I enjoy being a man in every day life, but in order to be intimate, or sexually aroused, I need to dress as a woman, and picture myself as a woman with a woman. I don't want to be a woman any other time, just for these reasons. Do any of you feel this way?
I'm not interested in the naked body at all either. When my wife and I are intimate, I prefer her to keep her dress on (the one I request her to wear). I've told her about myself, but she is repulsed by it, so I just keep it secret. I'm larger now, so I rarely dress any more, but I found myself getting addicted to lesbian kissing web sites, and now am trying to stay away from those because they were consuming me. I have so many questions, and have been posting all over these forums in hopes I can find some men who can relate to what I'm saying. I think I'm adhearing to the guidlines of the group with my posts, if I'm not, I'm truly sorry!

Quote from: Dana on August 08, 2007, 12:07:09 PM
I enjoy being a man in every day life, but in order to be intimate, or sexually aroused, I need to dress as a woman, and picture myself as a woman with a woman. I don't want to be a woman any other time, just for these reasons. Do any of you feel this way?

i don't, yet i'm certain that many here feel that way.  i dress as a woman because i'm a woman.

Thank you for your reply. From the lack of replies, I guess I really am 'different'!

I dress as a woman because I enjoy it. Ever since I tried on my wife's skirt a couple of years ago, I discovered a side of me that was ready to come out. I feel so complete, liberated, and content.

Gennee 

Because it'd be a shame to let all my beautiful clothes hang in the closet unused 

Seriously though, I don't dress up much any more, it's more about accepting who I am inside, regardless of clothing.

Zythyra

Because I want to.

Because it feels "right".

I like they way they feel.  I like the way they make me look.  I like the way they show off my shaved legs and painted nails in a way that just doesn't work with regular men's clothes.

Since my normal everyday attire (outside of the office) is a scoop-neck T-shirt, jeans shorts and sandals, (It's summer in Texas, give me a break), does that really constitute "dressing up"?  Dresses, hose and heels are generally reserved for special occasions, although I am thinking I need to start wearing them more.

......Laurry 

Quote from: Dana on August 10, 2007, 08:37:32 AM
Thank you for your reply. From the lack of replies, I guess I really am 'different'!

Dana,
You may not be so different.  Each of us is just a little different.  Many crossdressers experience some degree of sexual stimulation from dressing.  And then again, many do not.  We dress for various reasons, some of which may be reasons that we ourselves are not aware of.

I dress as a woman because it is fun.  In the immortal words of Vida Boheme (Patrick Swayze) in To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything Julie Newmar, "I have too much fashion sense for one sex."

My wife told me I don't have to hide it but we never made love with me being dressed like a woman. On the other hand .... I am perhaps not supposed to tell this here ... but I can't get excited if I didn't first stimulate her like a lesbian would .... and if she would do the same to me it would block me completely.

Dana,

Just wanted you to know that you are not different - there are many of us who have felt the way you felt.

Alice

im still trying to understand that question myself , innocently , i tried on some lingerei when i was about 15, and found i loved the feeling , i dont feel so guilty about now as i am more mature to deal with this side of my persona and accept that lingerei does turn me on aswell as other items i have thought about wearing ,finding a understanding partner is not so easy as i have found as i see myself as a loving person who has a lot to offer to the right woman, so for now ,im quite  ok with my  situation  and hopefully all will turn out well

I dress as a woman because I  feel more like a woman than a man.
I relate better to women.
I would rather wear women's clothes than men;s because they are more exciting and prettier.
A dress is more comfortable than a pair of boring pants.
Becky

I started just for fun (@ 9-10), maybe I don't thinking at all what was that I'm doing, but I need it.

Then I felt sexual aroused for quiet sometime.

But from my early 20's I realise that is not enough for me.

I was different from the others of my gender, (OHHH MY!!) I WAS MORE FEMALE THAN MALE (I think 80% at most!!!) and from then, that goes more and more to fem side. I wake up one day and my male was probably gone.

It was a very strange and interesting inner metamorphosis!!! A butterfly was born!!!

So, there are many different kinds of categories some are Cd's (with various motives on that) some TS, Transgenders.

Dont try to categorize u r self. It is a minus detail.

Just....Enjoy that you are.

It was something that I had done since I was in my early teens.  I was dressing up solely for the sexual arousal I got from the feminine image of myself.  I started experimenting with different looks and styles I was able to pilfer from my Mom's and older sisters' wardrobe, and I started elevating crossdressing to an art form.  I had created a complete inner satisfying sexual identity in my head, but I was and am still unable to express to any of my friends and family.

As I get older the visceral arousal I get from crossdressing has diminshed, and it is just something I do to express myself sexually and artistically.       

When I am intimate with my wife I can not get excited unless I make love to her the way lesbians would do.  It simply doesn't go otherwise. Why ? I don't know. One girlfriend I had once asked me "Do you really enjoy that ? " Because it looks like I don't get anything while she does but that is not so for me. And when she would return the 'favour' it blocks me immediatly.

Last time I put off her sleeping dress and I put it on myself and it excited me in a way I didn't experience before.

I don't know why i do what I do. My wife told me she doesn't feel attracted to women, that means also if I would be a woman. On the other hand she also told me several times already she likes ->-bleeped-<-s.

 

  I dated a lady who asked me to wear panties once, it was just a kinky thing for her, but it felt good to me.
Then when I told a later lady about it, she got quite interested, and asked me to do it for her.  Each time we were together my dressing escalated.  She was enjoying it very much and so was I.  We are still together, and I enjoy dressing with her.

Quote from: Kaeren on November 26, 2007, 01:18:54 PM
My wife told me she doesn't feel attracted to women, that means also if I would be a woman. On the other hand she also told me several times already she likes ->-bleeped-<-s.

I have heard this one before.  After much discussion and truth digging, what that means is (at least in my case) that she likes the idea, and has no issues with it, but it doesn't turn her on.

My advise,
You have 2 options.
a.) Dress up and get Dominant with her, ie be the macho male but still dressed. (this shows that you can still be the "guy" even in a corset)
b.) Just be a the masculine guy frequently enough for her not to get bothered by it.   Believe me, if you let it stagnate, she will.

In either case, do what you would do as far as pleasing her is concerned.  Then it solidifies in her mind that you really do enjoy that.

Sometimes telling a woman the sky is blue isnt enough for them.  Especially when your wearing a dress, its hard to accept things for what they are when they know otherwise.

You look cool going out for the first time. Where / how did you get the tits ? 

I really would like to have those boots I saw recently.

I have some strategy with my wife. She doesn't unlike it but she told me I shouldn't go too far in being eccentric. My strategy is too please her more when I'm dressed. Like giving her a really long massage or so. Then she will think, "When he's dressed I get something extra also."

About being the dominant male guy.  I don't want to get anybody angry but women really do have a difficult state of mind.  Men are much more easy. Yesterday I went to my mother before going home after work. And my mother made some chicken pieces. So I ate there ... a bit ... but I lost my appetite because of it. Then when I came home, I didn't eat anymore but she had done the work already. ............. You have no idea ....... it was rice with something out of a box ( microwave stuff ), it was work but not that much. But I had to hear it all evening. I said I wasn't going to eat by force or so if I'm not hungry anymore. It's like I make fresh orange juice and then she doesn't want to drink it and I start making a fight like "You don't appreciate me .... "

My boss, there she is again, once told me "Do I have to do bravo or so each time you do something ?" She also told me she is not of the "sugary"-kind. And she's not, it's true. She's a beast looking like an angel but make no mistake, ... she truly is an ANIMAL.

... but I'm a pussy I'm afraid, I really am a pussy. A softy, sensitive. You know I threw up looking at Michael Moore's Sicko movie. In the beginning of the movie he showed a guy who cut of his fingers. Nothing was really seen but it made me sick. I went out of the movie theater and as soon as I got out everything came out. I had the same with "The last samurai" when they all get killed by automatic machine guns.

Kaeren.

I work at home and find that I work much better in a female attire. I am by my self so being different leaves behind all the other things of life and lets me concentrate on what needs to be done it also lets me do things alongside my job such as the washing that my male self whould not consider

Kay

IF you mean "easy" running away from confrontation, or
acting in a passive aggressive way; I can't say I agree men are
easier to deal with.
Men often hide how they really feel about something
so on the outside, all seems well, until the ->-bleeped-<- hits the fan.
Women if put in difficult situaitions will be neurotic every day about it,
men will hold it in episodically act crazy.

Maybe people in general are difficult.  Thinking about myself, it is true. I am in peace for a very long time and then comes the big bang.  Sometimes I'm ready to break the windows. Time to get some physical activity ...

Once every year or so there is an explosion.  And when this happens it is not nice at all.  What is better ? ONE big bang every year or a smaller mess every week ?

When looking at the members of this forum once somebody did a lot of posts you see a waveform in the statistics area. Big bangs only are there for beginners.

Why am I such a mess ?