Quote from: Veronica M on April 15, 2014, 10:18:37 AM
Personally I think it was like others have said here as to him being a ->-bleeped-<-... Screw him.... (Opps, poor choice of words)... LOL

You know, they don't have to be all ->-bleeped-<-s. Some people are good at clocking because they themselves are trans, or are simply damned rude. As has been said, it's sometimes the intangible things that gives a trans person away. If you're newly transitioned then this may be expected. Becoming a woman doesn't happen overnight. We can use the experience in a positive way to learn and adapt. Makes you stronger.

Quote from: Nicolette on April 15, 2014, 10:35:37 AM
You know, they don't have to be all ->-bleeped-<-s. Some people are good at clocking because they themselves are trans, or are simply damned rude. As has been said, it's sometimes the intangible things that gives a trans person away. If you're newly transitioned then this may be expected. Becoming a woman doesn't happen overnight. We can use the experience in a positive way to learn and adapt. Makes you stronger.

Good point Nicolette, Never thought about it that way. And yes, people can be very rude at times. So true on the happening overnight. We could only wish... LOL. I try to take things one day at a time, and look at the positives rather than the negitives, but learn something from both. Seems to keep a smile on my face that way.

Quote from: Veronica M on April 15, 2014, 10:18:37 AM
Personally I think it was like others have said here as to him being a ->-bleeped-<-... Screw him.... (Opps, poor choice of words)... LOL

I couldn't agree more with you Veronica.  Especially after making a contradicting remark like that. 

Quote from: Nicolette on April 15, 2014, 10:35:37 AM
You know, they don't have to be all ->-bleeped-<-s. Some people are good at clocking because they themselves are trans, or are simply damned rude. As has been said, it's sometimes the intangible things that gives a trans person away. If you're newly transitioned then this may be expected. Becoming a woman doesn't happen overnight. We can use the experience in a positive way to learn and adapt. Makes you stronger.

Good thoughts there Nicolette. I spent a lot of time watching women and the way the do things {walk, sit, eat, etc.} before I started my transition many years ago, just so that I wouldn't stand out like a sore thumb, and I think it's paid off. So I really don't know what could have been obvious to this guy? But he could have very well have been a Trans ->-bleeped-<-, and maybe that's why those other people that he asked me about are no longer coming to the library. 

Quote from: Gina Taylor on April 14, 2014, 09:45:49 AM
Last Friday as I was leaving the library and a gentleman on a bike came riding up to me and told me that he knows that I'm a Transgender and then he asked if I knew some others that he knew that came to the library as well. I told him that I didn't know them. Then when I asked how he knew that I was a Trans, he told me that I was obvious. But he couldn't tell me exactly what was so obvious about me. 

The human brain is particularly good at recognizing gender differences without even knowing what clues it's picking up on so unless you are really really passable you are going to get clocked.

I'm pretty good at being able to spot someone in public who is trans* but only because I know what to look... for given they are things I'm trying to "conceal" myself. Other people know, or think they know, for whatever reason... ->-bleeped-<-, ally, hater, trans* curious, whatever. Regardless of his motives the guy was a jacka$$...rude and insensitive, quite happy to intrude into your space and kick the cart. Sorry it happened, hopefully it will be an extremely rare event into the future. 

I'm sorry that this happened to you Gina. I must have been very upsetting for you.
The important thing is that you are woman enough to know who you are and for that you have nothing to be ashamed of. The shame is on that guy for not accepting you and not allowing you go go about your daily life in private.
You are a woman no matter what that guy says or thinks.

Hugs,
Ciara.

Quote from: Amy1988 on April 16, 2014, 04:49:42 PM
The human brain is particularly good at recognizing gender differences without even knowing what clues it's picking up on so unless you are really really passable you are going to get clocked.

Very good point there Amy. That guy gave me his e-mail address and I sent him an e-mail asking if he could tell me exactly what was so obvious about me, and here it is a week later, and I've heard nothing. Maybe he just got his jollies from meeting me or spending some time with me or something. Who knows??? I don't overdress to attract any attention to myself, so I don't know what he could have picked up that gave me away?

Quote from: Ms Grace on April 16, 2014, 05:17:00 PM
I'm pretty good at being able to spot someone in public who is trans* but only because I know what to look... for given they are things I'm trying to "conceal" myself. Other people know, or think they know, for whatever reason... ->-bleeped-<-, ally, hater, trans* curious, whatever. Regardless of his motives the guy was a jacka$$...rude and insensitive, quite happy to intrude into your space and kick the cart. Sorry it happened, hopefully it will be an extremely rare event into the future. 

Thanks for your kindful words Ms. Grace. Like yourself, I can easily pick up on the trans myself {it takes one to know one} but as said I haven't heard or seen that guy since, and I hope it's the last I'll see of him or else I'll get my boyfriend after him, and he's no  one to mess around with.

Quote from: Ciara on April 17, 2014, 07:15:19 AM
I'm sorry that this happened to you Gina. I must have been very upsetting for you.
The important thing is that you are woman enough to know who you are and for that you have nothing to be ashamed of. The shame is on that guy for not accepting you and not allowing you go go about your daily life in private.
You are a woman no matter what that guy says or thinks.

Hugs,
Ciara.

You're absolutely right Ciara, and I sure don't need no low life telling me that I'm not a woman. These sort of incidents will only make me stronger in my womanhood!

Quote from: Gina Taylor on April 17, 2014, 11:13:20 AM
Thanks for your kindful words Ms. Grace. Like yourself, I can easily pick up on the trans myself {it takes one to know one} but as said I haven't heard or seen that guy since, and I hope it's the last I'll see of him or else I'll get my boyfriend after him, and he's no  one to mess around with.

That's good to hear Gena... By the way I like your shoes.. Me and heel won't work as one I'm a total clutes  and two I am 5' 11" The heels thing is going to take some practice if I do wear them... LOL

Been clocked a few times myself. I just took it all in stride.

Quote from: Veronica M on April 17, 2014, 11:21:26 AM
That's good to hear Gina... By the way I like your shoes.. Me and heel won't work as one I'm a total clutes  and two I am 5' 11" The heels thing is going to take some practice if I do wear them... LOL

He probably noticed my strength and how I wasn't gonna let him talk down to me. It's amazing on how much of a strong woman I've become in the last year and the s**t I've had to put up with just to maintain my femininity. Thanks for the sweet compliment on my shoes. They're actually ballerina slippers by Lei available at Wal-Mart and I wear them all the time. It's a shame that you can't wear heels.  Guess you'll have to look for an alternative.

Quote from: gennee on April 17, 2014, 02:01:21 PM
Been clocked a few times myself. I just took it all in stride.

Y'know Gennee, if it happens a little more, and I'm sure it will, I'll just take on the same attitude that you've had and I too will take it in my stride and won't make much of a bother of it. 

Quote from: gennee on April 17, 2014, 02:01:21 PM
Been clocked a few times myself. I just took it all in stride.

I imagine I'd do the same.