I have always been able to be friends with girls and find that they mainly seem to like my company but even when I was younger I was never able to go from friendship to a deeper relationship they all seemed to relate to me more like a girlfriend .So much so that After the breakup of my first Marriage I was regularly having my two children visiting and staying with me so i Joined a local single parent group (Gingerbread) and started to go to the meetings. I found that the mainly femail group made Me very welcome so much so that after a whilst they seemed to forget that I was a male and seemed to relate and talk to me as if I was a woman .The things they talked about shocked me at first .Soon I was invited on their girly night outs that was an eye opener I can tell you .One time they where doing a charity sponsered walk as Tarts and they decided that I was included so between them they got up an outfit for ME and dragged me out on the street with them .Well as you can well understand I was realy enjoying myself and I had many comments about that night for some time .I often wondered if they somehow felt or worked out that I was Transgendered long before I did .And related to my feminine side and not the masculine front I put up .What do you think .and has anybody had a similar experience

In guy mode I get along well with women, have even been regarded as an 'honorary woman' but still not completely one of the girls and likewise unable to form intimate relationships. I finally worked out that hetro cis women were likely to struggle with a relationship with a person who, on the surface, might  present as hetro cis male but was really gay trans female. Fair enough, they want a guy and I am anything but.

My first though is that you might come in for some flack for using the 'real girls' statement. People don't like the inference that they are not 'real'.

Quote from: Akira21 ♡♡♡ on February 19, 2014, 06:27:38 AM
My first though is that you might come in for some flack for using the 'real girls' statement. People don't like the inference that they are not 'real'.

sorry I had absolutely no intention of offending anybody at all .I am quite new to this forum and am not yet familiar with all the gender terms used .For me to think like you have looked at it would mean I dont think myself real and I can assure you I am more real as Anita then I am in My male mode . I see that Ms Grace used CIS Girls I will use this in future

Anita

Yes we do get along with girls easily...

but dont forget no matter how feminine you are , if you havent transitioned/came out you are still just a guy to them,,,

So many times did i befriended girls thinking that they dont see me as a guy only to find out that in their eyes I was just another gay guy friend not a girlfriend...

of course things change when you transition/presenting female...

Its sad cause I feel the same with every girl I meet ,,,yet im the only who sees it that way...
thats why I transition , cause im tired of living in cage...

Just saying, I wouldn't call cis-girls "Real" girls. That might imply that we're somehow "fake" girls. We're not.

And like others, I've always related to girls very well, honestly way, way, way better than I ever relate to guys. My best friends growing up through grade school were always girls. And then through middle school and high school when platonic friendships no longer became acceptable and thus I no longer had any female friends, I just felt constantly frustrated, like I had nobody to talk to and like nobody understood me. And now as an adult, most cis-women that I talk to I tend to really relate to on a deep level, where guys all too often just leave me rolling my eyes and wondering where those thoughts in their head come from, and why they act how they do. I socially come alive when I'm talking to women. It feels like I'm talking to my own kind, and I just feel like I relate and really form bonds with them that I can't with men, who frankly always feel like they're talking over me and not really listening.

yes lol everyone i know is a real girl, i don't really like men.

I have been adopted by a great group of cis girls. They treat me like one of their own because of respect I suppose. They know deep inside that I am a woman, birth defect and all. It feels so good to be with them and not have dating or relationships mess it all up. They are doing a very nice job of teaching me all about being a woman and it makes me feel special and totally accepted. The thing I love is when they are ranting on men no one looks my way. It is so cool! I am learning so much about female culture.

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on February 19, 2014, 05:03:16 PM
The thing I love is when they are ranting on men no one looks my way. It is so cool! I am learning so much about female culture.

I was so suprised by some of the things they say and think about blokes .It certainly opened My eye's to the insensativity that a lot of men show to women expecially if they are "on the pull " A lot of the women complained that blokes made them feel like a block of meat on a slab for their selection.not looking at their faces only from there chests down .I have seen it for myself and dont like it and try to never do that myself.

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I run into a few frumps here and there but mostly I tend to get along with most genetic women rather well 

In my previous life as a married guy I was excluded from female spaces entirely - women saw me as just another boring, married guy. I had interactions with women at work, and generally got along well with them, but there was a distance between me and them that I knew I'd never be able to span, and that I knew that it would not be appropriate to span.

Now that I'm changing sides of the fence, even in boy mode, women are starting to warm up to me, and to chat with me a lot more. Maybe they sense that something is going on with me, or maybe it's my recent more girl like behavior, or maybe it pheromones or something, but it's definitely happening. There is a woman at work that was pretty hostile to me when I first started working there, and she has very recently changed and is now one of the friendly, chattier women.

I find myself holding myself back in conversations with women just like a dude would do - old habits are hard to break. Recently I have been letting more and more of guy mode behavior go as my coming out date at work approaches. I wonder if people are noticing? *giggle*