Quote from: Tori on February 22, 2014, 04:23:32 PM
Be sure to pick one you like.

Well, that is a bit obvious. I went with a lot of different Portia Porcupine images for a long time. Now, I stick with my anthro counterpart from a series of stories that I write.

I hadn't even thought of any of this. Nearly everyone I know knows I'm TS, but I don't want anyone who only knows me since I transitioned to know. I have a cis girl friend who got really angry with me when I told a friend of hers early on that I'm transgendered, saying, "Why'd you just do that? Aren't you living as a woman to be recognized as one? My friend had no idea you're anything other than just another woman and one of my friends. We've been in public lots of times and nobody's ever looked at you any different than me, and you sound like a woman. That thing just now was almost like you want people to know you're trans. You don't, do you?" I said that I didn't and I don't, so I don't tell anyone anymore. But now you've got me thinking. My BF has never seen a pre-transition photo of me  and I don't ever want him to. I'm glad I read this thread. I don't see myself not posting any more photos, but I'm not going on the "Before and After" thread other than to look and admire other women's changes. My changes are pretty dramatic and one photo in particular is downright scary (not quite Keith Richards scary, but it's bad, lol!) and I should delete it, but I think my post is pretty wild and might give another girl hope like some gave me. Hugs, Mira

Has anyone ever seen the movie "The watcher." It's with Keenu Reeves and he's a serial killer and in it he says something profound that relates to this discussion: Nobody notices anything and they are to wrapped up in their own business to remember some person they might have saw and not seen even five minutes before. The only people who care about transsexuals and talk ->-bleeped-<- on the Internet are little pimple-faced, geeky computer tweebs. They're prolly 12 years old. Who cares, really? If people find out your trans and you don't like that what you have to do is move. That simple. And in any event, if you want to really be stealth, you have to move. You have to start over. Unless you're okay with being perceived as trans. And really it's no big deal. The world is a great place and there's amazing people in it. Yeah there's a few rotten apples,  but don't let them win. Eff them. The chances of sharing you image and some person coming on the site and doing a screen save is very small. And guess what? If you're transitioning, and it's working, uh, people are going to notice.

P.S. If you move, don't move to Russia. Bad decision. Seriously, learn a different language and become an Americna girl in France. There. I fixed your problem. Now, your deep stealth and the only way peeps will find out is if you tell them. But really it is about accepting yourself. if you haven't done that, maybe this isn't the right time to do this.

I posted my picture awhile back to gauge how well hormones might work for me, I let it sit for a week before removing it. -shifty glance- I am still working up my courage to come out and don't want that the be the way I come out. However back on topic I've posted my picture in the past on other places and never had anyone recognize me.

Here is the thing, the internet is probably three times the size of the world, and the only way anyone going to really see it is if you upload it to a account that links back to you (as someone said above they google your name), or the person who finds out is searching sites such as this.

There is just so much data out there really the only way your going find it is if your looking for it specifically.

I wouldn't worry to much.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on February 25, 2014, 10:49:39 AM
If people find out your trans and you don't like that what you have to do is move. That simple.

I have to pluck this little tidbit from your post. For some people, it isn't that simple. It costs a lot of money to move and if some people are in a situation where they don't have much money, they could end up in a place where, yes people may not know they are trans but since they are poor, they end up in a place that is potentially low-income and yet high-crime and very dangerous as a result of that.

I live in the same town that I have lived in all of my life. Are there some people (outside of my family) that knew me before I transitioned?

Yes.

Are they accepting of me?

Hell no. They dropped me like a hot potato. But I don't give a damn about them anyway so it's a non-issue. I have no issues being out and about as a woman 99% of the time (save for some brain dead teenage brat that wants to make a snarky remark). I treat them the same as I do anyone else in that situation: I smile, wish a horrible death upon them and anyone they are associated with and I go about my day. I don't waste my time getting myself down over losers that are utterly worthless.

As far as anyone around here that would try to make trouble for me. I don't waste time on them, either. If they want to bring it, I'm here. But most people are too spineless to do anything anyway.

No one is making me go (or not go) where I don't feel like.

Screw'em.

Love the thread, simply because it expresses our insecurities about so called "Stealth"

I do have another take on this subject, you may understand my position or perhaps you shan't, however this train of thought allowed me the freedom to move beyond fear.

As I see it, being stealth is simply exuding truth about one self and in my case it simply translates into being a woman.
Now, I obviously have the past, not something I do share, it is private and not particularly pleasant aspect of previous live which is No More. But I also do not camouflage that past experience into an event which supposedly never happened.

I simply go on with my life now, which is a life of a woman. If anyone brings out the distant, no longer viable past, I simply tell them how it was, after all, whats there to hide!

So in a nut shell, not to be afraid and make peace with the past is the way to move past the handicap of perception. Others do know us through our energy, character of being, and fears or lack of them. If you present the past without fear, and qualify that such was in the past and ran its course, and that anew, true life had begun, I am sure that most will respect the truth you are sharing. If they do not respect you for your truth, they them selves are suffering from insecurities.

Look upon your enemies with compassion as they them selves are their worst enemy!