I've decided to take a break from this site for a short while.

I've had the feeling recently that I've become a little too obsessed with transitioning, and I want to take a step back and relax, just to see what happens when I don't check this site and other online trans resources religiously.  A little outside perspective might do me some good, just to check that I'm still in the right place.  I'm a firm believer in the idea that this isn't a race, and before I start HRT I want to make sure that my feelings about this are still genuine and not artificially enhanced by surrounding myself in pro-trans information twice a day.  (A few of the detransitioning threads have had some effect on my decision too, because I don't want to make a mistake with my life - some of that information is extremely worrying.)  I'll still attend my regular therapy sessions, but other than that, I'm going to be going solo for a few weeks.

I shall report back with my findings.

See you all soon!   

We are with you ______________, hugs

Everyone needs a break sometimes. Transitioning is very intense and can be very absorbing. 

Taking a break is sometimes the right thing to do

I had major doughts about whether I was doing the right thing a couple of months ago!!
And so I took a break for a couple of days, then I remembered how much I hate acting asa male! And so I went back to being zoe again!!

It was probably the best thing I could have done, as it took any doughts away from me, and made me realise transitioning is the only choice for me

You are right, it really isnt a race! And its important to make the right decisions!

I hope it goes well for you

Zoe
xx

I should take a brake, but I think with out the forum I'd go back to square one. Its all about health so you need to do what's best. good luckl

Yes. Good luck.

See you tomorrow!

Well, that little experiment ended as you all predicted it would!

I can 100% confirm that reading Susan's Place is not making me TG.  I'm still as trans as I was before.  Yay?

But more importantly, I can also confirm that I hadn't truly realized what an important support network this site provides access to, and what a wealth of experience resides here.  I had forgotten how lonely it is out there sometimes for people like us, and it took stepping away for a week or two for me to remember that I don't want to - and can't - go through this alone, nor do I want to go back to the old me.  The reason I like to spend some fragment of each day here is because I consider you my friends/co-conspirators in this odd journey, and I kinda missed you all.  It's calming to read how others are getting on (and succeeding!), useful to get first-hand answers to questions I have (even the stupid ones), it's fulfilling to offer what advice I can to others, and it's the best day-to-day support that I can possibly think of.

So seriously, thanks to everyone here.  You really do deserve it, and I'm sure I don't say it enough.  You're absolutely great.

Time to re-up my donation I think...

That's why I support Susan and her ongoing work on this site! It's a god send and this place runs as smooth as butter. This must all be hosted on pricey dedicated servers.

And I can be around MY PEOPLE!

____________, glad to see you back.

I'm actually kind of glad you did this though. For the last little bit, I've been struggling with trying to figure out if I've just convinced myself I'm trans by reading all the stuff out there. Which, if I think about it, I know couldn't be true because I've felt like this for a long, long time. It's just nice to see an affirmation for other people as well.

Quote from: __________ on June 12, 2014, 03:46:23 PM
Well, that little experiment ended as you all predicted it would!

I can 100% confirm that reading Susan's Place is not making me TG.  I'm still as trans as I was before.  Yay?

But more importantly, I can also confirm that I hadn't truly realized what an important support network this site provides access to, and what a wealth of experience resides here.  I had forgotten how lonely it is out there sometimes for people like us, and it took stepping away for a week or two for me to remember that I don't want to - and can't - go through this alone, nor do I want to go back to the old me.  The reason I like to spend some fragment of each day here is because I consider you my friends/co-conspirators in this odd journey, and I kinda missed you all.  It's calming to read how others are getting on (and succeeding!), useful to get first-hand answers to questions I have (even the stupid ones), it's fulfilling to offer what advice I can to others, and it's the best day-to-day support that I can possibly think of.

So seriously, thanks to everyone here.  You really do deserve it, and I'm sure I don't say it enough.  You're absolutely great.

Time to re-up my donation I think...

-------- ditto.    It is really good to see you back in the fold.  It felt like we had lost a family member.  I don't know how I would have progressed without Susans.  My Susans family is a big part of my life.

Aisla

I had always intended to come back, the break being temporary.  I'm surprised that anyone missed me!

This whole transgender thing, I'm trying to approach it as carefully as I can.  I'm deathly afraid of making the biggest mistake of my life, and it makes me feel better when I go back and check that I'm still on the right track, that my feelings remain legitimate and not artificial.  The break really helped me do that, and I didn't see any reduction in my feelings of being trans while I was away.  The obsession mellowed a little perhaps, but I would still rather live the rest of my life as a girl instead of a boy.  Absolutely no question about that whatsoever.

The next step for me is ramping up the HRT.  That'll be interesting, and I'm kinda hoping it will be the piece of the puzzle that finally makes me comfortable with where I'm headed.