So I ended up Anulling my marriage this week. The result is me doing whatever I want, when I want, and enjoying it. So much so that the idea of dating or being tied down by any kind of relationship (including having pets) makes me cringe a little. I don't really wanna be with a guy, and I'm just done with women because they've demonstrated that they're indecisive and crazy when it comes to me (the whole "you're such a hot guy! why would you change that!? I'll change you!" thing gets pretty old). There's so much wrapped up in genitalia...

Anywho, I like being single, and I enjoy the occasional cuddles from friends. No desire for a relationship though. Honestly, I'd like to keep it this way. I would like to just live in a hole in the wall with my food/entertainment, and then just hang out with friends whenever and wherever. When I wanna be alone, I'll go back to my hole in the wall and "disappear" for a while.

Anyone else live like this? I love it!

My divorce should be final soon and I do not regret it at all. I totally get what you are saying! It is nice to live on your own with no accountability or judgment. I have the freedom now to go where I want and be with who I want to be. Someday (much later) I would like to find a nice guy who loves me to settle down with, but right now I have 40 years of repressed Jessica to let live and experience a whole new world free of depression and all the other stuff we deal with. Go girl!

How do you do it, I'm so lonely. Only the occasional (and i mean once every other month). I know the feeling with girls though, i used to be a magnet until hrt. Now important a reversed polarity magnet. Well, all i can say is stay happy for yourself and don't forget.

Lots of people don't commit, Alyssa. There's nothing wrong with that. No one says you have to be in a relationship.

Further, it is my belief that when we come to terms with ourselves, when we become happy enough with ourselves that we can be alone and everything is still alright - then is when we become the best possible partner we can be for others. I'm not suggesting you change your mind later. I'm just saying that in becoming happy with yourself to where you do not need another in your life, you may create the conditions where someone else who is mature and self confident sees that and eventually seeks you out.

The most longstanding romances I know of are those between people who are also dear and good friends. So live the way you want! You may live that way your entire life, happily ever after. Or you may find yourself eventually ready for someone special in your life. But right now? Just do what you want to do and enjoy yourself and your life.

Right on, Jessica!

Evelyn, I was divorced in 2012, and experienced a super lonely time in my life. It was 3 months of "omg no one loves me" and I was just beginning to come to terms with the fact that I just might be more than a crossdresser... dare I say... a woman??? So it was pretty bad, my best friend just abandoned me both physically and emotionally because a guy she liked told her to distance herself from me. It was TERRIBLE. So what did I do? I told myself I never wanted to be with anyone again after I'd divorced too. But after being abandoned and having no one all of a sudden like that, I clinged to whomever gave me any sort of attention. That person ended up being my second wife whom I married WAY too fast. A week before she moved in with me, I was saying to myself "You know... this life might turn out all right..." and then she moved in and it all went to hell. So now I'm alone again, remembering what's been happening for the past year and a half, and finding myself better off because I'm not subjecting myself to the torture of someone who loves me for something they saw, even though they committed to supporting me through my transition before the relationship even started. I know all people aren't bad, but right now, LIARS AND THIEVES. ALL OF THEM. lol.
So love... it's not for me. It may be for you, and I'm sure you'll find someone out there. Heck, if that's you in your profile pic, you're beautiful! You just gotta find that certain someone who clicks on the same level as you. Maybe I'll find someone like that too, sometime, but like... I donno. I just really don't want to deal with it at this point in my life.

LizMarie, I will be doing just what you said. I have my life, and my rules for living all laid out now, and I'm very happy. Sure there will be adjustments as time goes on, because these things take time. I'm still growing up as a person, and I'm figuring all this out. So now, in the future, if someone wants to spend their life with me, I won't be making any compromises. I spent my whole life doing what everyone else wants. I'm happier now than I've ever been

Quote from: WFane on February 17, 2014, 11:55:42 PM
I just really don't want to deal with it at this point in my life..... I'm still growing up as a person, and I'm figuring all this out...... So now, in the future, if someone wants to spend their life with me, I won't be making any compromises. I spent my whole life doing what everyone else wants.

I am heading down the road toward an inevitable divorce, and what you said is pretty much the way I feel at the moment. I am not interested in dating ANYONE right now, and I'll probably feel that way far into the future. Dating is just not on my radar - there is just too much going on in my life to make room for anyone else at the moment with my transition.

After being imprisoned in my own body for so long I feel like I owe it to myself to live, love and be free. I have paid my dues MANY times over. Now I feel no shame or guilt in living for me. It may sound selfish, of course, but there it is. Being free I want to travel and just have the ability to do what I want, when I want. I do actually have my first date as a woman this Saturday though. It will hopefully be fun and a new experience, but as for thinking of settling down, no way! A long term commitment is just not anywhere on the horizon for me right now. I was honest with him about this as well, so hopefully a friendship will develop anyway. You never can have enough friends.

  I just don't like a girl telling me to be what she wants. Thanks for the complement, kinda an old picture. I'll add a new one.

I really enjoy being single, seriously I never feel like I'm my own person when I'm in a relationship. Sure, I miss the intimate contact and being able to share myself with a special person, but obviously not enough to want to do anything about it! Had some sad news at work today and it would have been nice to have someone to hug at home instead of sobbing by myself. Oh well, that's my choice. That might change when I transition to fill time, I feel I'm more sociable in female mode than as a guy.