Right, so I've done a lot of gender questioning in the past 1,5 year. I recently started therapy and I'm hoping to get somewhere. But something bad has returned and causes me stress and interferes with my daily activities. In the past 2 years my libido was quite low, sometimes so low that I only saw my penis as a tool to pee with. I was worried about it at times. Was something inside of me changing? Point is, I still feel the same as I used too but the devil has just come back with a vengeance. In two weeks I had more erections than in a whole year! All of this should make a 'man' happy but I detest it. I HATE it. It's not that I was happy before but at least I could think more clearly. Now I can't fall asleep without giving in to my urges. I wake up during the night and in the morning with erection.

I don't like an erect penis. I don't like feeling like a beast. I don't like getting dirty hands and sheets. And above all, I don't like how it controls me.

Having a low libido was ok, but at this point I'd rather be asexual or even die. I really don't like all of this and how it bas returned. I doubt I'll ever make peace with my sexual equipment.

I don't know what to do but I am begging for advice on how to get rid of libido. I want to have a clear mind again.

Thank you for reading, feeling pretty hopeless right now:(

What has changed in your life in the last couple of weeks that might be behind this? Have you started or stopped any medication (doesn't have to be HRT, for example some antidepressants will lower libido so coming off them could increase it), maybe even particular herbal supplements, are there new stimulants or people in your life (people you feel sexually attracted to, particular images, etc), different clothing...??

Hi!
I am not on hormones, just trying to figure out my identity so far. What has changed? I don't know.. I still go through stress and feeling hopeless, and at other times feeling okay. No new people I feel attracted too and also never been on anti-depressants. I do take some medication for existing acne on my back and shoulders, maybe it's that?? I'll check when I get home.

I know nothing about acne treatments, but since acne can be triggered by testosterone levels there might be some connection. If you are stressed and feeling hopeless you probably have some level of depression (medication for it or not) and that will effect your overall wellbeing. Your body is sometimes totally autonomous from what we would rather it do or not do, and things like T levels will naturally cycle up and down so that may be behind it too.

What Grace said.  It its really bothering you to the point where it is making you depressed, you should so talk to a therapist, one with or without gender issue experience.

Best of luck!

BTW-

The Devil is in Scottland. She even had to fill out police paperwork recently. 

Quote from: JamesG on May 06, 2014, 08:06:58 AM
What Grace said.  It its really bothering you to the point where it is making you depressed, you should so talk to a therapist, one with or without gender issue experience.

Best of luck!

BTW-

The Devil is in Scottland. She even had to fill out police paperwork recently. 

I will third what Grace has so well said.

I am often guilty of trying to use humor to dispell situations where levity seems a good way (to me) to take the sombre edge off.  In this case the reference to another humorous thread may not be as helpful as hoped.  Maybe I am wrong; even hopefully I am wrong.

Feather,

ACNE does seem to be related to higher Testosterone, so if you are having trouble with ACNE that may be the root of the problem.

Best of luck!


Erin

You are most assuredly wrong. 

If Feather is a teenager, then both acne and high testosterone/libido are par for the course. Proper context and support are important.

It could be psychological. A lot of things can effect libido, medicines, hormones, blood flow to that area, high blood pressure and about a million other things, some serious some not so much. You really need to have it checked out. Also could be on the psychological scale so if I were you I would talk to my therapist and then see a medical doctor for underlying conditions. If James is right and you are in your teens and hormone levels a fluctuating it is completely normal and you really can't control that.

Spiro will stop your erection...In most cases.

Quote from: JamesG on May 06, 2014, 08:06:58 AM
What Grace said.  It its really bothering you to the point where it is making you depressed, you should so talk to a therapist, one with or without gender issue experience.

Best of luck!

BTW-

The Devil is in Scottland. She even had to fill out police paperwork recently. 

thank you, I will bring it up next time.

I know it's 'natural' to have a 'high' libido if you're mid20s but I really don't like it and how it can control me. I don't want to feel there any more.

Accutane is used for acne and has been shown to produce a number of fairly extreme symptoms:
Stop using isotretinoin and call your doctor at once if you have any of these serious side effects:

    depressed mood, trouble concentrating, sleep problems, crying spells, aggression or agitation, changes in behavior, hallucinations, thoughts of suicide or hurting yourself;
    sudden numbness or weakness, especially on one side of the body;
    blurred vision, sudden and severe headache or pain behind your eyes, sometimes with vomiting;
    hearing problems, hearing loss, or ringing in your ears;
    seizure (convulsions);
    severe pain in your upper stomach spreading to your back, nausea and vomiting, fast heart rate;
    loss of appetite, dark urine, clay-colored stools, jaundice (yellowing of the skin or eyes);
    severe diarrhea, rectal bleeding, black, bloody, or tarry stools;
    fever, chills, body aches, flu symptoms, purple spots under your skin, easy bruising or bleeding;
    severe blistering, peeling, and red skin rash; or
    joint stiffness, bone pain or fracture.
If that is what you are using, perhaps you should google it and look at some of the more respectable sites.