"Shawn, could you come to the office?"
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It's the very first time for people calling me by that name.
It always takes me a minute to remember they're calling me.
  All my life I've been ignoring it
and forgetting it because I wasn't out, or admitted I was trans yet.
I've been called Shawn atleast 10 times since I've been to the trans center in NY.
I know my partner will have to stomach calling me that soon.
To be honest, I don't care if he ever does, he's supported me thus far.
   I'm not ashamed of my name, if fact, I go by many names.
I'm just getting used to people calling me MY name.

It's been 6 months now, and if you're anything like me, you'll mostly get used to it. And then still randomly it will strike you as odd from time to time.

Seconding BrotherBen. Been over 4 months since I decided my new name and it's unique enough that when someone says it I know it's mine but even then I still have those moments of lapse where they are calling my name and I'm looking around going, "Who the heck? OH nvm that's me >>"

I've experimented with other names a bit too, and I totally still have some friends that call me by nicknames I just don't respond to no matter how much I tried to go by them >_<

But on the bright side, some names stick well. And some names are truly our own. Our real names.

Also, I really like the poetic style of the original post

I'm glad people are using your name for you now!

I don't remember it taking me a while to get used to people calling me by my choosen new name. but it's been so long since I started transitioning.

I knew my name immediately, it surprised me a little how natural it was. Then again, I had been using that name online for a few years.

Quote from: lxndr on May 30, 2014, 02:47:31 AM
I knew my name immediately, it surprised me a little how natural it was. Then again, I had been using that name online for a few years.

yea I had as well so that's probably why .

There is a girl at work with my old name. At first, every time they called her I bristled, thinking they forgot to use my name.  I'd hesitate, then she'd answer, and I was like phew!   Now that name doesn't mean anything to me when I say it, though my former partner used it once as an odd exclamation (and he had never asked, nor had I ever told him my former name).  Later he saw something with my old name on it and was apologizing for that exclamation.

So yeah, I've always been male name now in my mind, and have even rewritten my history when discussing my childhood I refer to myself as boy and male name.

It took me a while to get used to it as well. It was in between 'yay, this is great' and 'wow, this is weird'. It must have been weirder for the people using the name, though. It is interesting how the first uses of your chosen name can make one very happy, and then slowly it fades into normal business. You will get used to it in the end.

I'm still getting used to it but I sure like it.

Welcome Shawn. It sounds like you are taking some great strides forward.

That's cool. Always feels good to be called by not only your gender but the right name.

At work one day a girl i work with named Stacy was beside me when a customer said "thank you sir" and she just looked at me and went "Heyy so you liked that didnt you?" and I just looked at her "Liked what?". She goes "Well he called you a he." and I just told her, "I'm actually unphased by that. I'm used to being called both. but thanks for noticing lol."

I'm so used to both of my names that you can call out either and I'll perk up. Stirling I don't always hear at first though since people don't tend to say it as loudly as my birth name. It's kind of funny really.

It's so awesome when people remember my new name- the only people who do now are my fiance and my therapist. I can't wait to meet some new people so I can tell them the right name and they won't forget- I won't have to say, "It's Rom, not Rachel." I actually chose the name- Rom Ciávar- after a character I made up, who was basically my role model for years (I was awkward and friendless and a bit loco as a child, lol. Still awkward and loco). If anyone asks, I'll say I was named after my dad. It's weird, though, since I'm not out at work, is when I get a new coworker and have to tell them the old name. I cringe every time  It feels gross and makes me shudder.

I was trying to figure out the other cause of my dysphoria,looking back on it now
I'm seeing that forcing me into feminine roles give me more dysphoria than my name.
I've met so many people in my life that I have to remember them all. But, after seeing my mother
threaten me to dress like a girl or to act more gentle, I just lash out and my dysphoria creeps right in.