Oh how much I wish to be pretty some day, but I'll never be. I'm too ugly, too out of shape, too masculine to every be beautiful. The hormones will only be able to do so much, I'll still be an ugly beast and never the cutie I wish to be. I look at these transwoman and they are so beautiful, but I know I will never be.

Quote from: Hopeful cutie on March 19, 2014, 05:13:34 PM
Oh how much I wish to be pretty some day, but I'll never be. I'm too ugly, too out of shape, too masculine to every be beautiful. The hormones will only be able to do so much, I'll still be an ugly beast and never the cutie I wish to be. I look at these transwoman and they are so beautiful, but I know I will never be.

Don't you ever say that about yourself. You are an amazing human being and you are very beautiful in your own way.

It's usually a lot of work and very expensive if you desire a drastic transformation, but it can be done. Keep your head up and your mind active, the best thing you can do to get what you want is keep going no matter what.

What I speak of is not just about looks

It might seem like an insurmountable mountain at first, but pacing yourself, being smart, and staying strong will help leaps and bounds to do whatever you want

I thought the same things once upon a time.  I looked just like Comic Book Guy from The Simpsons three years ago.  Just before I started estrogen a little over a year ago, I looked and felt like a shaven ape in a dress.  I think I did OK, and I haven't even had any surgeries yet.

Check out the Before and After thread.  There are some amazing transformations in there.  Many of us started hopelessly masculine and ended up being cuties.

Never say never.  Never say die.

Just rember one thing

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Literal meaning - the perception of beauty is subjective

You are you and no one else. So how can one judge aginst anyone other then yourself.

Isabell

You are beautiful and you will be beautiful. I know exactly how you feel. I can't even get on hormones, so when I see other transwomen, sometimes it feels like my situation is totally hopeless. But it isn't. And neither is yours. Just keep pushing yourself in that direction. Start a diet/exercise routine. Learn how to take care of your hair and style it. Learn how to apply makeup and what looks good on you. Work on your voice. Shave body hair and work on getting it permanently removed if you can afford it. Whatever you do, just keep moving toward being the woman you want to be. You WILL get there, I promise. Don't let the doubts win.

Don't say that! I was a Firefighter/Paramedic all Alpha and strong. look at me now! That is me at 48years old after only a few months on HRT. Don't give up, it does work.  Give it some time, exercise, eating right and you will see a difference. I am not saying I am beautiful, but I have surpassed my wildest dreams and pass well. You have to really believe in yourself and people will see it in your eyes and soul. Confidence is 80% of passing and people will see you as a beautiful person.

Even if you are born a totally gorgeous, drop dead GG babe, your looks will fade (unless you have a ton of cash for plastic surgeries to fight against the effects of time). Besides, looks aren't all they are cracked up to be. Most of the people that I've met that are really good looking are friggin idiots that only get by on how "hot" they are. You sit down to actually have a conversation with them and you soon find out how stupid they really are.

I'm not good looking, I never will be and I am fine with that. Looks mean zilch to me.

I have to disagree with that last line, Laura. You are very cute, IMO. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Quote from: Pikachu on March 19, 2014, 05:39:12 PM
I have to disagree with that last line, Laura. You are very cute, IMO. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Yeah, but I could use a BA and FFS, two things that I won't be able to afford.

See? I'm guilty of this myself. But I have no choice but to accept my limitations. I just don't let it run my life anymore. (But I still recognize the fact that it couldn't hurt)

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on March 19, 2014, 05:41:57 PM
Yeah, but I could use a BA and FFS, two things that I won't be able to afford.

See? I'm guilty of this myself. But I have no choice but to accept my limitations. I just don't let it run my life anymore. (But I still recognize the fact that it couldn't hurt)

I believe that you have a very sound way of seeing life Laura.

While yes I am the new kid on the block here, I have to agree with what the other girls are saying. The first thing one need to be is beautiful on the inside, and self esteem has a lot to do with that. Seeing me in a dress right now is a scary sight, but I know with time and effort I will be beautiful as well. I may not end up looking like a super model, but that is not my goal in the first place... It is accepting ones self and who you truly are... For me I am taking small steps, seeking guidance and accepting myself as I really am. You are going to have good and bad hair days so to speak. But keep your head up and things will work out...

Quote from: Pikachu on March 19, 2014, 05:39:12 PM
I have to disagree with that last line, Laura. You are very cute, IMO. Don't be so hard on yourself.

She certainly is. In personality as well. Almost as cute as a certain porcupine. 

@Hopeful cutie,

I've seen some amazing transformations on here over the years. I don't know where the pics are, if they're even still on here - but a couple years ago, this drop dead blonde came on the scene. Beautiful face, very svelte but curvy body, really gorgeous. And one day she posted her before pic - there was a middle aged, dark haired fat dude there. It was her! Now sure, she did a lot of work, dropped a ton of weight, but who would ever have guessed *that* was hiding THAT!

Now maybe you won't have such amazing results. Maybe you'll just end up 'average' like most women. Or maybe you won't ever pass. You never know until you try. There are women in all those circumstances living their lives, having a great time. You can too.

What does being beautiful get you anyway? I spent my 20's being intoxicated by this newfound beauty post-transition, took a lot of things for granted, was obsessed with being perceived as attractive. But at the end of the day, nothing beats being with someone you love, and you only need one person for that. As I've gotten older and people on the street don't pay attention to me anymore like they used to, it's actually a relief not to have to feel all that pressure to be attractive and to base your self-worth in how people see you. Being happy and being beautiful are not the same thing, and I would rather be happy any day of the week.

every woman starts off as an ugly duckling. its going to be a rough beginning, but your future will be much brighter and more beautiful then what your living now. 

Well, for being out of shape, you can change that if you want to. I'm out of shape also, immensely so, and although a lot of people love themselves and see their beauty without needing to lose weight or look a certain way, I can't do that. Losing weight and working out will make me feel good about myself. If it's something you can change, and you want to change it (for yourself, not for others), then you can try.

As for being ugly...nah. I mean, beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, features, etc. It truly does. And I have to say, actually, I've always hated myself and always felt ugly. And then not long ago I wear a binder and I do this pathetically-drawn mascara facial hair, and I feel better about my appearance than I have in my entire life. Don't rule out self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, it's not even that you're ugly, it's that you're unhappy with how you look now. If you can take more steps towards looking like how you are inside, you might be surprised by how much happier you are with your appearance.

Don't say that honey!
If you are out of shape, diet and exercise can work wonders. And I didn't think HRT would do much for me either, but the combination of the 3 are really helping me feel better about myself. And I would suggest you go take a gander at the before and after section to see this for yourself. There are alot of us who were pretty masculine pre-transition who are now pretty feminine.

Keep hope alive dear.

Quote from: Hopeful cutie on March 19, 2014, 05:13:34 PM
Oh how much I wish to be pretty some day, but I'll never be. I'm too ugly, too out of shape, too masculine to every be beautiful. The hormones will only be able to do so much, I'll still be an ugly beast and never the cutie I wish to be. I look at these transwoman and they are so beautiful, but I know I will never be.

All women are beautiful.

Period.

There isn't any more to it.

The state of being a female, of inhabiting the softer, more compassionate, more sensitive side of humanity is beautiful as it is. Period.

I know several non-passing transwomen. They are among the most beautiful, well-dressed women I know. The care they put into their looks and their joy at being able to live as the females they are radiates into the world as a beauty that cis women cannot approach.

Enjoy womanhood, dear. Beauty is in your future. That I can promise.

Kia Ora,

As Mind is quite now, said "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - Literal meaning - the perception of beauty is subjective!"

Beauty is a characteristic of a person, idea or thing, that provides a perceptual experience of satisfaction or pleasure...It's subjective because there is no actual existence of beauty that can be characterised, ie, defined from the object... It just exists as favorable perceptions by the individual.


Hence the old saying "One man's meat is another man's poison!"

Metta Anatta

I am aware that this sounds corny, but be beautiful on the inside- that's all you can do.
I mean, obviously there are surgeries to fix physical appearance- but the most important thing is to find happiness with what you already have. If you have the money for surgery someday, that will be a plus