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When you're no longer handsome and the suit jackets just aren't working anymore.

Started by Evelyn K, April 24, 2014, 01:28:05 AM

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Evelyn K

I tried putting my hair up in guy mode and donned on a very handsome charcoal Kenneth Cole blazer, Kenneth Cole slacks and a white Hugo Boss dress shirt. I haven't worn this outfit since last Sept when I remember looking good with just a medium-long mens business haircut.

Jump forward to today and 2 months of HRT hoping to see the "handsomer" version as I remembered, except perhaps now with a Fabio masculine mane to rock the outfit with...

What I saw instead resembled a child. Rounded cheeks, wider eyes, softer glowy face. I absolutely could not believe how much I've changed. The jacket and dress shirt was totally incongruous to my soft features. And with my hair down draped onto the collar, what I saw was something that wasn't quite a gal, but not masculine either. I can only describe it as something in between, and innocent - and I felt attractive.

The outright masculine clothes however just doesn't seem fitting anymore. The sport coats, blazers, the timberland's all of that stuff. It would seriously appear as if I can't dress well if I decided to keep wearing them.

You know what I mean?
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Jill F

On that note, are there any guys here who want some nice clothes?  XL shirts, 36W, 44-46 Long jackets?  I have some Armani and Varvatos that I've been saving for the right guy.  I don't think I'd ever butch it up that much, so... 

Anyway, even after "the purge" I still have some leftover dudely artifacts that just take up space here.  I thought I'd pass it all on to my nephew, but he's a total d-bag.  I'd rather give it all to you guys. 
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LizMarie

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.



~ Cara Elizabeth
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Evelyn K

^^ LoL. Yeah Jill that's the direction I might be headed. For you gals truly bent on transitioning, I can imagine it's quite a relief to purge your male clothes.

For me though, it's like embarking on a fashion adventure and uncertainty. My male clothes was my identity and my rock. There's some sadness with leaving it behind.
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Ltl89

I know what you mean.  I have some sports coats and used to put them on for school and work, but I haven't even tried wearing them since I started transitioning.  The last time I did was at my friend's wedding.  Given how I look in them now, I would never wear them unless I had to.  I have a whole bunch of clothes from armani, guess, and j crew that all looked good on me once, but now they just sit in the closet.  They are way to tight fitting for me given my body features that out me and once I go full time I'd rather where female clothes anyway.  But boy did I waste a lot of money on clothes and shoes in the past. 
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JamesG

We are our own worst critics.  I bet you are still cute.

You can get away with much these days cross dressing. Seems to me Evelyn that you've hit the sweet spot in androgyny.  Enjoy/take advantage of it while you can.

What sucks even worse is spending north of $1500 on a couple of new suits and then a year later losing so much weight that you look ridiculous in them. DOH! 
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JulieBlair

Maybe that we spent a fortune on beautiful clothes as men was a clue.  lol  I already donated pretty much everything male that isn't just too comfy.  I'm keeping the fleece and flannel.
j
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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Jane's Sweet Refrain

I remember trying on my old coats about 9 months into hrt. I felt like a little kid playing dress up. And they were strangely heavy. More recently (well post-fulltime) I tried on the coats again. Seeing how odd and huge they looked on me was one of the most affirming things I've ever done.

My clothes for the real me feel just right.

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Beverly

Been there, done that. I tried on my best suit some months into transition and it triggered such an acute attack of dysphoria that I actually trembled and burst into tears. I hurled it off and threw it across the room and the next day I took every item of masculine clothing to the charity shops.

I should say that it fitted me like a sack. The shoulder seams where halfway down my upper arms and the lost upper body bulk meant that the jacket hem practically reached my knees. The trouser's waistband could have been made for Coco the Clown as my waist was 12" smaller then it had been.

I knew there was no way back. Only forwards.
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JamesG

Luckily for people in transition and us androgynous the current "slim fit" men's fashion means that you can get away with dressing male longer, and blur the lines farther. 
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Laurelin

I am not sure about not being handsome thing, I never had a girl hit on me before but now I am getting too much attention from woman. 2 of my mothers friends tried to arrange a marriage with their relatives and I even had the nurse hitting on me when I went for a colonoscopy. Suddenly people are finding me much more attractive and compliments are everywhere.


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JulieBlair

For a while I wore my old shirts and women's straight leg jeans and slacks and could pass as male.  The last few months though that doesn't work either.  Very strange getting clocked as female wearing a man's shirt and tie.  The purple All Stars probably didn't help the disguise.   :laugh:
j
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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JulieBlair

Quote from: Laurelin on April 24, 2014, 09:27:24 AM
I am not sure about not being handsome thing, I never had a girl hit on me before but now I am getting too much attention from woman. 2 of my mothers friends tried to arrange a marriage with their relatives and I even had the nurse hitting on me when I went for a colonoscopy. Suddenly people are finding me much more attractive and compliments are everywhere.

I think you probably glow.
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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Evelyn K

Quote from: Jane's Sweet Refrain on April 24, 2014, 09:07:18 AM
Jane's Sweet Refrain walked in and graced Evelyn K's post and said....

Jane you are soooo gorgeous. Just saying. (We look similar.) But you're way prettier than me.

OMG (girl crush)

ok back to topic. never mind.
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Evelyn K

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on April 24, 2014, 04:49:40 AM
When you're no longer handsome and the suit jackets just aren't working anymore...

then it's time to switch to waist tailored kinda-andro jackets :).

The effect is similar to this, where things (in guy mode) just don't seem right...





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JamesG

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devon14

That sounds lovely! Cant wait till my facial features start softening like that. :D
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Evelyn K

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Evelyn K

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