I think I might be bi. Sorry , not straight. Some guys are so hot. I have never been with a male. I wonder how the fantasy compares to reality. I am getting less attracted to females. I wish I knew and could figure myself out.

I'm pretty much bisexual, but I have a stronger sexual preference for women.

I'm 100,000,000% straight

Like someone else said men make me feel a way a woman never could.

I dated guys growing up pre-transition and now. For me it's a no brainer, It's all about balance and opposites. I need that masculine energy to feed who I am as a person and a woman. I will admit I had light crushes on certain girls when I was in school but never acted on them. I tried but it was laughable just the thought of me being with a female when all I wanted was their shoes and hair styles lol.

What I've noticed here, and I've had this explained to me by a few other posters, is that most lesbians were or are married. And because they grew up in a time where they felt the pressure to just be a guy that's all they knew was to be with a woman. I makes you wonder though were they just lesbian because of their circumstances, or would they be straight had they grew up in a different time??

Quote from: Janae on April 23, 2014, 02:53:22 PM
What I've noticed here, and I've had this explained to me by a few other posters, is that most lesbians were or are married.... I makes you wonder though were they just lesbian because of their circumstances, or would they be straight had they grew up in a different time??

Sexually I'm bisexual, emotionally I could never have a relationship with a man. I can be friends with them but derive no emotional comfort from them. This is defining "man" entirely from the brain and behavior perspective. A macho man or a butch lesbian would both be hard for me to trust.

Dee

Quote from: Janae on April 23, 2014, 02:53:22 PM
What I've noticed here, and I've had this explained to me by a few other posters, is that most lesbians were or are married. And because they grew up in a time where they felt the pressure to just be a guy that's all they knew was to be with a woman. I makes you wonder though were they just lesbian because of their circumstances, or would they be straight had they grew up in a different time??

That's a really interesting question.  From what I see, there is a age gap between those that are straight and lesbian.  While this is a generilization that doesn't apply to everyone, I have noticed that those under 30 when they start tend to either be straight or bi and those over 30 when they transition are more likely bi or lesbians.  And it seems to be the case regardless of the time or era that they transitioned. Maybe society plays a role and people feel forced to date against their own preferences; however, that seems weird to me.  Like I could understand the pressure for a "guy" to be with a woman, but even if one was pressured could that really make someone attracted to them or influence their overall orientation? I really doubt that.  It seems like most who got married love their partner and are attracted to them too rather than not.  I think it's probably more that sexuality is so diverse and there are many lesbians in the trans community.  In any case, gay, straight bi or whatever, it's really not important as sexuality shouldn't be as big of a deal as everyone else in the world makes it.

My sexuality seems to be all over the place these days.
Sometimes I think I'm gay and then boom I get a boyfriend.

I have a boyfriend now and it's gonna stay that way for the foreseeable future

Quote from: GorJess on April 23, 2014, 12:04:07 AM
Just your average, run-of-the-mill 21 year old heterosexual girl here. Never had any relationships prior to transition, won't until after SRS, it's just not comfortable for me, as-is. Why? Well, I am female, and female does not equate to male in a relationship. Simple!

Good for you young girl. You are smart. It is emotionally a terrible strain being with a man before GRS. So complicated & stressful.

In my case I would say I'm straight but I'm attracted by a very few women

I just don't like scratchy beards or body hair. Boys are icky. 

Quote from: JamesG on April 23, 2014, 10:51:58 PM
I just don't like scratchy beards or body hair. Boys are icky. 

Lol... Their not so bad... But some are icky if they don't take care of themselves... Then yes... defiantly icky...

my sexuality is somewhat hard to explain, usually I just call myself bi to keep it simple.

but its more like straight because I can be sexually attracted to women and men, but I need a man in a relationship. before two days ago when I started HRT I was more likely to lust over women but now I really have no desire to be with one other than curiosity being as I have never been with one sexually.

I've been in a monogamous relationship with my man for 19 months now and I'm VERY attracted to him sexually. He's strictly straight, doesn't touch my frontal area and wants me to get SRS when I can, although if I never got it it wouldn't end our relationship. He isn't hairy, though he has some chest hair. I love to lie my head on his warm chest after we make love and listen to his heartbeat. Someone said they don't like guys with facial hair and I only do with him and his once in awhile 'forgot to shave' kisses. The most intense, sensual and sexually wonderful feelings I've ever experienced is being under him in the 'missionary position' and being kissed by him, because it all heightens the knowledge we're in love with each other. I can hardly wait though, to finally get SRS, because I've fantasized for more than 45 years that I have a vagina, but until the time comes when I can actually get it, I'll happily make do with what I have!                           

Quote from: sad panda on April 22, 2014, 01:35:26 PM
Maybe since you actually like women, that is projective identification and you are actually fantasizing about what you would like in a girl, availability, and being the girl in that picture gives an element of control. What do you think?

Well, that's an interesting question. What you're saying is pretty much what therapists would tell me when I went to them, a million years ago, describing how I felt. They said it was just a fantasy, or a projection, or a phase, or whatever. Meanwhile it became harder and harder (well, actually, softer and softer!!) for me to have sex with women. And it's also the case that four or five times in my life I've met a guy - just in passing - and had an instant, omigod, heart-pounding, tummy-flipping, instant reaction to them, on a completely unconscious, animal level.

But for whatever reason, I never, ever had any desire to have sex with a man, as long as I was a man. And the dysphoria never, ever went away.

I think it makes more sense than you might imagine. I have a friend who was born a cis-female. 'She' was a lesbian, who only ever had relationships with other women. Then 'she' transitioned. Now that he is a man, does he still have relationships with women? No. He's a gay man.

The point is, sexuality and gender are two different things. My friend is gay. Irrespective of her/his gender presentation, (s)he has always liked to have sex with the same sex.

In my case, I have always seen heterosex, as the closest thing I can get to what I want, because there's a woman in the bed, even if I can't, in physical terms, be her.

Another gay, male friend once said to me that he couldn't understand the concept of lesbian sex because, "I can't imagine having sex without at least one cock in the bed."

Well, I want at least one vagina. And if it can't be mine ...

As for the idea that it's all just fantasy ... Honestly, hon, I came to terms with the fact that it wasn't just fantasy years  ago. Nor is it suppressed homosexuality. I'm trans. I know I'm trans. If you asked my incredibly experienced gender therapist about me, she'd say, "Yes, she's trans."

Circumstances which would seem bizarre to you, I'm sure, but which would make perfect sense to other people of my age, with similar experiences, have prevented me expressing my trans identity in my life. Or maybe I've been able to get by well enough as a man, and been rewarded highly enough to make transition seem too risky until now.

But I'm trans. I promise!

Quote from: Carlita on April 25, 2014, 09:15:54 AM
Well, that's an interesting question. What you're saying is pretty much what therapists would tell me when I went to them, a million years ago, describing how I felt. They said it was just a fantasy, or a projection, or a phase, or whatever. Meanwhile it became harder and harder (well, actually, softer and softer!!) for me to have sex with women. And it's also the case that four or five times in my life I've met a guy - just in passing - and had an instant, omigod, heart-pounding, tummy-flipping, instant reaction to them, on a completely unconscious, animal level.

But for whatever reason, I never, ever had any desire to have sex with a man, as long as I was a man. And the dysphoria never, ever went away.

I think it makes more sense than you might imagine. I have a friend who was born a cis-female. 'She' was a lesbian, who only ever had relationships with other women. Then 'she' transitioned. Now that he is a man, does he still have relationships with women? No. He's a gay man.

The point is, sexuality and gender are two different things. My friend is gay. Irrespective of her/his gender presentation, (s)he has always liked to have sex with the same sex.

In my case, I have always seen heterosex, as the closest thing I can get to what I want, because there's a woman in the bed, even if I can't, in physical terms, be her.

Another gay, male friend once said to me that he couldn't understand the concept of lesbian sex because, "I can't imagine having sex without at least one cock in the bed."

Well, I want at least one vagina. And if it can't be mine ...

As for the idea that it's all just fantasy ... Honestly, hon, I came to terms with the fact that it wasn't just fantasy years  ago. Nor is it suppressed homosexuality. I'm trans. I know I'm trans. If you asked my incredibly experienced gender therapist about me, she'd say, "Yes, she's trans."

Circumstances which would seem bizarre to you, I'm sure, but which would make perfect sense to other people of my age, with similar experiences, have prevented me expressing my trans identity in my life. Or maybe I've been able to get by well enough as a man, and been rewarded highly enough to make transition seem too risky until now.

But I'm trans. I promise!

Sorry... i wasn't calling you not trans! There's no requirements for being trans... I just meant, I thought it was interesting that you fantasized about being someone with a different orientation than what you actually wanted. I always got the idea you can't change who you are physically attracted to. But, if you think it is just the way you express an attraction to men, then there's nothing wrong with that.

Quote from: JamesG on April 23, 2014, 10:51:58 PM
I just don't like scratchy beards or body hair. Boys are icky. 

They maybe icky for you but I love em! And while I don't find full beards sexy I do find that a man with stubble to be the sexiest thing ever! Oh and muscles too I love muscles! 

Quote from: sad panda on April 25, 2014, 09:44:30 AM
Sorry... i wasn't calling you not trans! There's no requirements for being trans... I just meant, I thought it was interesting that you fantasized about being someone with a different orientation than what you actually wanted. I always got the idea you can't change who you are physically attracted to. But, if you think it is just the way you express an attraction to men, then there's nothing wrong with that.

Cool!

Quote from: Heather on April 25, 2014, 09:45:37 AM
They maybe icky for you but I love em! And while I don't find full beards sexy I do find that a man with stubble to be the sexiest thing ever! Oh and muscles too I love muscles! 

I've always thought I was weird or different for liking facial hair the way I do.  A lot of girls I know aren't into it or like guys clean shaven, but I've never found a man out there that doesn't look better with a little stubble.  I even like full beards if they are maintained, but it depends on the perosn. I don't know, I'm wondering if we are the outliers here of if it's more common than I thought.

Quote from: learningtolive on April 25, 2014, 01:50:06 PM
I've always thought I was weird or different for liking facial hair the way I do.  A lot of girls I know aren't into it or like guys clean shaven, but I've never found a man out there that doesn't look better with a little stubble.  I even like full beards if they are maintained, but it depends on the perosn. I don't know, I'm wondering if we are the outliers here of if it's more common than I thought.

I can find clean shaven guys sexy too but I've been trying to figure out why I find stubble so sexy. I think it me because it shows that a man cares about his looks but not too much. But really I don't know why but I do find it sexy and I'm alright with that.

For whatever it may be worth, I started transition at age 19 in the early 1970s and have been madly & exclusively attracted to men my entire life.  I have had only two intimate physical encounters with women.  Once in 1973 I got falling down drunk during a night of bar hopping and woke up the next day in bed with a neighborhood floozy I knew who claimed she tried unsuccessfully to "have her way with me".  Then in 1978 I was seduced by another pre-op transgal but we mostly just made out. 

To each their own but a scratchy faced beast with strong arms and a crooked smile gets my motor running every time!

Carol (over the hill, but not dead...)

Quote from: learningtolive on April 25, 2014, 01:50:06 PM
I've always thought I was weird or different for liking facial hair the way I do.  A lot of girls I know aren't into it or like guys clean shaven, but I've never found a man out there that doesn't look better with a little stubble.  I even like full beards if they are maintained, but it depends on the perosn. I don't know, I'm wondering if we are the outliers here of if it's more common than I thought.

Derailing the thread.

Beards look good on some guys and doesn't on others.