To all my pre-transition sisters.

If your unsure if your trans, or just confused I want you to do a test.

This test helped me finally realize that I am a woman who was stuck inside of the wrong body. And I want to help as many of you reach realization as possible.

First a small bit of back story about where I was before I did my "test".

I was depressed, confused, sad, and at times angry about myself. Maybe it was just the idea that I felt different from the rest of the "normal" population that got to me. I felt alone in my struggle of "identity crisis". I could never reach realization, I would just tell myself that I was a guy and that it would never change.

So one day I was at the store, I happened to walk by the women's clothing section. I don't know what it was (I like to think it was my inner woman) but something told me to buy a pair of panties. Once I had chosen the panties, I felt like I needed a bra to match. So I grabbed a bra, after that I decided I may as well get some stockings too.I figured why stop there and bought me a really cute dress to complete the set. At this point I don't even remember what I was going across the store to get, because I was so excited to get home and try everything on that I had just strait up forgotten.

I rushed home, unloaded my stuff, went upstairs, took a shower, (I wanted to feel clean), locked my bedroom door and tried everything on. And that was it, I had reached my breakthrough. I knew the instant I had everything on that I wanted my true body to come out and fill those clothes. Some could say that im just a cross dresser, but I have to disagree. My thrill didn't come from putting on clothes of the "opposite sex", it came from my true desire to be a woman. As I stood there looking at myself in the mirror I could just imagine having a bust to fill that bra and dress, I wanted my hips to curve delicately with the panties, I wanted my legs to look cute in those stockings.

I had never even thought of getting married or being in a committed relationship that much before, but in that moment I wanted a husband who would appreciate my true form, who could look at me in that cute dress and those silky stockings, and find comfort in knowing that I was his wife and I would be there for him for any reason.

It just felt.. right.

I felt like I had just put on my first true set of clothes in my entire life, and everything else I had been wearing was just something to hide from the world.

I want all of you who are unsure if you really are transsexual, to go to your local store and buy some clothes, some really girly clothes. (it doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, just feminine) I want you to go home and try them on. See how you feel wearing those clothes, does it make you uncomfortable? Or have you never been more comfortable in your entire life. This helped me make my breakthrough, and I really feel like it could help others in theirs!

Just fyi. I would look at some sizing charts to find your actual sizes in everything, even though it felt wonderful the bra was just way too small for me! 

And if you ever have a question please don't hesitate to ask me anything! I have 2 jobs so I work alot but I respond to everything that is asked of me to the full extent of my ability. If I don't answer right away don't worry I am not ignoring your questions, nor am I ignoring you, im just a very busy gal. And if you want to keep it private that's cool too, I don't recommend it since the other ladies on here may have even better answers that I, but if you want to I will gladly have a private talk with you! <3

Also if anyone reading this knows of anyone who is having a difficult time discovering themselves that is not on Susan's Place, I urge you to share my story as much as you want.
I love helping out my fellow sisters AND brothers in finding their true selves!

What you're talking about is pretty much exactly what happened for me. Whenever I dress in female clothes (which is pretty often at home, and I wear female underwear everywhere), it just feels very -right-. It's not sexual at all, or anything like that. In fact 'down there' is very quiet when I dress, do my nails, makeup, etc. I also get enjoyment picking out new girl clothes. It all just feels so right.

I'd say it's a good test of whether you're trans or not.

Quote from: ath on February 15, 2014, 11:55:30 PM
What you're talking about is pretty much exactly what happened for me. Whenever I dress in female clothes (which is pretty often at home, and I wear female underwear everywhere), it just feels very -right-. It's not sexual at all, or anything like that. In fact 'down there' is very quiet when I dress, do my nails, makeup, etc. I also get enjoyment picking out new girl clothes. It all just feels so right.

I'd say it's a good test of whether you're trans or not.

I had a feeling like I wasn't the only one out there that had this experience, and I know what you mean, I have folders upon folders filled with pictures and URL's of the things I want to buy when I am finally able to transition!

Quote from: EmmaK on February 16, 2014, 12:03:22 AM
I had a feeling like I wasn't the only one out there that had this experience, and I know what you mean, I have folders upon folders filled with pictures and URL's of the things I want to buy when I am finally able to transition!

I've got some new feminine glasses picked out that I -really- like. I'm just waiting a couple months until I have my yearly optometrist appointment, so I can get them with my new prescription.

Quote from: ath on February 16, 2014, 12:10:57 AM
I've got some new feminine glasses picked out that I -really- like. I'm just waiting a couple months until I have my yearly optometrist appointment, so I can get them with my new prescription.

I haven't been glasses shopping yet, but I have tons of cute dresses and other stuff ive looked over.

But besides that, its so nice to hear that this method worked in helping you discover your true self! Im glad to hear it!

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on February 16, 2014, 04:21:35 AM
Nice story . But it would not work if one was rather tomboy-ish than girly- type, would it?

No I suppose it wouldn't, still its worth a try I suppose.

A word of warning though.  You may want to avoid looking too hard in the mirror if your super depressed... I found femme clothes only highlighted my male features.  It can trigger dysphoria.  Stick to wearing if that is the case- don't reject dressing and dump the clothes.  Just cover the mirrors and enjoy the relaxation that comes from expressing your truth.

After awhile the male clothes you have will gross you out so be prepared to buy whole new wardrobes. I've been buying a lot of girl only and unisex women's clothes up past couple months.

Quote from: Emmaline on February 16, 2014, 06:45:15 AM
A word of warning though.  You may want to avoid looking too hard in the mirror if your super depressed... I found femme clothes only highlighted my male features.  It can trigger dysphoria.  Stick to wearing if that is the case- don't reject dressing and dump the clothes.  Just cover the mirrors and enjoy the relaxation that comes from expressing your truth.

I agree with this entirely, don't concern yourself with how you look in them, just put everything on and relax. This isn't to cause you to dislike what you see in the mirror, because if you really are Trans then you will hate what you see.(I know I did the first time) Instead focus on the comfort in brings you to wear the clothes you were meant to wear!

Quote from: KittyKat on February 16, 2014, 08:20:13 AM
After awhile the male clothes you have will gross you out so be prepared to buy whole new wardrobes. I've been buying a lot of girl only and unisex women's clothes up past couple months.

I cant even wear men's underwear anymore, I also wear stockings under my pants to help me feel more comfortable while im having to continue to pass off being a man.
I wear a bra when I can, but usually its alot more easy to see compared to the underwear because of its defined shapes, so I don't usually bother unless im at home.
When I AM at home I try to wear all girly things even if I don't need to be dressed up, ill relax im a summer dress or skirt and blouse usually all day.

Quote from: EmmaK on February 16, 2014, 12:24:49 PM
I cant even wear men's underwear anymore, I also wear stockings under my pants to help me feel more comfortable while im having to continue to pass off being a man.
I wear a bra when I can, but usually its alot more easy to see compared to the underwear because of its defined shapes, so I don't usually bother unless im at home.
When I AM at home I try to wear all girly things even if I don't need to be dressed up, ill relax im a summer dress or skirt and blouse usually all day.

I wear my bra all the time going out and eye liner . I need a nice blouse and skirt though

I think this test may be helpful to those struggling with finding themselves and can be an important piece of the puzzle, but I feel it may have its downfalls in some situations.  Even if someone enjoys dressing and expirmenting with their feminine side, that doesn't necessarily say whether a permenet solution like transition would be beneficial.  In fact, someone could be transgender in some form without being a transexual or needing to take dressing to a higher level.  So, this test may be a good way to measure how one feels to a degree, but it shouldn't be used as a standalone test to determine whether or not to transition.  I just want to throw that out there because we all have a different path and transitioning may not be the answer for everyone even if they are trans in some form or degree.  Again, im not saying this test doesnt have its merits, I just think judging who you are from aesthetics alone has the potential of being problematic.  Sure it can play a role in determining how you wish to appear and be seen which is obviously very important to transexuals, but knowing what's on the inside and discovering what one wants is most important, imo.  Therefore, I'd agree that this may help those who are confused but I'd hope they wouldn't overlook self introspection and their inner feelings that aren't related to appearances or dressing.

Quote from: learningtolive on February 16, 2014, 01:41:58 PM
I think this test may be helpful to those struggling with finding themselves and can be an important piece of the puzzle, but I feel it may have its downfalls in some situations.  Even if someone enjoys dressing and expirmenting with their feminine side, that doesn't necessarily say whether a permenet solution like transition would be beneficial.  In fact, someone could be transgender in some form without being a transexual or needing to take dressing to a higher level.  So, this test may be a good way to measure how one feels to a degree, but it shouldn't be used as a standalone test to determine whether or not to transition.  I just want to throw that out there because we all have a different path and transitioning may not be the answer for everyone even if they are trans in some form or degree.  Again, im not saying this test doesn't have its merits, I just think judging who you are from aesthetics alone has the potential of being problematic.  Sure it can play a role in determining how you wish to appear and be seen which is obviously very important to transsexuals, but knowing what's on the inside and discovering what one wants is most important, imo.  Therefore, I'd agree that this may help those who are confused but I'd hope they wouldn't overlook self introspection and their inner feelings that aren't related to appearances or dressing.

Agreed, this test isn't a "yes or no" test, you wont put on panties after only one week of thought and *snap* like that and realization just hits you like slap to the face, this is just something that helped me break through my final wall. If it helps others as well then that would be awesome. But like I said I agree, you cant just pick up some feminine clothes and BAM you realize your a transsexual.

Id like to note that I was fighting with myself for most of my life on if I was transsexual or not before I did this.

This isn't a cure all answer, but it may help some of those who are having some doubts on if they should transition or not.
If your having a really hard time trying to figure yourself out, please go to a trans friendly therapist and do some sessions, they are qualified and know how to help you!

And please don't take my response as a upset reply learningtolive, I totally agree with what you said!

Quote from: EmmaK on February 16, 2014, 01:58:14 PM
Agreed, this test isn't a "yes or no" test, you wont put on panties after only one week of thought and *snap* like that and realization just hits you like slap to the face, this is just something that helped me break through my final wall. If it helps others as well then that would be awesome. But like I said I agree, you cant just pick up some feminine clothes and BAM you realize your a transsexual.

Id like to note that I was fighting with myself for most of my life on if I was transsexual or not before I did this.

This isn't a cure all answer, but it may help some of those who are having some doubts on if they should transition or not.
If your having a really hard time trying to figure yourself out, please go to a trans friendly therapist and do some sessions, they are qualified and know how to help you!

And please don't take my response as a upset reply learningtolive, I totally agree with what you said!

Oh I agree with what you are saying.  I just don't want anyone to take this as a standalone thing because I feel transitioning is a major decision and should only be pursued if needed or heavily desired.   However, dressing/experimenting can be a way to help discover or learnmore about how one feels on the inside, so that I can agree with. 

Quote from: learningtolive on February 16, 2014, 02:12:27 PM
Oh I agree with what you are saying.  I just don't want anyone to take this as a standalone thing because I feel transitioning is a major decision and should only be pursued if needed or heavily desired. However, dressing/experimenting can be a way to help discover or learn more about how one feels on the inside, so that I can agree with.

Agreed, this is just a way to help you discover you, but its not THE WAY, because there is not actual WAY. Deciding if your transsexual or if you want to transition is by far one of the biggest choices a person can make in their life, its a lifelong commitment and you will have to take it with the ups and the downs that follow.

DO NOT make this the only thing you try out to make your decision, the only person that can decide who you really are is yourself!