone to drive me to and from my appointment, and for someone to take care of us both. About how long do we need someone around before we can do things on our own?

Things are just not looking good for ol flighty...

Well perhaps you'll have a bit of luck, hoping so anyway.

--Jay

How was everyone feeling the day after their surgery?

The Boyfriend is extremely worried about me, since the way it is currently set up, I won't have any support at the surgery. I have a good friend driving me, but my mother is working and Boyfriend will have just had his surgery.

He's hoping, since there isn't much moving around, that he'd be able to make it to mine. He gets his early morning (maybe 7?) the day before, and mine is scheduled for 11 am the next day. Is it possible for him to make it, considering its a short walk to the car, sitting during the car ride, short walk to waiting room, sitting until i get out, and then home the same way? he would be worrying even more if he wasnt one floor down from me.

i really hate the fact that i dont have anyone to wake up to, but im willing to do it.

He's gonna be to doped up on pain meds to want to leave the house.

Quote from: FlightyBrood on February 06, 2014, 06:17:53 PM
How was everyone feeling the day after their surgery?

The Boyfriend is extremely worried about me, since the way it is currently set up, I won't have any support at the surgery. I have a good friend driving me, but my mother is working and Boyfriend will have just had his surgery.

He's hoping, since there isn't much moving around, that he'd be able to make it to mine. He gets his early morning (maybe 7?) the day before, and mine is scheduled for 11 am the next day. Is it possible for him to make it, considering its a short walk to the car, sitting during the car ride, short walk to waiting room, sitting until i get out, and then home the same way? he would be worrying even more if he wasnt one floor down from me.

i really hate the fact that i dont have anyone to wake up to, but im willing to do it.

I think it will be too hard for him to do so and honestly, not healthy.  He needs to rest.

If it is important to you (and him), that he be there with you, I would suggest putting your surgery off.  Neither of you can help the other either when it comes to recovery.  It would really be better for both of you if you just put your surgery two weeks further out MINIMUM.  What's a couple more weeks?  I know you are excited to get it done and everything, but in the big scheme of things it is minor.

That depends on a lot of factors. None of us can answer that question without knowing more about what he's having done, his medical history, etc. He needs to ask his surgeon for advice.

Quote from: Brett on February 06, 2014, 06:39:32 PM
I think it will be too hard for him to do so and honestly, not healthy.  He needs to rest.

If it is important to you (and him), that he be there with you, I would suggest putting your surgery off.  Neither of you can help the other either when it comes to recovery.  It would really be better for both of you if you just put your surgery two weeks further out MINIMUM.  What's a couple more weeks?  I know you are excited to get it done and everything, but in the big scheme of things it is minor.

I literally cant put it off. Not only does it conflict with some scheduling (which isnt all that important, but its already payed for and such) but i have anxiety fueled insomnia, so I have been barely sleeping. The first time in a week (almost two now) that i have actually fallen right to sleep is because I have had a really high fever the past few days. Its incredibly bad for me, and i cant just not think about it. My brain wont let me. Its not a matter of excitement at this point, its a matter of getting to sleep.

We have a person staying with us up until our first post op appointment, around the clock. We made sure that we would have someone that is able to take care of us since we will not be able to take care of each other as originally planned. We are covered in having a caretaker, as well as rides anywhere we might need to go.

We dont have high hopes that he will be able to go with me to my surgery, so if he cannot its alright. He says he isnt too worried about not being there, and that hell probably just sleep until i get home. The surgery center is a stones throw away from the house, too, so its not that big of a deal. We will ask the doctor if it would hurt him to come with us, if he feels up to it, and if it will in any way then he wont be there. it sucks but im an adult and ill be asleep for most of the time im away from him, as will he. it just sucks he wont be there when i wake up, but im not really stressed too much about that.

If it's close, I don't see why he wouldn't be able to if he used a wheelchair at the hospital. I'm no doctor, though.

Quote from: Declan. on February 06, 2014, 08:09:28 PM
If it's close, I don't see why he wouldn't be able to if he used a wheelchair at the hospital. I'm no doctor, though.

Thats what we were thinking, having him in a wheelchair. BUT we arent doctors either, so we will definitely ask if thats a good idea. He needs to be in a sitting position anyways when hes home in bed, i dont really see how thats much different. Hes also going to have pain medication if he needs it, which a lot of people say they only used because the bandages were rubbing their skin raw, so he wont have to worry about pain. We have anti-nausea things they gave us, too. i cant imagine with all that, there should be a problem, but then i dont know. i still dont have too high of hopes with it.

but, we will see.

It's surgery, so when you have surgery you have had a pretty major (in the case of top surgery) trauma to your body. You can't expect a person who has just had surgery to do a lot of walking around, etc. Lots of get up, do this, drive over there, etc. sounds stressful to me. I didn't need a lot of help the day after surgery, but that doesn't mean I was up for a lot of activity.

--Jay

Quote from: FlightyBrood on February 06, 2014, 06:17:53 PM
How was everyone feeling the day after their surgery?

The Boyfriend is extremely worried about me, since the way it is currently set up, I won't have any support at the surgery. I have a good friend driving me, but my mother is working and Boyfriend will have just had his surgery.

He's hoping, since there isn't much moving around, that he'd be able to make it to mine. He gets his early morning (maybe 7?) the day before, and mine is scheduled for 11 am the next day. Is it possible for him to make it, considering its a short walk to the car, sitting during the car ride, short walk to waiting room, sitting until i get out, and then home the same way? he would be worrying even more if he wasnt one floor down from me.

i really hate the fact that i dont have anyone to wake up to, but im willing to do it.

I know that some of the guys here talk a lot about how they didn't have much pain, etc. after their surgeries, but I would like to stress that I was in pain the day after surgery and they pain meds I was given didn't do much for me.  I was constipated, weak and feeling like I'd been hit by a train. 

I know that in the US, it seems like guys are basically kicked out of hospital same-day and thus probably seems a bit like the surgery is "no big deal" as it's seen as a "day surgery", but it's a major operation.  I can tell you from my own experience, I would no way in hell have been able to walk to a car, sit for a drive and walk around a hospital and sit and wait.  I was barely able to hobble to the toilet.  Again, these are my experiences, take what you will from them - but I wouldn't advise that your boyfriend try to make it to your surgery the day after his own.  No way would I have been able to do that - everyone is different, but I wouldn't advise it.

If he is going to go ahead and do it anyway, be sure to have some kind of pillow for cushioning for the seatbelt.

I emailed the doctor and was told that Boyfriend should in no way be out of bed. So, that settles that. It's what we were both expecting anyways, so we've decided that we'll try to do a video call on our phones so that he can be home resting.

The lack of support is really no big deal, but it's a bit of a shock to us both since we have been away from each other maybe a grand total of three or four days max in the past two years. Its a bit weird being away from each other is all. Nothing I can't handle, though. I think I am anticipating being away from him as worse than it will be. Then I get to go home and heal along with him, which I think is pretty cool.

Main thing I'm keeping in mind-Everything happens for a reason, so if he isn't meant to be there with me then that is just how it is. Nothing we can do to help it.

All that said, I've become increasingly worried about complications. I know they are unlikely but I have some bad anxiety issues I've stopped taking medications for. I was all fine until I got sick and had to miss my first appointment. Maybe its because nobody will be there with me that im suddenly all worried.

bluh.

In some ways, I think it will be a good chance for you to learn just how independent and strong you can be. 

In regards to worrying about complications, I think that's normal to a certain degree.  Educating yourself about what the complications can be and how to avoid getting them will be helpful to alleviate your anxiety IMHO.  That way, once you have an understanding of the factors that contribute to problems post-surgery, you can at least feel that you have some power over not letting them happen (i.e., keeping wounds clean, not reaching and lifting, etc.). 

Just be sure to understand that it's always possible for complications to happen no matter how vigilant you are about things - it's the nature of surgery.  But talk about your worries and don't keep them inside.  I'm also a believer in the Law of Attraction - if you obsess about complications too much, you may just end up attracting that into your life.  So just have cautious optimism and don't work yourself up too much about it.  Talk it out - that's what we're here for. 

Quote from: FlightyBrood on February 06, 2014, 08:01:12 PM


We have a person staying with us up until our first post op appointment, around the clock. We made sure that we would have someone that is able to take care of us since we will not be able to take care of each other as originally planned. We are covered in having a caretaker, as well as rides anywhere we might need to go.

That's fantastic.  You guys may really enjoy having each other to recover with!  You have the same surgeon, I assume?