I have very thin fine hair and used to have horrible after shower tangles. I use Mane n' Tail shampoo and conditioner - great stuff. When you shower, wash your hair first, then put in lots of conditioner. Work it in with your fingers, and run your fingers through your hair - if you used enough conditioner, your fingers will slide right through it. Then wash/exfoliate/shave, whatever ya gotta do - this gives the conditioner enough time on your hair. Then rinse out the conditioner. Don't scrub at your head when you dry off - just blot with the towel, like you're soaking up a spill from carpet. This will keep any new tangles from forming. Use a wide tooth comb to comb out your hair while it's still fairly wet. If you must blow dry, use the air or low setting.

The best no-tangle product I've ever used is the tube of conditioner that comes with Loreal Preference hair color.  A little goes a long way, and you can use it only once or twice a week as needed, using your other conditioner the other days.

As others have said, unless your hair is super oily, don't wash it every day. If you have to, try just rinsing it and conditioning, no shampoo.

It's important to nourish your long hair or it will become thin and dull. It happened to me so I had to cut my hair shoulder length and start growing all over again. But now I've used a variety of masks and oils and my favorite one is this http://www.kalinka-store.com/products/382  - it's organic and vegan so no guilty conscience here, only healthy beautiful hair.

Quote from: EmilyMI on February 08, 2014, 07:39:54 AM
Any good tips for keeping hair not being tangled so much after showering??  My hair is past my shoulders now and just about ever-time I shower my hair becomes very tangled. Even after I use A LOT of conditioner it still is very tangled? HELP!!!

You really shouldn't need "a lot" (I'm assuming big handfuls?) of conditioner.  My hair is below the shoulder, as well (OK, technically it's an asymmetrical cut with the left side to the crown at about three inches long for fingerwaves, but the rest is working its way back down my back), and the amount of shampoo I use is barely bigger than the area of a US or Canadian quarter (UK 20p coin, roughly), and I use just enough conditioner to coat the hair evenly (mine is in a squeeze bottle, so I start in the centre of my palm and start making a tight spiral/circle, circling maybe five times), then clip it up and rinse it out at the end of my shower.  I also use a hair masque weekly (L'Oreal's new line in the black bottles has a restorative masque that's actually more effective on my hair than a lot of more expensive and/or "professional" brands I've tried).  When I rinse the conditioner out, I use a shower / scalp massager brush --it's palm-sized, has short teeth, and is actually designed for in-shower use.  They look like this, if you're still not sure what I'm talking about.

When I get out of the shower and towel off my hair, things often end up slightly tangled, again, but that's what the Tangle Teezer brush is for (there are similar brands based on the design, but I prefer the original).  A spritz of Miracle Dry Oil also helps, too, but be careful not to use too much, as we should all know how gross excess hair oils look.  Then, depending on the weather and what I have to do, I blow dry.

Giving up the blow-dryer might help, as it'll reduce damage, and damage can increase the rate of tangles, but if your hair is on the especially thick side (or the especially thin side --the more things change, huh?), tangles in long hair are going to be even more unavoidable (I have especially thick hair for its type, and not counting the scalp massager brush in the shower, I seriously brush my hair no less than twice a day), and the key is management.  If you'd really rather avoid tangled hair at some point, there are plenty of pretty, feminine haircuts and styles for shoulder-length-and-shorter hair.  There are many reasons that long hair is a commitment, even basic upkeep before you throw it back into a ponytail is going to be considerably higher maintenance than hair that's shoulder-length-or-shorter.

The thing about the amount of conditioner is true, though, and one of my pet peeves on haircare when I see people advocating using more than what will just coat the hair evenly.  If you think it "works" to use big handfuls, I'm going to tell you what I tell people who swear by leaving Manic Panic hair dye in overnight when the jar says no more than 30min is necessary ("it makes the colour stay so much longer!" they say --ha!):  The hair follicle, even on people with especially thick hair, can only absorb so much of any given product, and putting on more product than the hair is physically able to absorb (or leaving it in long after it's absorbed all the product it can) won't actually do anything besides waste good product, but the person who's convinced themselves that "doing this WORKS!" will likely notice some variant of the placebo effect --it'll seem effective for a while, but eventually one'll need to start using more (or leaving it in the whole day), or maybe one'll switch to a different brand and begin the pattern anew.