It went very well! She told me she feels like a bigot being okay with other people crossdressing but when it's your husband, the man you love comes out as a crossdresser and feeling weird and freaked out about it. She told me that it's going to take her some time for her to get comfortable with me wearing some things like ladies' shirts, skirts, dresses, shoes and makeup. Nails, leggings (nylons, tights, capris), undies, socks, she's completely okay with (thank goodness!).

She also set some boundaries for me to follow: No crossdressing at our daughter's school events for fear that our daughter would be bullied or teased over the fact that her daddy dresses like a lady. No crossdressing around town or locally - we live in a very small town and most of the population are republicans so she wouldn't like it if we became a target. I may dress up for appointments and friend gatherings and group meetings (I'm in a state-wide interest group) and maybe family gatherings (MY family, not her's.).

Feels like such a weight's been lifted from my shoulders. It's good to have an open discussion about these things.

Oh, she's also set a limit as to what colors I can do my nails in. No overly feminine reds, pinks or anything "loud", brilliant or flashy. Keep it subtle. Same with lipstick, lip gloss and liner.

Thanks so much for reading and your continued support and kindness!

I would count that as a win. A conversation in which you both know how far is OK so that you don't pass the limit and what seems to me, to be reasonable limits, especially for her early on in your endeavors.

I love my KAT, but a caution.

Once the genie is out of her vase, there are no boundaries.

Wonderfull. feel blessed that You are able to make progress.

sleepwear? What is this?

guess it depends on whether you are a nighty type person, or a birthday suit type person.

I cam out to my wife 16 years ago.  She has become more comfortable with my dressing at home, but there will always be some boundaries that make her uncomfortable.  Over the years the boundaries have become more flexible.  Just remember to keep talking and listening to one another.

The important is that the two of you are communicating and that is good. Something is better than nothing.
In time she may accept your dressing totally.

Congratulations Michelle... It really is a great victory, as the Kat said ...

The reconciliation of the Crossdressing thoughts for those who are married, must be based on the following question: "To what extent my Crossdressing causes discord in my family?" ... I say this because in my house is the same situation, my wife and daughter know, but I have to find ways not to interfere in their lives.

Thanks for your comment   ...

Quote from: Cindy on January 04, 2014, 03:28:23 AM
Once the genie is out of her vase, there are no boundaries.

OMG this times infinity!!!

Kinda came to a head the other night. See, when she she gets a few glasses of wine in her, it's really the only time I'm able t get any action because when she's sober, she's very seldom in the mood but when she has so mush as a glass of wine, she's ready to go - as sad as that may sound.

She saw that I was wearing lace panties under my leggings which completely and utterly turned her off. I went on the defensive stating that she really thinks I'm A woman and that she thinks the clothes I choose to wear really does make me a woman. We argued and fought. I broke down crying because of some daytime talkshow where the wives of crossdressing men were so proud of them and I started thinking no one's ever been proud of me.

I don't think she'll ever accept it.

I might have missed it, but have you sought out a therapist? It sounds a little to me that you might not be a cross dresser, but could have some Gender Dysphoria going on. This is just my two cents though. It just sounds to me you are progressing towards being Transgendered. You seem to have a compulsion and desire to be female and I don't mean just part time. I am with Cindy, it sounds like the Genie is coming out of Pandora's box. If I am wrong sorry I brought it up, it's just an outsider observation. Please don't hold it against me if I am wrong or out of line suggesting this.

I think you need some compromise between your wife and you.

As a crossdresser for more than 10 years, I now think I managed well to sustain my family while enjoying my life, at least partially. My family members generally understand and accept my wearing women's dresses and shoes very well. The same is true for my colleagues and students at my work place.

In my case, I avoid wearing too bold women's fashion items at home, such as skirts, tube tops, high heels and fishnet stockings. My little daughter ransack my chest to see weather I wear bra or not. My wife especially dislikes my wearing tube top, but does not care about my heels and skirts. Even she wears my own skirts.

At my work place, the level of my feminine appearance is the same as at home.

I wear skirts and heels when I meet people outside of my house and workplace. This is a kind of compromise to maintain my family and professional relationships while expressing my personal desire.

If my wife hates my wearing something, I would avoid it at home. Fortunately, my wife does not care weather I wear bra or not. And she knows everything I wear, as she washes all of my clothes for me. She knows that I keep and sometimes wear fishnets and tube tops outside of home. It is OK for her as long as I do not wear them at home. My kids are OK for my wearing thongs.

When I visit the school of my kids, I tend to wear very conservatively, but my long hair alone makes a small fuss among the kids there.

barbie~~

I am not tending towards being transgender. I am a male. I don't dislike being a man in any way. I like having a penis and do not wish I had breasts and a vagina nor do I wish I could experience childbirth. I am a male who finds comfort and security and some sense of beauty in wearing women's clothing. Noting else.

My wife, the woman I have sworn my heart to hates overly feminine dress being worn by me. I will abide, albeit reluctantly to my wife's boundaries and guidelines.

As for therapy, I was seeing a counselor but she was entirely clueless on most of the topicsI brought to her. I am seeking a replacement.

Sure, I have a feminie side, I like pink and wear lacy undergarments...I also like to fix engines and watch porn.

Quote from: Michelleisadude on February 10, 2014, 11:39:30 AM
I am not tending towards being transgender. I am a male. I don't dislike being a man in any way. I like having a penis and do not wish I had breasts and a vagina nor do I wish I could experience childbirth. I am a male who finds comfort and security and some sense of beauty in wearing women's clothing. Noting else.

My wife, the woman I have sworn my heart to hates overly feminine dress being worn by me. I will abide, albeit reluctantly to my wife's boundaries and guidelines.

As for therapy, I was seeing a counselor but she was entirely clueless on most of the topicsI brought to her. I am seeking a replacement.

Sure, I have a feminie side, I like pink and wear lacy undergarments...I also like to fix engines and watch porn.

Yes. You are like me. A difference is that I enjoy watching myself instead of porn  .

barbie~~

Quote from: LordKAT on January 05, 2014, 03:07:44 PM
guess it depends on whether you are a nighty type person, or a birthday suit type person.

During the summer, I am a birthday suit person.

Quote from: gennee on February 23, 2014, 05:04:28 PM
During the summer, I am a birthday suit person.