After talking about how my mom wants me to wear a dress to prom with my friends, one of my friends told me it was time to come out. She basically asked me what am I so afraid of and that my mom has to love me regardless. She said it'd better to do so I don't have to feel uncomfortable all the time and just finally be myself. I had my doubts about this but then recalled a situation where my mom asked me if I was a guy and if I wanted to transition many years ago.

Anyway, I think it's time I come out. I'm tired of not being myself and lying to her all the time. I was wondering what pre-cautions I should take before doing so? I'm sure she may not be understanding so I was wondering what I can do to make her understand how I've been feeling for the past few years.

I've already wrote my letter and am thinking about putting it in an envelope and leaving it on the desk before I leave for school in the morning.

Your mom may need to be educated. Transgender issues have gotten a lot of visibility lately, but not everyone is tuned in, and some of the media coverage is still atrocious.

I'd suggest making sure she knows:
* You did not choose to be transgender. It's something that you were wired with from birth.
* There is no cure for transgender. No one has ever found a way to make it go away.
* Transgender is serious. Depression, anxiety, and even suicide are common among transgender people who ignore their condition.
* The only treatment that has been proven to work is to transition to live as your true gender.

Good luck Rhys. We're here if you need us.

Well when I was coming out I did it very gradually, like dropping hints and commenting on feminine subjects with interest. When I started to notice that my mom was picking up on hints I just kind of made my hints more powerful! Eventually I was ready to do it without much fear of her reaction. My parents are very religious and against my way of life by the way, so if I can do it so can you! Good luck and just remember to make it as easy on her as you can, life is a two way street so drive careful =)

Quote from: BlossomRevane on April 06, 2014, 03:28:49 PM
Well when I was coming out I did it very gradually, like dropping hints and commenting on feminine subjects with interest. When I started to notice that my mom was picking up on hints I just kind of made my hints more powerful! Eventually I was ready to do it without much fear of her reaction. My parents are very religious and against my way of life by the way, so if I can do it so can you! Good luck and just remember to make it as easy on her as you can, life is a two way street so drive careful =)

Really? That's very interesting. Thanks for sharing and the advice. Definitely using it

It really worked for me and I am sure it made it easier on my mom as well. The reason I say to be easy on her as well is because it can be quite difficult for a parent to deal with, lots of parents really just don't understand what you are going through. Empathy is probably the greatest sense I have developed while beginning my transition! Just keep sending little hints out until your mom seems to be at ease.

Try to just tell her everything. That you are her daughter & need her help in your life. And that you love her so much which I'm sure you do.