Hello everyone! I already introduced myself over in the Androgyne talk area but I thought I'd do it here as well.
I'm Jack! I'm 28, and live in Minnesota with my husband and our cats. I recently went through a number of massive life overhauls (lost over 70 pounds, confronted myriad fears, changed my entire style and aspects of my personality to align with the person I want to be) that allowed me to finally open the "gender confusion" box I'd hidden in the back of my mind my entire life. A few months of discussion with friends and judicious use of google and tumblr, and I came to realize, hey, I'm androgyne! Neat! That explains a lot!
So I recently started the process of changing my name (most of my friends now know me as Jack, but at work and with my mother I'm still my birth name, and I can't afford a legal change anytime soon). I've wanted the name Jack since I was six years old, but always assumed it just wasn't something I could have, like the male sex characteristics I've also wanted since I was little. With a lot of help from my friends and husband, I've accepted that I deserve to be called a name that fits me and is comfortable for me.
I'm probably going to seek out a therapist soon, once I figure out how to find someone genderqueer-friendly, since there's a lot of things I'd like to discuss and work out still, but for now I'm pretty happy in the life I've made for myself. My friends are universally supportive and I feel incredibly lucky. Someday I'll have to figure out what to tell my mother and extended family, but for now I'm comfortable where I am.
Glad I found this forum, and excited to talk with you all!
