Quote from: <3Ronnie<3 on February 24, 2014, 10:18:05 AM
yh i was really stressed earlier just had to vent but yh sorry about that and yh i would first like to get to speak about my past and get them to make the right choice i can open upto people very easily and i hope i can speak to my therapist about anything like that after some time if he/she agrees with me and i do start HRT it will be the best day of my life "so far" is there anything i will need to bring with me on my first session thanks for the reply eva marie 

No need to apologize

Therapy is for you. The therapist is there to help you. Therapy is a process where the therapist guides the therapy session but you are the main contributor. The therapist adds their insights and knowledge into the discussion as appropriate, and will give opinions if asked about something, but it will be you doing most of the "work" in the session, guided by the therapist. It sounds hard when I put it that way, but what you will find is that your therapy time will fly by (my sessions are 50 minutes in length) and you will be surprised each time when it's over.

So bring whatever you think will help or will contribute to the session, like writings or journal entries or whatever. What I bring each time are my thoughts, organized into topics that I want to discuss. What usually ends up happening is that our discussion wanders far away from my list of topics 

The therapist may assign "homework" at the end of each session. My homework assignments were all over the map, including one assignment that was for me to leave the therapy session and go shopping at a local nearby mall to gain experience as Eva. That was terrifying, but it built my confidence level.

i will I've got my appointment tomorrow with my nurse and a GID doctor <-- i think thats what he is called i don't know but hopefully that will go well

Quote from: Eva Marie on February 25, 2014, 08:43:44 AM
No need to apologize

Therapy is for you. The therapist is there to help you. Therapy is a process where the therapist guides the therapy session but you are the main contributor. The therapist adds their insights and knowledge into the discussion as appropriate, and will give opinions if asked about something, but it will be you doing most of the "work" in the session, guided by the therapist. It sounds hard when I put it that way, but what you will find is that your therapy time will fly by (my sessions are 50 minutes in length) and you will be surprised each time when it's over.

So bring whatever you think will help or will contribute to the session, like writings or journal entries or whatever. What I bring each time are my thoughts, organized into topics that I want to discuss. What usually ends up happening is that our discussion wanders far away from my list of topics 

The therapist may assign "homework" at the end of each session. My homework assignments were all over the map, including one assignment that was for me to leave the therapy session and go shopping at a local nearby mall to gain experience as Eva. That was terrifying, but it built my confidence level.

ok i will just bring my laptop its got all my diary pages in it with all my forts and feelings about my life so i hope that will help the therapist understand me and he/she get to know me more and yh i get carried off subject a lot to haha when i speak to my nurse who comes round every week we talk about how I'm doing for about 10 mins then we just go on about random stuff haha you're info has helped me a lot ill also bring my doctors notes with me aswell I've just finished work so I'm gonna go grab a bite to eat

QuoteAva Marie wrote:
The therapist may assign "homework" at the end of each session. My homework assignments were all over the map, including one assignment that was for me to leave the therapy session and go shopping at a local nearby mall to gain experience as Eva. That was terrifying, but it built my confidence level.

The best "homework my therapist gave me was to join a trans* Gender Support group to build my confidence with others like me. By invitation only, I needed to be interviewed by the moderators. I was petrified to let others know about me but now I have such wonderful friends, confidence being built, and barriers are being removed. Ronnie, I wish you sooo much luck sweety, you won't regret it.

xxx

Quote from: ana on February 25, 2014, 04:40:56 PM
The best "homework my therapist gave me was to join a trans* Gender Support group to build my confidence with others like me. By invitation only, I needed to be interviewed by the moderators. I was petrified to let others know about me but now I have such wonderful friends, confidence being built, and barriers are being removed. Ronnie, I wish you sooo much luck sweety, you won't regret it.

xxx

thank you for such a nice reply so far the only site i have joined would be this one most of my friends know i don't feel a boy and wish to change from MTF and every now and then i go out in female onesies and wear female plimsoles because I'm not ready to go out fully in female clothes until i look more like a female physically to feel more like my inside my mum knows I'm seeing loads of people and always having meetings with doctors but she doesn't know i plan to change my body i know if i said i want to be a girl she would have the shock of her life and i don't know if she would want me living at home or if she would accept me if anything i get so depressed a lot during the day and night knowing every day I'm turning more masculine and growing hair on my arms, face, and chest i just look at myself in the mirror or when I'm in the bath and feel like if i just closed my eyes and wished to be a female and when i opened them i wouldn't see the one i have now i know in myself i was born in the wrong body but will the therapist think the same id hate to go through all of this to be told that they won't help me to be honest i couldn't imagine a life were i have to continue like this i know its not a phase because i have felt this way since i was 6 i also dream a lot about being female and I'm so happy until i wake up then it just takes a lot for me to even leave the house but i have to goto work so i can't just sit indoors all day but if i was agreed to start the transition id probably give the therapist the biggest hug ever haha anyway I've got finger cramp now so I'm gonna end this reply thank u everyone for the support <3 <3 <3

It's exactly the same for me, Ronnie, except the fact that I'm in high school... It's hard to come out to students or teachers...