Hi Girls,

OK so where did you get the idea for your look? I ask because this has always been a bit of a quandary for me, until this morning that is. I saw a Gothic girl in town, WOW!! I loved the drama of it all, all frills and black, stunning. So I went to the market where we have a store that sells all the clothes etc for the look. I was there for a couple of hours and it amazed me how beautiful the clothes were but how inexpensive it was! And as an added bonus the dresses come with corsets built in to them! I am tall 6ft however 10.5 - 11 stone on a good day. and I have looked after myself, so I tried some things on, the guy was a little taken back at first, but then just said carry on any help I should just shout. The affect was staggering!

My question is do you all think this is wise? Gothic girls tend to get a lot of attention.

Love Jayne.xx

Please don't listen to my advice. I've been told time and again that it isn't wise to dress the way I do, and that I draw attention to myself.

But I just can't do things that way. I've got only one life and I'm not going to waste it dressing to please everyone else.

I don't know where I got my look from, but I love it. In winter, turtlenecks, knee-high boots, and skinny jeans. In summer, skirts that only make it down to an inch or two above the knee and tight shirts that show off my form. Yes, I get stares. Yes, I've been told I'm too old to dress that way. Tough tamales! I like the way I look, and I like myself when I look that way.

At work, I need to dress more professionally. I wear some understated jewelry and substitute sober pants for the skinny jeans or short skirts.

You only have one life, honey. Dress the way you want.

Because I have slightly wider hips than most guys and broad shoulders, I go for pencil skirts and v-neck tops or flared skirts and blouses.  I'm not keen on trousers, but I'm willing to try them.  I don't like going bare legged, so it's hose or tights.  Shoes don't matter too much to me, as long as they look nice (I considered knee-high boots to hide my calves, but I just don't like them).

It was quite curious to find out that I am being read as flannel lesbian... Flannel longsleeve shirt, jeans, Converse, canvas messenger bags... all those stereotypes and cliche, lol. The most ironic part ofc is that I am not a lesbian .

Airy, cuteish, jeans / shorts kind of stuff for me. I don't go for a sub set look. I just go for what I think looks good on me and I probably get as much attention as any 30 yr old woman in the USA.

Quote from: JayneS on May 28, 2014, 06:40:29 AM
My question is do you all think this is wise? Gothic girls tend to get a lot of attention.

Love Jayne.xx

I'll admit, I love that style as well as some of the other Goth styles. But I asked myself the same question and decided that I shouldn't go there yet. Still quite early for me, so I decided to try more common styles first and give HRT more time (still adjusting dosage, so it might be a while anyway).

As far as Goth goes, it's a question every one to ask, whether trans or cis because people will always stare. Once I'm more comfortable with where I am and have a few less interesting outfits, I'll explore it more. If I don't like the attention, I have a fall back. Also, if that is the shop I'm thinking of, it doesn't have outlets in my country (that I have seen). I'd have to risk ordering off the internet or the tried and tested method of buying clothes with potential and modifying them to make my own unique Gothy clothes. All of that will take a bit of time.

Depending where you live/how much Goth culture you have explored, you may/may not be aware of some of the rather unpleasant ideas people have about Goths. Some people think it's linked to stuff like Satanism, animal sacrifice, deviant sexual practices and being a nasty person. It's not true (quite the opposite actually), but you should at least be aware that some people are so ignorant as to actually believe the scaremongering. I'm not trying to scare or deter you, just prepare you.
Goth has far more to it than just a way of dressing. It's a subculture that even has many subcultures within it. From exploring this, I've found that there are people around who don't like it when others dress in this way without really knowing anything more of the culture. They view it as a sort of appropriation of their culture and can get uncivil about it.

The point I'm trying to get across is that people will stare because it's such an uncommon style and because it's part of a culture and that brings it's own set of issues to be aware of. The Goth culture isn't linked to any religion, social, political, what ever views, it's mostly to do with fashion, music, various art forms and ways of looking at life, so you shouldn't be broadcasting anything to the world. But like I said, some people have wacky, inaccurate, ideas about the culture.

If you like the style and can deal with the attention it might bring, then go for it  . Despite the last couple of paragraphs, I'm not trying to scare you away, just warn you so that if something does happen, you can be better prepared. Hopefully knowing why people might have that reaction will stop them from scaring you away from this. I'm not an expert (if there is such a thing anyway), I've only dipped my toes in, but if you want to talk/ask something, feel free to pm or whatever. Good Luck 

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Thanks girls, loads of good advice, and I will think on all of your comments, I will try I think maybe a little at a time to see what happens. One of my thoughts was at the moment people will se a gothic girl and nothing more, I am still very feminine, but as I said in my first post a little straight up an down. I do need work!! And it has been a long, long time!

Love Jayne xxxxxx