My day has not felt good at all, ever since i finally accepted that i'm a woman inside all iv'e been able to think about was coming out of the closet and becoming female as soon as possible. Am in just being a drama queen or have i really reached a breaking point? Mom got my prozac today so that MIGHT help but the urge to come out of the closet and stop the bull->-bleeped-<- is getting really, really strong making me feel like i want to cry. Please offer me some advice i don't really know what the hell to do. On the bright side i feel courageous in the midst of this intense disphoria. <3 I plan to come out to my mom and my brother first. I think they won't be a problem with me being a girl. I don't know when but i feel like i need to come out very soon. I love you all and i'm so glad i found this forum. Despite what your mind tells you all of you are beautiful. <3

Fuzed <3

I don't think you're being a drama queen.

It sounds to me, relating it to my own experience, that you have reached the breaking point.  That's at least my opinion of that matter.

Two weeks i'm going to come out. Like i said advice is very much appreciated. Love my mother but even though she's open minded, she's panicky and has a weird way of making me suggestable to her fears. Any advice? I want to be the real me so bad.

Just be sure to have things relatively figured out.  There might be a lot of questions, having answers to most of them will help.

I'd suggest trying to speak to a gender counsellor (or at least a counsellor or a psych) first if at all possible. Laying that stuff on your mother, especially if you're feeling fragile and vulnerable, has the potential to go pear shaped if she doesn't understand (or doesn't want to).

Fuzed, you have a lot of stuff going on in your life.  One thing at a time.

Is the doctor, who prescribed Prozac for you, aware of your gender dysphoria?

@Gracie: Thank you for posting advice, i love your posts and everything you say i can completely relate to. I want to go to a gender therapist but I searched everywhere and can't find any service that isn't influenced by Christian Doctrine. What should i Do? The only LGBT service that would exist in this town is change therapy.

@Jamie: No my doctor does not know about my Gender Dysphoria and i'm scared to tell him. He's very conservative.

I know everyone that it seems like i'm taking this way too fast but iv'e never been so sure of anything in my life. Iv'e suffered from this feeling of being a girl ever since i can remember. I also apologize if i sound whiny and childish as Jamie said i have a lot going on.

Quote from: fuzed on March 07, 2014, 10:58:19 AM
The only LGBT service that would exist in this town is change therapy.

Check them out anyway, even fit hey can't help you directly they might be able to direct you to someone who they trust. I know it's hard to be patient about your gender identity, once the truth of it crystallises in your mind it is almost impossible to ignore. It's just that, if a large number of posts from other young trans* people on this forum are anything to go by, outing yourself to your family at a young age usually results in confusion, anger even hostility, your points being dismissed as a "phase", etc. For some reason, even the most understanding and supportive and loving parents and siblings find transgender a bridge to far. You're young, you have a lot to live for, you have a lot of time on your side. Yes, it feels intolerable to be living a lie about your gender identity, you need to be be who you know who you are, but getting there is worth doing it right (speaking from experience here!). Best that you unload all your feeling on a trusted LGBT counsellor and they should offer you some guidance and help, including how to come out to your mother.

Quote from: Ms Grace on March 07, 2014, 12:46:01 PM
Check them out anyway, even fit hey can't help you directly they might be able to direct you to someone who they trust. I know it's hard to be patient about your gender identity, once the truth of it crystallises in your mind it is almost impossible to ignore. It's just that, if a large number of posts from other young trans* people on this forum are anything to go by, outing yourself to your family at a young age usually results in confusion, anger even hostility, your points being dismissed as a "phase", etc. For some reason, even the most understanding and supportive and loving parents and siblings find transgender a bridge to far. You're young, you have a lot to live for, you have a lot of time on your side. Yes, it feels intolerable to be living a lie about your gender identity, you need to be be who you know who you are, but getting there is worth doing it right (speaking from experience here!). Best that you unload all your feeling on a trusted LGBT counsellor and they should offer you some guidance and help, including how to come out to your mother.

Iv'e found this service here in my town. They don't seem anti-LGBT at all. I'm going to give them a try though i still intend to come out of the closet to my mom and brother on march 20th. Though iv'e been kind of weepy i have a very good feeling about my mother she's always been there for me despite the fact that she's overbearing and a little condescending.

I think I might be able to benefit if i could talk to some of you on Skype. Are you girls on there?

I think it would be beneficial to me if i talked to some of you girls  on Skype. Are any of you on there?

I'm also not that young at all! I'm 22 years old and legally able to make my own decisions! I hope she respects that. 

This is coming from a rookie, so please keep this in mind as my body of feedback is still evolving.

First, I think therapy is a must just for our own well beings, and you must be honest. If you can't tell your current therapist for any reason, I think you probably need a new therapist.

Second, I do NOT think you need to have been discussing this with a therapist to come out to close friends and family. Maybe I say this because I came out to half of a select few before seeing a therapist about me being transsexual. I knew I was pretty certain, though I did seek disagreement out initially, but more importantly I wanted to gain some feedback if those I came out to were willing to share it. The mostly pro reactions were very helpful, but so were the cons. Maybe not in helping me determine my course of transition plans so much as I help me identify ways to best manage that now delicate relationship. I find all this information was in fact useful when I did meet with my therapist for the first time as I was able to get advice and he was able to understand me better I believe.

Try to limit your expectations of those you do come out to. I was mostly lucky and had positive feedback, but I did initially struggle with my parents reactions at first. However, since I have a new found understanding that they, and even those who thus far have seemed positive, will need time to go through their own processing and stages of this news. Heck it took me a long time to, so try to give them space and time to do that. I think it will help you avoid rash decisions or spiteful ones. But yes, I think you are just fine coming out carefully prior to therapy. Just make sure to follow up with therapy sooner rather than later.

I think coming out to those and gathering resources is the best thing you can do. It's perfectly normal to want to change as quickly as possible, I know I certainly wanted to, and am now barreling full speed towards my goal. (:

Acceptance is the best first step you can take, but you can only get it by coming out, because hopefully if they do accept you, they will help you. ^^

I decided to come out because i was having extreme anxiety attacks and sleep deprivation so i finally told my dad and all the anxiety and uncomfortableness just went away ~.~ ...I couldn't wait any longer and im glad i did it...within two months now i hope to be starting HRT.  I couldn't continue to be the person i wasn't anymore. Hopefully this might of helped, good luck