It does strike me that if a mtf starts with a female partner, people often allow for time for them to go through denial and anger before acceptance and supportiveness. His partner is probably doing something similar and should be afforded the same allowance before recommendations of 'get rid' are valid.

"His" partner?

sorry, I got confused, because I was in that position, and regarded myself at the time, pretransition as such. Plus pre-transition is a hard time for pronouns :-/

I'll just reiterate what Kiera said. You can do A LOT thru diet and exercise, especially diet. I think a strict low calorie diet would help you wonders.

If you asked your BF for his honest opinion, I don't think he was overly rude, obviously he could be a little more tactful is all.

Your shoulders look fine, I think you would transition well if that is what you wanted. do what you want..not what others because in the end YOU need to live and be happy with who you are.

The average straight guy isn't normally someone I want to deal with dating, and not just because I loathe my old straight guy public persona. I'm bi curious as stated many times before, but my issue is like any choosy woman, I'll probably be old and grey before finding Mr Right. I'm not willing to take that long, and I'm more than happy to date women, as I always have. In that vain, if open to dating women, it'd be silly to exclude women with a TS past, since that in itself, would be equivalent denying my own gender. As a bonus a woman with a history does indeed have the ability to empathize with transition issues.
That aside, that obviously doesn't mean there aren't men including a possible Mr Right, that couldn't empathize. Once again, I'd be denying my own past, or making the claim that I was born female, not something I would claim or certify. I would state that unlike some I was never homophobic, anti LGBT, feminine critical, etc. When I see those behaviors presented by a significant minority of males, it doesn't instill faith that I can carefully choose the right man to date someday.

Quote from: Missy~rmdlm on March 02, 2014, 11:51:53 AM
I'll probably be old and grey before finding Mr Right.

The same is for me, too. Nevertheless, it is exciting to express my femininity to friends, colleagues and people in the street, even in foreign countries.

barbie~~

Quote from: Skyler Lusk on March 02, 2014, 10:33:36 AM
Your shoulders look fine, I think you would transition well if that is what you wanted. do what you want..not what others because in the end YOU need to live and be happy with who you are.

I could not have said it better myself

If you want to downplay your shoulders, there is a quick fix.  It is borrowed from a makeup trick.  Remember, darker colors make things recede or otherwise appear smaller.   Take some tar and a big brush and slap some on your biceps and shoulders.  They will disappear into nowhere. 

Just kidding, trying to lighten your mood.  What you can do, and it works, is to move your shoulders forward, raise them up and then back, and keep them there.  It will feel as if you are squeezing your back muscles, and the truth is that you are.  But it works, and if you combine this with a little arching of your back (as GG's to, for an obvious reason) it will cause your booty to stick out.   I don't know how unhealthy this would be long-term in terms of your back, but it works.   And it's addictive, and just wait until you catch guys eye-balling you as they walk behind you. 

I'm balding, and very much in boy mode, but the other night I was out shopping with my son and wife, wearing normal clothes (my jeans fit nicely in a certain way, lol) and I caught a guy (he wasn't that bad looking) looking me up and down.  He smiled when I caught him.  It made my night. 

Better yet, you could just dump the whole can of tar on top your BF, and then drop-kick him into the middle of a chicken coop.  (again, j/k)