Hello everybody, my names Skyler Marie and I'm pre everything mtf, and this is my first post of many on this website. I've been needing support and decided this would be the best place to find it (: this isn't the place to share my story so I'll save that for another time, but I digress. Is there anyone that is also pre everything that it can talk to? I really need a friend to get through each day because only one person knows right now, and she's great but doesn't go through what I go through so I still feel lonely.
Thanks in advance,
Sky (^~^)

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Hi Skyler Marie, I'm Kelly and I'm pre-everything, well cept for talking with a therapist, does that count? Sharing your story is a great way for others to get to know you and get some opinions and advice, but ya, it is a hard thing to talk about. Feel free to message me after you get 15 posts if you would like someone to talk to about stuff, I'll help if I can.

Hellooo Skyler
As you can see from my username my name is Annabelle ^^ I'm also pre-everything at the moment so feel free to talk :3 Everyone on Susans is also very supportive so talking to the girls who started hrt is also a good thing and you will learn quite a bit

Hello and welcome, Skyler. I'm a bit ashamed to admit that after 3 months I'm still pre-everything as well. I've got some girl's pj's and nail polish but that's about it. Honestly I'd love to be your friend. I'm not sure how much I can offer but I'm a good listener and am pretty knowledgeable on transitioning......I just can't actually get around to doing it myself. >.<

Quote from: Vyx405 on February 18, 2014, 02:05:50 AM
....I just can't actually get around to doing it myself. >.<

Haha I know what you mean Vyx405... I've been seeing a therapist for 6 months and "actively" dealing with my trans issues for well over a year and I'm still pre everything (stupid gate keeping doctor.....) But hey, what's the rush!! :-P

Anyway lovely to have you here Skyler. We are all happy to chat and be friends :-D xxx

I'm pre everything, as well. I'm starting hormones soon though, so I won't be pre everything for long. I already have my letter to see an endo, and an appointment set up.

I've also been working on my voice for a while.

If you'd like someone to talk to feel free to contact me. Like you, only one person in my life other than my therapist knows, although she is very supportive of me. So, we are kind of in the same boat.

Heya Skyler, if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here, i'm pre-everything and am young, a high schooler.

Haha, as with the above people, nice to meet you Skyler! And welcome!
<- also pre everything, though I have recently begun seeing a therapist. I agree that friends are great, but unless they've gone through something like this it's hard for them to understand. Feel free to message me as well!

Holy cow didn't think I'd get so many responses! Thanks everyone for the support! Vyx405 I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. No courage to tell anyone. Don't worry though one day we will both do it (: unlike some of you, I don't have a therapist although I was offered one for other reasons I would not yet like to talk about. I'll be sure to message all of you once I hit 15 posts! One question before I go, how did/do you gals keep from self-harm while dealing with dysphoria? It's getting harder for me and is even affecting my schooling.
Thanks again!
-Sky

Well I've been depressed for quite awhile I believe, gotten quite a bit worse of late, and definitely affects my life, schoolwork and work. Yesterday was a good example of this: after work was so depressed just wanted to sleep all day and not doing anything.

I don't self harm cuz I'm a sissy lol, I don't want any physical pain on top of that, don't like pain. As for death, I was raised Catholic but consider myself athiest now, but fear of it keeps that from being an option. I don't believe in heaven/hell but if I'm wrong guess where I'd go; but I don't believe in any afterlife either, so I believe that you have to make the best of this life, afterwards it won't matter because there is no after.

I'm Christian and transgender so that's something (: I believe that good loves me no matter who I am, as Lon as I believe and follow his commands. I still have urges to hurt myself though. I just get extremely depressed and want to get out of this body so I want to scratch my way out of it. I carved an "S" for skyler into my hand a while back, and that caused me quite a bit of trouble so for now I've been sticking to punching and pinching. It feels like the only way to express emotions because lately there have been too many in me to cry.
-Sky

I'm in the same boat as LivingTheDream, self-harm has never really been something I needed to deal with because I'm too afraid of the pain. However I am a little ashamed to admit that I have an almost daily urge to find out if reincarnation is real but typically when that happens I'll find a really intense game to play so I won't be able to think about it and though this may not be possible for you nor would I necessarily recommend this as an option, if it gets too much to deal with I'll drink a little bit and lock myself in my room. I only drink a little bit and it usually calms me down til the depressants kick in and I go into a full emotional spill. After that I usually feel better but again, I wouldn't really recommend this as a solution even if you're able to yet because alcohol affects everyone differently and it may actually end up making things worse. For now I'd say just find something you love doing and throw yourself into it so that you can't think about everything that's troubling you. Just don't let yourself get to a point where you do it so much that you can't face your problems anymore though. I'm having a bit of trouble with that right now. >.<

Quote from: Vyx405 on February 19, 2014, 10:14:11 AM
I'm in the same boat as LivingTheDream, self-harm has never really been something I needed to deal with because I'm too afraid of the pain. However I am a little ashamed to admit that I have an almost daily urge to find out if reincarnation is real but typically when that happens I'll find a really intense game to play so I won't be able to think about it and though this may not be possible for you nor would I necessarily recommend this as an option, if it gets too much to deal with I'll drink a little bit and lock myself in my room. I only drink a little bit and it usually calms me down til the depressants kick in and I go into a full emotional spill. After that I usually feel better but again, I wouldn't really recommend this as a solution even if you're able to yet because alcohol affects everyone differently and it may actually end up making things worse. For now I'd say just find something you love doing and throw yourself into it so that you can't think about everything that's troubling you. Just don't let yourself get to a point where you do it so much that you can't face your problems anymore though. I'm having a bit of trouble with that right now. >.<

Alcahol and substance abuse isn't something I'd recommend for ANYBODY, including you. I've watched it first hand destroy lives and those of them around them. But I'm not your mother.

I also really had no ability to self harm. I suppose I'm too much of a pansy. Not that I never thoight of it.. But as much as I hate the emotional pain, I hate physical pain more. And I've always been able to just push all of my emotions aside for later and never dealing with them. Just constantly pushing them aside. Though recently a lot of that's come back up since I started dealing with this wibbly-wobbly gendery-wendery stuff. More or less the only people that know outside of the internet are my therapist and my girlfriend, so I wouldn't even say I'm "out" yet. Honestly, I feel like, amazing people and support aside, sites like these and actually starting to deal with gender issues starts to really agitate dysphoria. I think it's more or less that you can still see what's possible, before you're able to transition. I suppose I take it as that first chain lift on a roller coaster.

Yea... I dont really have the restraint to not to, right now I have three knife cuts on my left hand and one on my right hand, along with numerous nail marks, but at least it all calms me down, which I need from time to time cause of how my life is, but enough of that, this thread isnt the place.

Out to my family and many others for 9 years now, but still pre-everything. I'm late 20s (does that count as 'young' in your books?) Sure send me a PM. I'm pretty busy so it may be a few days until I reply, but I will reply.

Quote from: Slushysky on February 19, 2014, 09:44:56 AM
I'm Christian and transgender so that's something (: I believe that good loves me no matter who I am, as Lon as I believe and follow his commands. I still have urges to hurt myself though. I just get extremely depressed and want to get out of this body so I want to scratch my way out of it. I carved an "S" for skyler into my hand a while back, and that caused me quite a bit of trouble so for now I've been sticking to punching and pinching. It feels like the only way to express emotions because lately there have been too many in me to cry.
-Sky

I just like to say that I try not to talk about my religion on this web page people have a lot of different beliefs or no belief , but since you mention it, I'll go ahead. I'm Christian and always have been since childhood to the present. Christ is my savior. I love Christ with my whole being. Jesus has saved me from death quite a few times. Drugs , anorexia depression etc. I wouldn't be here but for gods love. I want to say though that if that blackness comes towards you and you want to check out jump into a cab or call an 911 and get to a hospital immediately.

Stephanie I'm glad someone else is! But let's just leave the topic of religion now, because that's irrelevant (: I know I'll never use drugs or alcohol because I've seen what that does. I only do what I do to control my anger and not take it out on others.

Quote from: Slushysky on February 19, 2014, 07:47:19 PM
Stephanie I'm glad someone else is! But let's just leave the topic of religion now, because that's irrelevant (: I know I'll never use drugs or alcohol because I've seen what that does. I only do what I do to control my anger and not take it out on others.

Might I suggest martial arts or a contact sport? I will say, it's a great way to get your emotions/anger out in a safe manner. I will speak from experience and say I recommend it :3