I came out to my girlfriend a while ago that I cross dress and later came out that I have some trans feelings and that I'm bigender. She is ok with me dressing up but she voiced that she loves my guy mode way more. And that she is not attracted to my girl mode.

When I let my girl side come out a bit in guy mode (say a thing a woman would say, like, "yeah, guys act stupid when it comes to sports" she has this look on her face that screams "Dude, stop being girly" but she doesn't tell it.

Another aspect is when I do dressed up in the past, and involved her. I was so excited by it that I couldn't hide my big smile on my face. Dressing up mostly came up in the bedroom. Afterwards, directly or a couple of days later, she breaks down and starts saying things like, "I think you should find a bi girlfriend so you can be whoever you want to be." or "I think you would be more happy being a girl than a boy".

All of these reactions of her made me kinda repulsed by the idea of showing my girl side to her. Every time i'm Serenity around her, it usually ended up in a weird aftermatch of her being sad.

I think I'm slowly crawling back into the closet. I'm happy just dressing up on my own in private. Yes I wish she would love it for me to be a girl but that is not the reality. I rather play in the closet than be restricted and have to tip toe to make sure I don't look too happy as a girl when I'm doing it with her.

Yes. It is wise to slow down your change to feminity. If you find any specific thing she abhor, Then stop it for a while until she can accept it.

Barbie~~

Yeah, it's not easy. It doesn't get easier. I'm trying very hard to keep my relationship together. Just keep talking and be prepared for a lot of crying and difficult conversations.

You need to look at it from her side. She is a female who wants a relationship with a man. Maybe for both of your sakes you consider the issues before you progress down this path.

If you are TG you will not be able to 'hide', at some time you are both going to have to face that. If it is early in the relationship maybe you should consider if that is really the best for her future and for your future.

It does sound as if she doesn't consider a lesbian relationship as one she wants in her life.

Sorry. Nothing in this journey is easy.

If only it were.

Quote from: Cindy on February 12, 2014, 02:06:59 AM
You need to look at it from her side. She is a female who wants a relationship with a man. Maybe for both of your sakes you consider the issues before you progress down this path.

If you are TG you will not be able to 'hide', at some time you are both going to have to face that. If it is early in the relationship maybe you should consider if that is really the best for her future and for your future.

It does sound as if she doesn't consider a lesbian relationship as one she wants in her life.

Sorry. Nothing in this journey is easy.

If only it were.

This = truth.

And yes, this is how it goes. No, it is not easy.

My wife is OK for my wearing skirt. But, mostly I do not wear skirts at home, because of my kids.

Today I wore a miniskirt under my long red coat, but changed to short pants at home.
I was a little bit relieved as my little daughter did not raise my coat at the door of my house.
She usually ransacks me when returning home.

barbie~~