LOL... Guys made fun of me because I have a feminine handshake, so I just started to avoid shaking hands - It drives the religious and political types nuts, but hey, that's their problem not mine 

Pfffff... I have so much ahead of me...

Quote from: Tori on April 01, 2014, 10:05:00 PM
And nails, nails, nails. Women do not do their nails as much these days, but so many mannerisms come from how one works with long, flawlessly painted nails. So much changes, without affecting your own behavior, and they are necessicary adjustments, if you simply grow and paint your nails.

Tori - this is so absolutely true.  I've grown mine quite long, and if I have to use a touch screen keyboard on a phone, well, it's impossible to do it without it looking like a girl. :-)   

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J

I would like to go back a page and comment on the use of acting technique to improve ungraceful male mannerisms and behaviour. There is a body of theory which suggests that one can achieve character from the inside out but for the elimination of masculine, I think there is a lot to be said for first going to neutral to understand what we had been doing as added posture and movement, then through observation and practice to gently work on grace and poise. Be aware of the space you are taking up and moving through. Move through it with smoothness and and a slightly slower pace so that you raise your awareness of what you are doing. As you change posture and how you move, you will also change how you feel. You will feel lighter and your own femininity will be enhanced and create a loop of ever improving grace and beauty. And it is in gentle grace that the beauty of the feminine can be discovered within.

There is also a lot to be said for dance, particularly ballet for helping you feel light and graceful. Although I did dance and mime in my youth, I had lost much of it. After doing an adult ballet bootcamp, much of it came back. 

Quote from: DiDi on April 04, 2014, 09:48:27 AM
I would like to go back a page and comment on the use of acting technique to improve ungraceful male mannerisms and behaviour. There is a body of theory which suggests that one can achieve character from the inside out but for the elimination of masculine, I think there is a lot to be said for first going to neutral to understand what we had been doing as added posture and movement, then through observation and practice to gently work on grace and poise. Be aware of the space you are taking up and moving through. Move through it with smoothness and and a slightly slower pace so that you raise your awareness of what you are doing. As you change posture and how you move, you will also change how you feel. You will feel lighter and your own femininity will be enhanced and create a loop of ever improving grace and beauty. And it is in gentle grace that the beauty of the feminine can be discovered within.

There is also a lot to be said for dance, particularly ballet for helping you feel light and graceful. Although I did dance and mime in my youth, I had lost much of it. After doing an adult ballet bootcamp, much of it came back. 

Thank you DiDi, That make a lot of sense... But at my age, I am going to have to pass on the Ballet... LOL... And if I did attemp it I would hope no one had a video camera around. 

Quote from: DiDi on April 04, 2014, 09:48:27 AM
There is also a lot to be said for dance, particularly ballet for helping you feel light and graceful. Although I did dance and mime in my youth, I had lost much of it. After doing an adult ballet bootcamp, much of it came back. 

Yeah I guess I didn't even think about dance... I've been doing ballet / jazz since age 7, then modern since high school, and have danced in the downtown New York scene in between my bouts of schooling. Soooo glad to have totally supportive, non-gender policing parents. There's so much stigma attached to dance for young boys but somehow my family never had a problem with it.

Quote from: DiDi on April 04, 2014, 09:48:27 AM
I would like to go back a page and comment on the use of acting technique to improve ungraceful male mannerisms and behaviour. There is a body of theory which suggests that one can achieve character from the inside out but for the elimination of masculine, I think there is a lot to be said for first going to neutral to understand what we had been doing as added posture and movement, then through observation and practice to gently work on grace and poise. Be aware of the space you are taking up and moving through. Move through it with smoothness and and a slightly slower pace so that you raise your awareness of what you are doing. As you change posture and how you move, you will also change how you feel. You will feel lighter and your own femininity will be enhanced and create a loop of ever improving grace and beauty. And it is in gentle grace that the beauty of the feminine can be discovered within.

There is also a lot to be said for dance, particularly ballet for helping you feel light and graceful. Although I did dance and mime in my youth, I had lost much of it. After doing an adult ballet bootcamp, much of it came back. 

Thanks for posting these suggestions DIDI, they sound like great ideas. 

Quote from: Eva Marie on April 03, 2014, 10:28:13 PM
What i've personally seen and experienced is that women don't really "shake" hands - they will reach out and take your hand but will sometimes cover it with the other hand, or hold your hand while looking you in the eyes. The grip tends to be relaxed.

A vigorous guy style handshake with a firm grip? I haven't ever gotten one from a woman, and that's what I did that one time before I caught myself. Duh!

That explains so much, lol. I always wondered why some girls gave me a weird look.