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Transitioning during college?

Started by Annaiyah, February 27, 2014, 09:20:10 AM

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Annaiyah

I'm a student at a community college. I'm about to start hormones pretty soon. Has anyone ever had an experience transitioning while a college student?

I want to drop out of my college when I start my hormones, I want them to forget I was ever here (as a male, anyway) and then after my transition, I will return but under my new female identity... but then again I will have to take all those classes over again! So maybe it's best that they don't forget I was here and that they know I am transitioning... only so my time here won't go to waste.

My goal was to not tell people, or tell very few people as possible, that I'm a transgirl because I wanted to live the rest of my whole entire life as female, not as trans and for people to never know but I guess that can't fly with my college life.
They say identity theft is a crime. Well, needless to say, a crime has been committed. My identity has been stolen. No, no one knows my social security number or has my credit card. I'm walking around in the wrong body. I'm wearing a costume which I cannot remove... and the only way I can remove that costume, is through surgery
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smile_jma

I don't think there's a need to tell your classmates, just the administration. They should handle everything professionally.
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Northern Jane

I hadn't intended to transition during college (1969 to 1972) but, having been on HRT for a little over 2 years, I was in male-fail mode. I spoke to the Registrar when I enrolled to see if I could keep my gender and my male name out of the college records explaining that IF I survived, it would be as a woman so I was enrolled by my initials and family name with no gender marker. (Pretty enlightened for 1969!)

I know I confused the heck out of my fellow students!  ;D I used gender neutral washrooms and refused to say outright if I was male or female and most others thought I was female. It was only later I found out that the lady I was staying with only took in female students LOL!

I think transitioning in college was the kindest, gentlest, and most accepting environment possible (at least back in those days).
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akristia

Quote from: AnnaiyahStarr on February 27, 2014, 09:20:10 AM
I'm a student at a community college. I'm about to start hormones pretty soon. Has anyone ever had an experience transitioning while a college student?

I want to drop out of my college when I start my hormones, I want them to forget I was ever here (as a male, anyway) and then after my transition, I will return but under my new female identity... but then again I will have to take all those classes over again! So maybe it's best that they don't forget I was here and that they know I am transitioning... only so my time here won't go to waste.

My goal was to not tell people, or tell very few people as possible, that I'm a transgirl because I wanted to live the rest of my whole entire life as female, not as trans and for people to never know but I guess that can't fly with my college life.

I started living full time when I was in the 2nd year in university. It's actually my friends who encouraged me to be who I am and to dress up as who I am. I guess that was a huge luck I studied Psychology whose students are female 90% plus my close-friends in the faculty were so supportive. They even acknowledged me with how to choose the right bra and which fashion brands sell size 41 shoes (mine are big). To me what important in starting or doing transition is having some very close-friends whom you can rely on. My transition wasn't that smooth though. My family didn't like it at all. They cut off financial support so I needed to pay my own study. In the university there were stupid bigot guys who used to make fun of me. At first I was scared, but then I realized I got more good friends in the faculty compared to them. My friends even said to me 'you got way more friends than them. They won't dare to harm you cause we got your back'. I know this case might be very rare and I am so thankful for having them. My advice is just go on. You are who you are, your past isn't something to be ashamed of. Openminded people will always be openminded, and otherwise.

Good luck! Let me know if you need someone to talk to.
Kristia
Be who you wanna be, do what you wanna do as long as you don't violate others' right
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LittleEmily24

I'm currently transitioning while in college and the way I see it is this: I dont know these people and by the end of the term i will have forgotten them, so why bother caring what they think?

If anything, before when i was stressing about school, i considered joining my school's LGBT club as a kind of "boost" in confidence to help me feel more welcome. College is nothing like preparatory school, people go there to attend class and graduate and leave... especially in community colleges... Most of the time people show up for class, do what they gotta do, and get the hell out lol. People are actually there because they want to be not because they have to be, so them seeing your transition is honestly the least of their worries. Just be sure to tell the dean or whoever so they can refer to you as your preferred name and pronouns, to avoid confusion or awkward moments where that girl raises her hand after having been called by a male name :P
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Annaiyah

Quote from: smile_jma on March 04, 2014, 02:46:12 AM
I don't think there's a need to tell your classmates, just the administration. They should handle everything professionally.

Oh, no, I wasn't gonna tell my classmates and/or my professors about my transition, just the dean, the administration or whomever just so they can call me by my female name, use female pronouns, etc. as Emily said and most of all, let me use the women's bathrooms.
They say identity theft is a crime. Well, needless to say, a crime has been committed. My identity has been stolen. No, no one knows my social security number or has my credit card. I'm walking around in the wrong body. I'm wearing a costume which I cannot remove... and the only way I can remove that costume, is through surgery
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Ciaoblue

I have been taking hormone since I was in high school(grade 10) but I cant dress as female because there is a rule that high school boy must cut super short hair and wear boy uniform.
And now I'm studying in university, sophomore
As freshmen, I dressed in boy uniform but as sophomore, I dress in girl uniform
And people around me is quite okay about this because my university is quite freedom and everyone is equal.
I dont know about there because most thai people accept Transwomen nowsday
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