so recently i have been debating the whole relationship situation for myself, i am full blooded lesbian and probably won't get over the gag reflex i get when i smell dude, the only problem is that i am so scared of lesbians, i feel like the ugly duckling and that they will just wave me away like i am beneath them, as you can tell i have barely any experience with meeting lesbians and have never been able to chat with them,

i am just scared to attempt to date a lesbian because i am afraid of telling her that i am trans and her getting angry with me, i think i just need to make some friends that are lez and try to understand their opinions on transwomen, i was wondering if any other ladies here could give me some insight into how lesbians view transwomen

I don't know but, I'm guessing if that's where your headed the best thing would probably go to the lesbian bars and sit and wait or talk to someone siting next to you

I have a group of lesbian friends. I can tell you, at least with my experience, they accept us fully. I have been accepted with no conditions attached. They think it so funny that I am so feminine though. I got a hard time today for being so fussy with my makeup, but they think it is so cute. You will be pleasantly surprised how welcome you feel in their company. I have been friends with two of them for over 25 years. They were some of my biggest supporters when I made the decision to transition. This has been my experience though.

I find that the gay's are my best friends. I go to a church that is predominately gay, and I have made a few lesbian friends. I cherish them all; they have been far better friends to me than the "friends" I had when I was a boy. Just last night I was at one of their houses having dinner and it was fun, and I met some new people that will be my friends.

Maybe your approach to this is not quite right? I've found that the people that I wind up dating I was friends with before, and the relationship grew from there. So maybe you should take the pressure off and focus on just making friends and let nature take it's course from there.

Kiara, from your avatar photo I have to say that you won't have any issues finding a woman to date you. I think you are quite beautiful, and look very feminine. Also, most lesbians want a relationship with a woman, not her genitals, so you don't have to worry about that aspect much either.

As i always say do not forget about our pre or post sisters. Many of them feel the same way about Men and wish to be with another female.

I have found mixed feelings among the lesbian community. Some get it and others have not a clue and see the old. Anyway you have your own idea of the person you wish to be with. Go after what you want and do not look back.

Lots of luck Sis
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Isabell

Quote from: Eva Marie on February 16, 2014, 09:15:20 PM
I find that the gay's are my best friends. I go to a church that is predominately gay, and I have made a few lesbian friends. I cherish them all; they have been far better friends to me than the "friends" I had when I was a boy. Just last night I was at one of their houses having dinner and it was fun, and I met some new people that will be my friends.

Maybe your approach to this is not quite right? I've found that the people that I wind up dating I was friends with before, and the relationship grew from there. So maybe you should take the pressure off and focus on just making friends and let nature take it's course from there.

i agree i need to make some lesbian friends and just focus on being friends with women, i just get so flustered when i try to talk to women, there so intimidating

Quote from: Brooke777 on February 16, 2014, 09:20:16 PM
Kiara, from your avatar photo I have to say that you won't have any issues finding a woman to date you. I think you are quite beautiful, and look very feminine. Also, most lesbians want a relationship with a woman, not her genitals, so you don't have to worry about that aspect much either.

i really hope that is what i experience, one of the reasons that i find women so much more attractive than men is that you know she truly appreciates you for who you are and not what you are, or have down there that turns them on

Quote from: kiara jamie on February 16, 2014, 10:02:52 PM
i really hope that is what i experience, one of the reasons that i find women so much more attractive than men is that you know she truly appreciates you for who you are and not what you are, or have down there that turns them on

I'm sure you will hon. Just be patient. In my experience, dating women as a women involves quite a bit of waiting compared to dating men. I find that other women don't like to make the first move, as I don't either it seems to take a while before a relationship starts.

You're cute. I'd date you.

From what I've heard from my trans friends who are into girls is that it can be a challenge to meet somebody. My best guess is that you'll need to hang in gay bars and get to know people for a while till you have enough options. At least that's what I would do, if I was trying to date you.

You should just date bi girls or other ->-bleeped-<-s is my suggestion. My sister and her gf are gay and I doubt they'd date a pre OP MtF tbh. I'm just being real. Bi women will be more open and they're a dime a dozen.

I make a policy to only date at least semi bi guys just cuz I want that safety net. And honestly I prefer a guy to like my dick, cuz it's probably not going anywhere. I don't need to be with a straight guys and made to feel insecure. Same with you imho.