Just a couples of quick question.  Has anyone had any problems with sharing their images here on susan's?  Has anyone recognized you or seeked you out in real life?  Has anyone outed you?  Has it caused any potential problems for your security or privacy?  Did it make stealth and passing harder in any way?  I'm just curious about other people's experiences.  Please share anything that you think may be relevant or helpful.  All genders are welcome to share.  Thanks.

nope. no problems.

Nah , I doubt it...

besides I think im the only member from Greece here...

My main problems were that it made people treat me differently and some casual sexual harassment for one, and also that people have saved my pics and I can't delete them totally now...

I have had people recognize me based on things I say.  But I don't share an image so that hasn't happened with images.  I won't share an image because I don't want it to happen.

I haven't had any issues so far, but I don't do it that often. I haven't had that one idiot post any of my photos on her site (as far as I know, anyway. People here know whom I'm referring to.) But even if that did happen, I wouldn't care. The hell with loser stalker douches that screw with people online because they know they are free from getting their teeth knocked out if they did it face to face.

no, but I'm waiting for some one to walk up to me sitting drinking coffee and say haven't I seen you on Susan's.

I make sure that the images I share here are not also used on the sites where my RL info is accessible and I'm still presenting male (Eg. Facebook, family blog, etc.). There are creepy stalker types out there and they will google search images to find out where else they are posted in efforts to track you down.

If someone I know from RL were to actually be on this site and recognize me, I'd be cool with that. Most people I know wouldn't be jerks and out me. There's also the questions that would be begging to be asked, "Well what were you doing on Susan's then when you found out about me?" and "Are you transgender too?".

Quote from: Alaia on February 21, 2014, 01:42:06 PM
I make sure that the images I share here are not also used on the sites where my RL info is accessible and I'm still presenting male (Eg. Facebook, family blog, etc.). There are creepy stalker types out there and they will google search images to find out where else they are posted in efforts to track you down.

If someone I know from RL were to actually be on this site and recognize me, I'd be cool with that. Most people I know wouldn't be jerks and out me. There's also the questions that would be begging to be asked, "Well what were you doing on Susan's then when you found out about me?" and "Are you transgender too?".

I always  liked that question, Oh! so your familiar with Susan's

I actually had one dude put two and two together and figured out who I was since I was using the same screenname on different sites for different stuff. I told the dude flat-out that I didn't give a damn if he had figured it out or not and we could stop talking right now if he had a problem with me.

He was like "Woah, chill out!" and we've been talking ever since and I've actually met him a few times. But, at that time when it was brought up, I was kind of having this "screw you" attitude that was leftover from when I had some problems with some losers a long time ago. So, I kind of overreacted at that time. But, it was pretty much a non-issue in the end.

Triangulating images has never been easier. Be careful.

Quote from: learningtolive on February 21, 2014, 01:28:26 PM
Just a couples of quick question.  Has anyone had any problems with sharing their images here on susan's?  Has anyone recognized you or seeked you out in real life?  Has anyone outed you?  Has it caused any potential problems for your security or privacy?  Did it make stealth and passing harder in any way?  I'm just curious about other people's experiences.  Please share anything that you think may be relevant or helpful.  All genders are welcome to share.  Thanks.

No, however worry for such a thing caused me to eliminate all sorts of pictures and references to me online, not that it necessarily matters however I would rather not be the object of gossip and/or prejudice. Figure i'll be more open when I need to (my inevitable fame and success  )

If I were you, I would approach with caution. What is done cannot be undone

Quote from: FalsePrincess on February 21, 2014, 01:33:36 PM
Nah , I doubt it...

besides I think im the only member from Greece here...

But not the only Greek 

Considering my "agitated" social life and the number of friends I have, I judged it is low risky to share my photo here. Also, it is hard t see a fellow brazilian here, so I think I am quite safe.

I think things vary greatly, depending of how many friends you have, how many people still ignores that you are transgender, how many people live close to you....you have to calculate and judge if it is worthy.

But unless you have a very large number of friends/colleagues and they are hackers or have ways to track your internet life...I wouldn't worry.

I think this way...someday I'll need to come out to my closer friends...if any of them realizes I am a transgender now...so what? I don't care. Really.

No problems for me.. Not one.

But I also make no secret of my being trans - which eliminates any issues with personal embarrassment and makes it somewhat harder for people to cause issues for me.

If someone wants to stalk me, they will.. But I know it wont end well for them. 

Yeah, I don't know.  On the one hand it would be nice to get feedback, but on the other hand I worry.  What I'm really afraid of is that someone anti-lgbt will see it and be like "kill the beast" or I'll get some weird stalker.  Honestly, I'm not cut out for self defense in that situation, so I don't know.  And I do feel like I have to be stealth in the future, though I worry how practical it will be in the end.  It's such a heavy secret to keep, and it's not like those who know have been so quiet about it.  I guess in the end most people that may recognize me will either already be out of my life or they are currently in it and thus probably know or suspect what's going on.  In any case, any photos I would put up would be only for a short period, so hopefully that would minimize issues.  I'll have to ask my therapist what she thinks.  I just would hate to have people think of me poorly or know I'm trans.  And I share so much here that it wouldn't be hard to guess who I am.  We'll see. 

As for people being on Susan's, I think there are a million reasons they could be coming on here.  Some people may just be curious about us or know someone who is trans.  Sometimes I feel like my posts have been read by people in my life.  I may just be paranoid, but sometimes I notice there are more guests on some of my posts than most of the other ones around here.  It makes me wonder, though paranoia is probably more likely, lol.  In any case, the site has a lot of views that I'd be shocked if transgender people are the only ones lurking.  My guess is we may not even be the majority of viewers. 

Keep up the responses because I do appreciate everybody's thoughts.

Good god, no. 

Quote from: learningtolive on February 21, 2014, 04:02:06 PM
I just would hate to have people think of me poorly or know I'm trans.  And I share so much here that it wouldn't be hard to guess who I am.  We'll see. 

People are going to know you are trans.. Maybe not everyone, but some will. I know a woman who claims to live in complete stealth.. Many of her friends know, they just don't mention it..

Quote from: kelly_aus on February 21, 2014, 04:34:13 PM
People are going to know you are trans.. Maybe not everyone, but some will. I know a woman who claims to live in complete stealth.. Many of her friends know, they just don't mention it..

I disagree. This is going to be one of those cases where I say 'it depends' and, unfortunately the bar for that is 'passability'. It sucks but it is what it is. Deep stealth is possible, but personally would be too much of a PITA.

I know an individual that was outed via a forum picture.
She was talking about a very specific topic using real names... Her co-employee was also involved in that workplace controversy, and googled it. Up came the post...and the picture was an identifiable one.
The co-employee proceeded to out the individual at the workplace, thankfully due to the nature of the outing in a equality supporting workplace, the outing was not looked upon favorably. The co-employee was fired for breaking HIPPA rules, discrimination, and harassment. The individual proceeded with transition, including her workplace and is currently in RLE still employed.

As long as you dont use your real name or location, it should be fine.

Look at it another way. Anyone who comes to Susans and find's it is hardly going to tell anyone else, especially if they are Cis