So my fiancee has had problems with not getting pregnant for a couple of years now. She recently found out she had to have a DNC to try to solve the problems. Well she had asked me to postpone my transition until December to try and see if things work. Well a couple of months have gone by and still no regular anything. Hell I'm getting really depressed because of everything...to the point that I'm considering moving out.
Well before I go to the more drastic measures of moving, do y'all have any suggestions on how to tell her that it's obvious the DNC didn't work and as soon as I get my insurance thru work in getting a copy of my letter from my old therapist and contacting a doctor.
If ya'll have no other suggestions other then just say it and plan on moving soon after...oh well lol...i tried.

Thanks yall
Kari.

If kids are something that are important to you and you need to transition, have you considered storing your biological material?  Maybe that way there will be some compromise and she can try again in the future?

Sorry if that doesn't work, but it seems like a possible solution.

Sorry, not sure what a DNC is (some kind of assisted conception process?) - perhaps you can bank sperm then there'd be no need to hold back from transition?

If it's that easy for you to walk away after her not getting pregnant after only a few months, maybe you shouldn't have kids with her. Once you have kids, walking away shouldn't be an option. I'd think about storing your semen for future chances would be the prudent thing to do, but only if you don't find it so easy to split from her. Children are a lifelong responsibility, and marriages fall apart too easily nowadays, and the children are the ones damaged by the split. Oh well, lol....I tried? Sounds like a real match made in heaven to me.

Quote from: Miranda Catherine on April 20, 2014, 11:31:51 PM
If it's that easy for you to walk away after her not getting pregnant after only a few months, maybe you shouldn't have kids with her. Once you have kids, walking away shouldn't be an option. I'd think about storing your semen for future chances would be the prudent thing to do, but only if you don't find it so easy to split from her. Children are a lifelong responsibility, and marriages fall apart too easily nowadays, and the children are the ones damaged by the split. Oh well, lol....I tried? Sounds like a real match made in heaven to me.

Bingo! Couldn't have said it better, quite literally. You shouldn't be having kids if you can just leave like this. Also, why doesn't banking work? I don't produce sperm or much T on my best days pre-HRT, so i don't have this problem but I like men, so they provide a lot of sperm. I mean really I always wondered how men filled those bottles but now that I have been with a bunch, it makes sense.

However, do you love her? That's the question you need to answer. I understand the need to transition, but do you think she is just holding you back in general?

D and C : Dilation and curettage.   Basically scraping out the lining of the uterus.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dilation_and_curettage

Quote from: Ms Grace on April 20, 2014, 10:54:10 PM
Sorry, not sure what a DNC is (some kind of assisted conception process?) -