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Ladies, how important is it for you to be beautiful?

Started by suzifrommd, April 11, 2014, 07:21:23 AM

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How important is it for you to be beautiful?

Not that important. I don't put much effort into my looks.
Only for myself. I work on my looks so I'll feel good, but I don't care as much how other people see me
Very important. I put a lot of time and effort into my looks because I want people to see me as beautiful
I'm not MtF, but I want to see the results of the poll

jussmoi4nao

Quote from: mandonlym on April 13, 2014, 07:34:30 PM
By the way Abby I forgot to mention that I only like you for your appearance. :p When are you coming to New York???

Hahah, ohh my god, though, I would loove to go to New York. A road trip sounds fantastic right now. I'm sure I'll go one day and you'll have to be my tour guide!
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Jessica Merriman

Lets get back on track folks. This is not the sexuality topic. :police:
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KelsieJ

At my age I realize I never will be. I never can be. I just want/need/must get a lot thinner, mostly for myself, but also because of how people see me
Be the change you want to be :)
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: KelsieJ on April 13, 2014, 07:47:24 PM
At my age I realize I never will be. I never can be. I just want/need/must get a lot thinner, mostly for myself, but also because of how people see me

You already are beautiful.  And I don't mean that in a "everyone is beautiful" kind of way. 
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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KelsieJ

Thank you Caysee honey, but I'm really not. I'm ok-ish in the face, from the right angle. From the wrong angle, I scream "testosterone"....and from the neck down, I look like a linebacker..... :/

It's something I'm working on though......which is why they call it a transition. EVerything is a work in progress
Be the change you want to be :)
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sad panda

Quote from: Chic on April 13, 2014, 05:45:59 PM
How can you ensure the hormones work? I don't want to have a year go by and then suddenly I'm like, "derp nothing's happening, better go get the dosage increased". I want the first whole year to be effective.

Well in my case it was pretty ridiculous, I was self medding with a low dose until i could find an endo (since I was full time and didn't want to stay pre hrt) and it took 6 minths until my appointment, then we found out my T was still 700... then it took a long time to find a dose high enough to get my T down. I think it's still about 100 even but yeah I started seeing actual changes when it went from 200 to 100.

So just get frequent bloodwork and nag your endo... but i was a strange case too bc i had really high T. most people don't have that problem and a standard dose works right away.
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mandonlym

Quote from: Abbyxo on April 13, 2014, 07:40:23 PM
Hahah, ohh my god, though, I would loove to go to New York. A road trip sounds fantastic right now. I'm sure I'll go one day and you'll have to be my tour guide!

Yay! We can go makeup shopping at Barney's. :) This is a thread about being beautiful after all... anyone else around New York care to join us? Give a holler!
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K Style Addiction

It's very important to me, anyone who knows me knows that. I feel ugly majority of the time and it's one of the main reasons for my sadness.
All I can say is that my life is pretty plain, I like watchin' the puddles gather rain.

Despite all my rage, I'm still just a rat in a cage
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MbutF

Quote from: Donna Troy on April 13, 2014, 10:41:30 PM
It's very important to me, anyone who knows me knows that. I feel ugly majority of the time and it's one of the main reasons for my sadness.

You are certainly not ugly :)

But I know that feeling ugly can have nothing to do with how good you look. It's more than that, and it's hard to explain....
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K Style Addiction

QuoteYou are certainly not ugly

I'm not pretty either am i though :(
All I can say is that my life is pretty plain, I like watchin' the puddles gather rain.

Despite all my rage, I'm still just a rat in a cage
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Jill F

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V M

QuoteLadies, how important is it for you to be beautiful?

It is almost, but not quite as important as deciding on something to make for dinner and/or other important daily aspects of life
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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crowcrow223

Quote from: Donna Troy on April 14, 2014, 01:39:43 AM
I'm not pretty either am i though :(

I don't meant to turn it into an interview, but what exactly bothers you?
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Lady_Oracle

I've worked on my image to fit my true self better if that makes sense? In doing so I've managed to attain this natural beauty without makeup. Which is just like a basic skin care routine and I make sure I stay constant about my hair care. All of these little factors make a grand difference on how you portray your personal beauty. I love makeup but I don't wear it as much as I'd like to for the simple fact I don't go to formal events at all. If anything I do light makeup and just brings out my best features even more. I don't wear makeup to please other people. I wear it cause I really love makeup, to me it's an art form that takes practice to get good at, like doing any other form of art.

I really want to get into modeling hence my love for makeup and fashion. Which is also another part of your personal beauty. Your style of clothing, can make the biggest difference in the world regarding your self image/self esteem. Nothing like the perfect pair of jeans to give you a confidence boost. Beauty in our society is not just our physical features but our entire presentation.

See this is where cis women are ahead of us though. They've had their entire life to work on their image for themselves. They understand what works for them and what doesn't, what they feel personally comfortable with. However in the end its whatever works best for you! A lot of us trans women go through an experimentation phase that lasts for what seems like forever. But eventually you do find yourself and what works for you, just like any other women does. We're just late to the game is all but we have the time to find ourselves. I mean this is the whole point of transition. Its that true beauty equals being ultimately happy and rocking whatever style you love. Whether that's boy clothes, super fem clothes. Lots of makeup, no makeup, it doesn't matter. I'll say it again it's what makes you feel ultimately happy and comfy. Worrying and trying to achieve an impossible standard of beauty is just setting yourself up for disappoint and even more struggles.

And yes pretty people are always gonna be treated better in our society unfortunately. But with the right look that makes you feel good about yourself thus bringing up your self esteem. It can bring out that internal beauty. You may not look like a runway model but in the end it's about self confidence. As long you have that, no one in this world can stop you.
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Allyda

Quote from: Donna Troy on April 14, 2014, 01:39:43 AM
I'm not pretty either am i though :(
If that's you in your Avatar, I don't know where your getting the idea you aint pretty.
Allyda
Full Time August 2009
HRT Dec 27 2013
VFS [ ? ]
FFS [ ? ]
SRS Spring 2015



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spooky

it's extremely important.  i don't feel right if i'm not looking my best.

and it's not *always* about being "beautiful."  there are a lot of different looks i might go for depending on my mood.
:icon_chick:
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FrancisAnn

I'm sure trying to look beautiful. Appointment with a new plastic surgeon for Friday, board certified, very near by & recommended by my electro lady. This will be my 3rd plastic surgeon to visit so I know more of what to expect. I'm hopeful for a neck & face lift with lower eye work & perhaps upper eye lid work to open up my eyes more. My elecro lady was so funny. She said just tell him you want to look nice. He will make you beautiful & all the men will be after you soon. I want to look my best & become the nicest woman I can possibly become.   
mtF, mid 50's, always a girl since childhood, HRT (Spiro, E & Fin.) since 8-13. Hormone levels are t at 12 & estrogen at 186. Face lift & eye lid surgery in 2014. Abdominoplasty/tummy tuck & some facial surgery May, 2015. Life is good for me. Love long nails & handsome men! Hopeful for my GRS & a nice normal depth vagina maybe by late summer. 5' 8", 180 pounds, 14 dress size, size 9.5 shoes. I'm kind of an elegant woman & like everything pink, nice & neet. Love my nails & classic Revlon Red. Moving back to Florida, so excited but so much work moving
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Seyranna

I resent my "prettiness" a lot. I don't want to be pretty. Never wore makeup, never had any fancy hairdo, never wore jewelery or earrings, never done my nails, hate to sexualize/objectify my body and I look like what people call a babe anyway >.<

Getting cat called half a dozen times a day and having random guys start walking with you on the street and hit on you is an absolute pain in the ass and I don't even dress "sexy" or show skin. Used to be fun an validating for like 2 months then it became horrible.

Not meant as a disrespect to anyone here I know some women are biologically hardwired to feel the need to be pretty but just not me. To me getting all dolled up translates into being shallow and being shallow translates into intellectual mediocrity as it has no function.

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mandonlym

Quote from: Seyranna on April 16, 2014, 07:38:06 AM
Not meant as a disrespect to anyone here I know some women are biologically hardwired to feel the need to be pretty but just not me. To me getting all dolled up translates into being shallow and being shallow translates into intellectual mediocrity as it has no function.

Thank you. I don't think I've met any other trans woman who feels this way. But it comes from privilege in part don't you think? We get attention regularly so we take it for granted. Those who don't want more of it.
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Miss_Bungle1991

Quote from: Seyranna on April 16, 2014, 07:38:06 AM
Getting cat called half a dozen times a day and having random guys start walking with you on the street and hit on you is an absolute pain in the ass and I don't even dress "sexy" or show skin. Used to be fun an validating for like 2 months then it became horrible.

I've had some of that stuff happen to me throughout my transition. My style of dress is as about as boring as it gets and I NEVER get dolled up....ever. But, on the one hand I found it validating since they obviously wouldn't hit on me if they thought that I was a dude. But, on the other hand, I thought that it was absolutely hilarious since  I'm a lesbian and guys do absolutely nothing for me.  :D
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