Quote from: ButterflyVickster on May 25, 2014, 07:20:21 PM
I Like this i love your style.

Oh that's not me.

But I'm gettin' there.

Quote from: Evelyn K on May 25, 2014, 10:17:54 PM
Oh that's not me.

But I'm gettin' there.

I Didnt think it was you. But style is presentation, not the person. So since you said like that, its sorta still your style even if its not you. Get what mean?
I Mean Im no stranger to the realisation the person is a part of it, I said anough times myself I wish I could pull that off, or wear that. (skin tone, hair colour ect)
But the woman in those pictures I Dont think for a moment would look out of place at a wedding. But I woould never of thought of going dressed like that, Antill now ofcorse.

Oh that's cool. I've really been trying scope out a style for myself, just studying things that potentially makes a trans person look too funky for their own good and consequently inviting their being clocked. So far I've found keeping my fashion sense analogous to my level of passibility is the safest bet. Keeping things on the androgyny side no matter how "pretty" I become only helps me look even better.

Some other examples I posted in the androgyny forum which I might wear at a wedding...



And maybe if I was feeling a little more daring. Except without the vest...

With the pic on the right you see a suit, and thats all you see. Antill you see the "pretty" face. sort of thing.

tbh honest i had the exact oposit happen to me so i know first hand what you mean by...

Quote from: Evelyn K on May 25, 2014, 10:45:04 PM
their own good and consequently inviting their being clocked.

Yeah a work freind of my sisters it was telling her how when he saw me it was from the bottom up.Nice legs, Skirt, Boobs, then boom man face. (his words)
But I comfort myself by telling myself its my own fualt for not useing make up of grooming my brows. (but that probably not true)

I think what happened was my face wasnt as feminin as my wardrobe.
and with the pic here its the oposite, the femininaty is told by the face not taken by it.

Yeah. I don't care how feminine one feels inside with the girl screaming to jump out. You still have to moderate your presentation according to your passability - that is, if you don't want to get the stink eye or draw undue attention. I'd rather be looked at and admired for my sensibility. Not scorned for my queer-ability.

And I see nothing wrong with disciplining your transition with sort of mindfulness.

Thats because there isnt.

While I agree with Evelyn on staying mindful of your passibility in relation to your presentation, (most) weddings are very lovey and happy events.

I've found there's a more accepting atmosphere at the weddings I've gone to in my transition than the typical day to day, and for whatever reason I've met guys at each wedding that became interested in me. For that reason I'll keep going to them!