Hello,
I was reading some stuff about transexualism and I found one hypothesis from an author named Stoller:
He says that the transexualism may be caused by a strong bound between mother and son that never fades away, leading to an intense symbiosis between them. The son sees on the mother a model and identifies with her as a woman.
Also, usually transexuals have a historic of an absent or distant fathers. Even when the father is present, he is usually of a very passive nature and he doesn't express very well his masculinity, allowing the mother, on a masculinized position, to take over control of the family.
These marriages are often kept for many years, with constant arguments and without love or sex between wife and husband.
This is one hypothesis, but this is pretty much EXACTLY my life.
My mother was always very strong and a kind of masculinized woman, while my father was absent for most of my life.
My mother and father splitted when I was just a baby and they got back together only when I was 14 years old. Even then my father was still a very absent person. He was extremely passive and had no initiative at all. The marriage was kept for more 10 years and my mother and father were always arguing. I couldn't see any love on their relationship.
I always had and I still have an extreme bound with my mother. We can often "read each other's minds". I have spent my entire life close to her. We go out together, we have meals together, we watch television together. We live almost as if we were one.
But then there is another hypotesis, that says that transexualism is actually a defense from our minds to protect us from a behavior that we can't accept, as homosexuality. This also says that transsexualism can be a manifestation of a borderline identity disorder, as transsexuals share many common aspects with them, as cronical anxiety, isolationism, depression and low tolerance to stress.
Reading this, I must say I also agree and I identify with many of these lines. I never could accept or see myself as a gay man (as the subject of another topic), because, someway, I felt it wasn't right. I didn't want to feel attracted to men as a man, but I want it as a woman.
Do you girls agree or identify with any of these hypothesis as I have? I am sure there are many people here that knows much more than me. I was only doing some silly uncompromised research and found this.
