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Did accepting yourself change how you perceive other women?

Started by Olivia P, February 21, 2014, 12:32:40 PM

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Olivia P

After fully accepting myself I noticed that how I perceive other women has changed, has anyone else been through that change of perceptions?
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. - Thích Nhất Hạnh
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stephaniec

I've always felt closer to woman. HRT has given me the gift of having the essential ingredient that's common to all females the major component of the hormone running through my blood.
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Olivia P

I must clarify, I mean visually perceive them.

I've started to look at them as if I'm one of them, and for the first time ever have it feel right.

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. - Thích Nhất Hạnh
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stephaniec

Quote from: Olivia P on February 21, 2014, 12:51:56 PM
I must clarify, I mean visually perceive them.

I've started to look at them as if I'm one of them, and for the first time ever have it feel right.
I look more at hair style and clothes now
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FalseHybridPrincess

Ι always looked at other women...when I was out it was my hobby ... I admire them maybe a little too much, I also feel jealous of them ,hope that will cease when Im done with transition...

and yes I check their clothes , hair , make up....did I mentioned I admire them? cause I do , a lot...
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ath

Quote from: FalsePrincess on February 21, 2014, 12:58:11 PM
Ι always looked at other women...when I was out it was my hobbie ... I admire them maybe a little too much, I also feel jealous of them ,hope that will cease when Im done with transition...

and yes I check their clothes , hair , make up....did I mentioned I admire them? cause I do , a lot...

Pretty much the same thing here. Whenever I see a woman who looks particularly good or has some really nice features, I always think about how much I wish I had those features. Strong feelings of jealousy sometimes.
"When I think of all the worries people seem to find
And how they're in a hurry to complicate their mind
By chasing after money and dreams that can't come true
I'm glad that we are different, we've better things to do
May others plan their future, I'm busy lovin' you "
-The Grass Roots
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sad panda

Nope though I did start getting treated differently immediately so I felt a little like, psychically closer to other girls. As a gay guy it's sorta different, it's like you have to become your sexuality more than yourself and you are always kinda a token
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FalseHybridPrincess

Quote from: ath on February 21, 2014, 01:13:23 PM
Pretty much the same thing here. Whenever I see a woman who looks particularly good or has some really nice features, I always think about how much I wish I had those features. Strong feelings of jealousy sometimes.


lol the worst is when I go for laser....the clinic I go is full of amazingly pretty girls,,,and im just sitting there , wondering why I wasnt born like them :/
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sad panda

Quote from: FalsePrincess on February 21, 2014, 01:23:50 PM

lol the worst is when I go for laser....the clinic I go is full of amazingly pretty girls,,,and im just sitting there , wondering why I wasnt born like them :/

Pretty is a full time job, nobody's born that way. Everyone has problems
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Olivia P

Before full acceptance I didn't understand all of the things females do to look good, hair,makeup, clothing etc, all I knew is that I had an unexplainable attraction to everything female, confused alot of it for a different type of attraction, T confusing the whole process.

But now I completely understand and want to do all of that myself.
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. - Thích Nhất Hạnh
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Zoe Louise Taylor

I definetely see women more as freinds now! and see myself as just one of the girls!!!!

Ive always looked at what women wear and how they present themselves! And ave always been jelous of women1 That jelousy has risen so much since i started living full time! as i feel im more aware that until i start hormones, im not gonna be anywhere near as feminine as a natural woman!!!! :( and that makes we want hormones sooo much! :/ x
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Alaia

Honestly, I can't wait to be presenting as female so I can interact with women without the tension of them thinking I'm coming on to them or ogling them. I'd like to be able to freely compliment them on the different elements of their outfit or their hair and have it been seen as just that, a friendly compliment. As it is now, I can't even give a woman's outfit more than a cursory glance without thinking they will be accusing me of checking them out. They never vocally say it, and it may be all mostly in my head. But I can't help but feel that I'm perceived as an icky creep at times when all I'm doing is admiring a well put together woman, or a moment that is beautiful in itself.



"Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray."

― Rumi
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Emi

Quote from: FalsePrincess on February 21, 2014, 12:58:11 PM
Ι always looked at other women...when I was out it was my hobby ... I admire them maybe a little too much, I also feel jealous of them ,hope that will cease when Im done with transition...

and yes I check their clothes , hair , make up....did I mentioned I admire them? cause I do , a lot...

It's exactly the same for me :s
Ignorance : 1999 - 2013
Accepting myself : December 2013 - Now
Birth of Emi : April 2014
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Jessica Merriman

It didn't change mine at all in fact defending them like I did from the Alpha's I thought would always out me. I have always thought of the as kindred spirits. :)
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Late bloomer

It made me look at other women as if I had always been one.  Before, I misread or didn't recognize any of the signs they were giving me.  Why? Because the wall I had built around me kept me in the dark.  A whole range of personalities suddenly appear out of a fog.  Big change.
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Jane's Sweet Refrain

The way I perceive women changed on a physical level. About four months into hrt (and well before I was full-time), I noticed a real change in how I experienced a woman who was near or next to me. I'm right at 5'8' and at that time around 150 (140 now, yay). For the first time, I began perceiving most women as basically the same physical size as me. I had not realized it before that time, but under the influence of the typical male hormonal complex, I thought of women who were the same size as smaller than me. I'm not sure what happened to change this perception, but it's been there ever since. How delightful to to intensify the general feeling I had that I was one of them. Has this happened to others?
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katiej

That's interesting about perceiving the relative size of other women.  I can definitely say that I'm really glad I'm 5'8".  At times I wished I was taller...it really does make a difference in the guy hierarchy.  But now, I'm exactly the right height...slightly tall-ish for a girl.


Quote from: Olivia P on February 21, 2014, 01:33:11 PM
Before full acceptance I didn't understand all of the things females do to look good, hair,makeup, clothing etc, all I knew is that I had an unexplainable attraction to everything female, confused a lot of it for a different type of attraction, T confusing the whole process.

But now I completely understand and want to do all of that myself.

I totally get this.  After coming out to myself I went into full research mode.  Watching other women is now about figuring them out -- movement, behavior, fashion, makeup, shoes.  And I have totally turned into a little fashionista, and I can't wait till I'm full time and get to wear fun clothes every day!!  :)
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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ath

Quote from: katiej on February 24, 2014, 12:48:12 AM
That's interesting about perceiving the relative size of other women.  I can definitely say that I'm really glad I'm 5'8".  At times I wished I was taller...it really does make a difference in the guy hierarchy.  But now, I'm exactly the right height...slightly tall-ish for a girl.

I'm 6' and my sister is about a half inch shorter than me. Because of this I don't feel bad about my height at all - same with my face, nose, foot size, hand size, etc. It's pretty much the same as she has going on. There are genetic females who are taller than a lot of us, and all that other stuff too.
"When I think of all the worries people seem to find
And how they're in a hurry to complicate their mind
By chasing after money and dreams that can't come true
I'm glad that we are different, we've better things to do
May others plan their future, I'm busy lovin' you "
-The Grass Roots
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FalseHybridPrincess

Quote from: Jane's Sweet Refrain on February 23, 2014, 06:06:34 PM
The way I perceive women changed on a physical level. About four months into hrt (and well before I was full-time), I noticed a real change in how I experienced a woman who was near or next to me. I'm right at 5'8' and at that time around 150 (140 now, yay). For the first time, I began perceiving most women as basically the same physical size as me. I had not realized it before that time, but under the influence of the typical male hormonal complex, I thought of women who were the same size as smaller than me. I'm not sure what happened to change this perception, but it's been there ever since. How delightful to to intensify the general feeling I had that I was one of them. Has this happened to others?

Im really looking forward to that...
http://falsehybridprincess.tumblr.com/
Follow me and I ll do your dishes.

Also lets be friends on fb :D
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sad panda

Quote from: Jane's Sweet Refrain on February 23, 2014, 06:06:34 PM
The way I perceive women changed on a physical level. About four months into hrt (and well before I was full-time), I noticed a real change in how I experienced a woman who was near or next to me. I'm right at 5'8' and at that time around 150 (140 now, yay). For the first time, I began perceiving most women as basically the same physical size as me. I had not realized it before that time, but under the influence of the typical male hormonal complex, I thought of women who were the same size as smaller than me. I'm not sure what happened to change this perception, but it's been there ever since. How delightful to to intensify the general feeling I had that I was one of them. Has this happened to others?

that's strange. I actually have BDD but I never had this. I'm completely average sized for women, but living as a boy i did not feel bigger or anything, I was used to girls being taller or broader than me a lot, and guys, wrell goes without saying, I don't think I ever met a grown man smaller than me lol. Especially people having longer legs, man, my legs are so short ;O;

I remember my cis friend once told me she thought  i was soooo small. I was actually only an inch shorter than her but she thought I was way shorter. Not sure how that happens....

What I do get though is never being able to see what I honestly look like, sometimes I look disfigured in the mirror, sometimes really pretty, changes every day but always feels real...... ugh.... :c
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