I fully understand where you are coming from Brandon. It really sucks for us. We got dealt the short straw since birth, and having to take hormones for the rest of our lives is just one more unfortunate fact of our lives. I'm not particularly thrilled about taking estrogen or having to dilate for the rest of my life, but sadly there's not much we can do about it yet. Maybe in the future things will be different (they've already started having success in artificially grown sex organs that are capable of producing hormones identical to natural sex organs, but it'll still be a long way off before it's an available option), but right now they aren't.
It won't be as bad as we imagine though. Maybe at first it'll be a headache to have to do, but if you think of it, there's plenty we do all our lives without it being burdensome, like brushing our teeth, or washing our hair. It'll just become like those, something that doesn't bother us anymore, it's just part of our lives. It will be fine.