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What made you unhappy today? 5.0

Started by V M, March 22, 2014, 04:54:41 AM

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Rainbow Brite

Quote from: birkin on May 09, 2014, 11:07:31 AM
GRRRR. I keep calling human resources for one of my old jobs and this woman is never able to answer her phone or reply to my messages. I NEED to change my name with them so I can list this job on my job history. What blows is that I have to keep going through customer service since their number isn't listed for HR. I'm starting to get really PO'd because I can't have a huge gap in my job history, but I can't list this as one of my jobs without them having a record of the name change.

I'm almost getting to the point where I want to be like, you know what, screw this. I'll list on the job application that I used to be *extremely feminine name that is only ever given to women EVER* and either get my application thrown in the trash before I get a chance, or humiliate myself in front of my new boss.

I also woke up at 2:20 am and have not been able to fall asleep since...it's now 10 am. That is probably part of the reason I am so hostile. But I can't sleep because I am awake thinking about how I have no money and want to get this new job so badly because it really is a great fit. Unemployment is making me so depressed, I'm not meant to live this way, it's been 5 months now and I feel like a total loser and failure. Like my life is off track and will never get better.

*hugs*
You will find a job. Right now, you don't have anything to lose by applying. If they find out, so what? As Shan said, you'll know then whether you want to work for them or not. It sucks, I know, But I know that having to choose between outing yourself and applying for a job you know you'll excelle at is really getting to you. You can do this! you're hard working and very smart! But I think you care too much about what strangers think of you. Besides, you can ask HR not to violate your privacy and keep things quiet about your past.
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AnneB

Same here.. With my job, Zoloft, or anything like it is disqualifying for a min of 30days.. 

Yeah, she may be just fishing for info, I would hope not.. but see if she would just be a friend for a while.. You might be able to ferret out if she's genuine, or searching..

I hope you feel better soon.  Hugs, Paula

btw, your avatar, is that from Sims or some game?
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Rainbow Brite

Quote from: Paula Christine on May 09, 2014, 01:13:39 PM
Same here.. With my job, Zoloft, or anything like it is disqualifying for a min of 30days.. 

Yeah, she may be just fishing for info, I would hope not.. but see if she would just be a friend for a while.. You might be able to ferret out if she's genuine, or searching..

I hope you feel better soon.  Hugs, Paula

btw, your avatar, is that from Sims or some game?

Thank you.

I don't know where my Avatar is from. I'm guessing it was from a CGI animation. I just thought she looked great! ^_^
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Umiko

i'm most likely going to have a massive heart attack tonight. my sister invite me out with her friends to dinner and its all girls!
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AnneB

That sounds like a wonderful time!! 
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Umiko

Wonderful my foot lol. Imma end up im the ICU
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Shana-chan

Quote from: Umiko Liliana on May 09, 2014, 04:04:40 PM
Wonderful my foot lol. Imma end up im the ICU
Lest you have friends irl, I don't. lol So enjoy the time together, don't worry about things too much.
"Denial will get people no where."
"Don't look to the here & now but rather, to the unknown future & hope on that vs. the here & now."
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Umiko

Quote from: Shana-chan on May 09, 2014, 05:19:17 PM
Lest you have friends irl, I don't. lol So enjoy the time together, don't worry about things too much.
Not my friends. I was only invite brcuz my sister had an extra ticket. Why she choose me is deyond me lol
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Adam (birkin)

Quote from: Shantel on May 09, 2014, 12:26:37 PM
No-one is ever truly stealth, we all need to get over that idea because employers and HR people do background checks, there's always going to be something to raise a flag or flags. Best to lay it all out up front along with any accolades from previous employment and if they value you for your capabilities over trans issues then good, if they have an Ewww moment, then you don't want to work for them anyway because they will pull that Ewwww crap on you at some later date and let you go under the guise of some pretense BS. You don't want to work for them anyway, so you may as well put it all out there and prequalify them as a potential employer in the process. It can work both ways.

I know, but at the very least I'd prefer they not know my girl name. I don't know, I feel very uncomfortable with the representation out there about trans men, and I hate the idea of being lumped into that category. But I can't assume that the HR lady isn't going to change it. She may just be terrible about answering her phone. I'll keep trying. And in any case - in time, probably after my next job, those old jobs will be obsolete and I won't have to list them anymore.

Quote from: Rainbow Brite on May 09, 2014, 01:11:04 PM
*hugs*
You will find a job. Right now, you don't have anything to lose by applying. If they find out, so what? As Shan said, you'll know then whether you want to work for them or not. It sucks, I know, But I know that having to choose between outing yourself and applying for a job you know you'll excelle at is really getting to you. You can do this! you're hard working and very smart! But I think you care too much about what strangers think of you. Besides, you can ask HR not to violate your privacy and keep things quiet about your past.

I guess it does boil down to a fear of what others think of me. But my past experiences of being outed to people, as you know, have been *extremely* unpleasant...I'd rather someone look me in the eyes and tell me they think I'm a sicko and going to burn in hell, than tell me that they accept me as a man and go on to subtly treat me like a woman or like a second class man. Or to support me in the form of valorizing my medical condition. I'd rather deal straight up with an idiot and reject them than deal with someone who makes insidious, veiled comments that are harder to directly attack.

I feel somewhat better now that I've taken a nap. I didn't enjoy waking up to more dog puke on my bed, but eh. I needed to wash the blanket anyway.
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Shana-chan

Quote from: Umiko Liliana on May 09, 2014, 05:21:58 PM
Not my friends. I was only invite brcuz my sister had an extra ticket. Why she choose me is deyond me lol
I see. Well, perhaps she invited you so you can spend time with them and get to know them. Maybe become their friend? :) Please remember to breath, stay calm and don't over think things and just have fun. Hope you let us know how it goes.
"Denial will get people no where."
"Don't look to the here & now but rather, to the unknown future & hope on that vs. the here & now."
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@Diana

tailgating drivers made me unhappy .. &#%%#^&&*@
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Jill F

Mah face looks like hamburger after electro today.  I had my usual electrologist's daughter do it today and she isn't as slick.

Now I can't go anywhere until maybe tomorrow afternoon.
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King Malachite

I did a destructive recovery hoping it might fix the problem with some of my keys.  It didn't.  I'll have to take it to a shop. -sigh-
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Umiko

i was told for the umtenth time to calm down today -.- you never tell a girl to calm down! when will people finally get that
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Edge

I have tiny hands and stubby fingers.
Also, I have a headache.
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Umiko

Quote from: Edge on May 10, 2014, 12:27:04 AM
I have tiny hands and stubby fingers.
Also, I have a headache.
xD edge, what you do this time? lol
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Edge

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immortal gypsy

Quote from: Umiko Liliana on May 09, 2014, 11:23:49 PM
i was told for the umtenth time to calm down today -.- you never tell a girl to calm down! when will people finally get that

The same time they get that "Just do what you want to do" means "You know what you should be doing and if you don't you will pay"

Hope you are feeling less stressed and uptight and more calm, or slowly getting there

Do not fear those who have nothing left to lose, fear those who are prepared to lose it all

Si vis bellum, parra pacem
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Shana-chan

Nearly 100% of the time, when I wake up, I feel like a guy and today is no exception but add to that seeing a guy in the mirror. :( While I like Gender benders, I myself hate being one of them because I only want to be and feel 100% female. :( I hate this...
"Denial will get people no where."
"Don't look to the here & now but rather, to the unknown future & hope on that vs. the here & now."
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RobinGee

Being the only "guy" in a group of six other women
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