Can anyone suggest a good therapist in the Boston area? I'm really concerned about ending up with a therapist who sees me as nothing more than a paycheck. Also, I'm assuming they would, but would a seasoned therapist be in position to judge whether or not I could pass? I know that could be tough to judge starting from nothing, but I'd be nice to have some hope. Thanks in advance...

Hi,
I'm not from Boston and I'm not a therapist, but if that is your photograph in your avatar then you do not need a therapist to confirm that you will pass. You are a stunning looking girl.

Thank you so much, that means a lot more than you know, but I'm still unsure. I feel like an in person assessment is what I need.

I'm 6'0" and made of muscle (slim though) with MASSIVE hands and would say I have fairly thick bones (thin in some parts) not broad, but def bulky in a few key areas. That's also a wig and Ive got a almost misleading amount of makeup on to cover my beard and soften my features. I mean, that's my face, but I'd need a bit of ffs, electrolysis and a hair transplant if I wanted to look that way without caking on so much make up.

It's really my skeleton, mainly hands and ribs, coupled with height that is alarming to me...

Oh and the veins, my god the veins, I'm worried about those too. It doesn't seem to take much to get the veins in my hands and arms bulging. Even my massive knobby hands look reasonable sometimes, but once the veins come out, no way...

I wouldn't worry too much about your height heights a size. My wife has a friend and she is 6'3", broad and a very attractive woman. I understand what you say about the wig and beard. I have the same problem.
What in trying to say is that you are a long way there before you even start. If I could look half as good as you, I would be a very happy girl.

Thanks again, it really isn't the height that bothers me, it's just the general shape of my skeleton and my hand size/knobbyness.

Nice to see someone who relates on the hair and beard. I'm by no strech bald, but I definitely have had my hl recede and I ve thinned a good deal across over about 4 years. Still got a lot tho, so hormones and a ht would probably give me a good head of hair. The beard is hell, thick and dark. I can never fully cover it, even when totally clean shaven and with layers of hq makeup. My face can feel totally smooth, but in a lot of areas there will always be the apperence of stubble. I literally couldn't pass as female right now because of it. My makeup either looks so gross with so much on that it's clear that I'm male or the beard shows trough and it's clear that I'm male...

Thanks again on the comments...

By the way.......I love your city, Boston. My son lives there so I have visited a few times. Its a very special city.

Quote from: Ciara on April 19, 2014, 11:32:27 AM
By the way.......I love your city, Boston. My son lives there so I have visited a few times. Its a very special city.

It's a really beautiful city, way underrated as far as being a tourist destination IMO. I've lived here my entire life, but really haven't experienced it, or anything at all though. I've basically been on my own with no friends since high school ended about 7-8 years ago.

Sad, but if there were a party and I was asked to bring one person, I'd have no one to call. I was super popular in HS and consider myself to be fairly bright, knowledgable and interesting. I also understand that everyone has problems, some serious, which may go unnoticed - so I try to be as kind as I can be. You just never know what someone is dealing with, who am I to make things worse? It's pretty depressing being alone always, especially when your dealing with gender issues and feel that your totally top quality friend material, but oh well...

Quote from: TheQuestion on April 19, 2014, 11:50:04 AM
It's a really beautiful city, way underrated as far as being a tourist destination IMO. I've lived here my entire life, but really haven't experienced it, or anything at all though. I've basically been on my own with no friends since high school ended about 7-8 years ago.

Sad, but if there were a party and I was asked to bring one person, I'd have no one to call. I was super popular in HS and consider myself to be fairly bright, knowledgable and interesting. I also understand that everyone has problems, some serious, which may go unnoticed - so I try to be as kind as I can be. You just never know what someone is dealing with, who am I to make things worse? It's pretty depressing being alone always, especially when your dealing with gender issues and feel that your totally top quality friend material, but oh well...

I'm really sorry to hear that. It is not good for s young girl like you to be alone. We can sometimes allow our issues to take over our lives and isolate us. This too has happened to me more than once in the past. Being transgender carries no shame. I have learned to live with it as an important part of my life.
I think you are right to seek a therapist. It will be good for you to talk to someone. There is another girl here at Susan's (Devlyn Marie) from Boston. She may be able to recommend a therapist. I'll drop her a note. She may help you.

Quote from: Ciara on April 19, 2014, 01:28:26 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that. It is not good for s young girl like you to be alone. We can sometimes allow our issues to take over our lives and isolate us. This too has happened to me more than once in the past. Being transgender carries no shame. I have learned to live with it as an important part of my life.
I think you are right to seek a therapist. It will be good for you to talk to someone. There is another girl here at Susan's (Devlyn Marie) from Boston. She may be able to recommend a therapist. I'll drop her a note. She may help you.

Hi Ciara, I sent you a message thanking you, but I figured I'd do it here as well - thank you.

Hi,

Fenway Health is a good place for full transgender health care.  They also have many therapists there.  Also you might look at The Meeting Place in Jamaica Plains - they have many therapists experienced with gender issues.

Good luck
Lori