for me if a guy says they have been with a transgender no matter how nice they are or hot its always a deal breaker and idk why cause wen they tell me they been with a transgender i get this sick feeling in my stomach. I guess it could be cause i see other transgenders as competition and i don't want to feel like i have to look better than the other transgender and stuff like that.

I would be put off if someone told me they'd dated trans people before. I mean, we make up such a small percentage of the population - what is the chances of someone meeting and liking two trans people, unless they were hugely involved in the community? I'd perceive it as they had a preference for trans people and wonder if there was some fetishization going on.

Not at all. I would feel comfortable with dating him knowing he has no problem with transgender women.

Why do you see other trans girls as competition? That sounds silly to me, it's not like we're trans for the purpose of catching men. 

Quote from: Acodé on February 06, 2014, 06:24:25 PM
Not at all. I would feel comfortable with dating him knowing he has no problem with transgender women.

Why do you see other trans girls as competition? That sounds silly to me, it's not like we're trans for the purpose of catching men.

its not just with men. its everything. looks, body, etc... etc...

Quote from: birkin on February 06, 2014, 06:20:48 PM
I would be put off if someone told me they'd dated trans people before. I mean, we make up such a small percentage of the population - what is the chances of someone meeting and liking two trans people, unless they were hugely involved in the community? I'd perceive it as they had a preference for trans people and wonder if there was some fetishization going on.

I'd be a little concerned my self just in the fact there is only 700000 of us in the US.

Then perhaps it's time to start dating monks and priests...wait, forget the priests. You can catch an STD. Yea, I think the odds of a previous trans relationship would be weird. Trans-->-bleeped-<- comes to mind.

the guy im talking to didn't know I was transgender till I told him. hes never been in a relationship wit one... only sex, but that still puts me off.

Edit: more than one transgender aswell. I told him idk how confortable im going to be about it to never bring it up ever again and that if he says one thing bout another transgender that ill never speak to him again.

I'm not sure, I guess it would just depend on his individual circumstances.


Is he just trying to get his rocks off? ->-bleeped-<-.
Does he only date trans? ->-bleeped-<-.
Is he a normal guy who's okay with dating (see: in it for more than sex) transwomen as well as ciswomen? Sure if enough things are in common.

-AM

I wouldnt mind if he was a good guy

The odds of someone ever coming across one transwoman to date are pretty slim.

The odds of someone randomly coming across two are infinitessimal.

The odds that someone who has dated more than one transwoman is a creep... well, I'd bank on that.

Be careful out there.

Quote from: Jill F on February 06, 2014, 07:29:32 PM
The odds of someone ever coming across one transwoman to date are pretty slim.

The odds of someone randomly coming across two are infinitessimal.

The odds that someone who has dated more than one transwoman is a creep... well, I'd bank on that.

Be careful out there.

Oh I think that can be changed by a degree of factors.

Sure, in say Kansas, there's not going to be a lot of transwomen at your local pub, but if you live in say, oh I don't know, Trinidad CO, the odds are a little higher.

Large cities are going to increase your odds.  Specific bars or clubs. etc.

-AM

he lives in bush louisiana which is a very redneck place and he hangsout with a lot of guys that use to make fun of me in school and those guys know who I am. he says they wont bother me if im around him, but idk. I think he met those other transgenders on bourbon street

I can't say that I would be out off if I knew he had dated other trans girls before? Why should I be out off by it? Kinda feel like theirs some secret about it I don't know

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 06, 2014, 07:38:24 PM
he lives in bush louisiana which is a very redneck place and he hangsout with a lot of guys that use to make fun of me in school and those guys know who I am. he says they wont bother me if im around him, but idk. I think he met those other transgenders on bourbon street

The more you reveal about this situation the more I personally would be aware. Especially hanging out with people who use to taunt you.  Especially since you living as you are where before you were the same as them and they taunted you.

I think there's some obvious advantages in dating a man that has already been with a trans.  You don't have to have that awkward conversation for one.


-AM

I don't mean to sound alarmist . this could very well be just a case of a guy wanting to get to know you. then again given the circumstance there is the very remote possibility of the classic set up.

I don't think its a setup cause hes 31 and he has an 8 year old daughter and I doubt he would risk going to jail. Plus  I already told him that my mom wants to meet him wen he comes and picks me up and he said that that's fine.

 Idc. I just wanna feel loved.

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I shall ban for this.

im probably out of the norm on this one but this whole ->-bleeped-<- chasing fear or revusion or whatever is just annoying. its like being afraid to date someone with racial preferences outside the norm.

the whole redneck thing is what throws me for a loop.

i mean seriously. redneck white man who hangs out with redneck white men dates trans woman from the same hometown (based on what you said) and assures that 'they wont bother you'

that would terrify me