I present myself as a heterosexual man, and there is this guy who calls me "boy" 90% of the time, and he called me a ho/bitch once. He follows me everywhere, waits for me, sits with me, talks with me, and then he told me today, "You're only normal if unicorns exist". "You're different". "You're weird like me, if not a little weirder".

Then he has a girlfriend, and I feel like he wants to flirt with me, and then he pulls away, and then he flirts with me, and then he pulls away with the whole "girlfriend thing".

He smiles at me a lot too. I just don't understand what he wants from me.... and I don't want to accuse him of anything when he's innocent about everything.

Honestly it is hard to say, such erratic behavior I would only think possible from someone who either flirts out of habit rather than desire or by someone who is confused themselves.

Quote from: Hikari on June 03, 2014, 09:05:42 PM
Honestly it is hard to say, such erratic behavior I would only think possible from someone who either flirts out of habit rather than desire or by someone who is confused themselves.

i agree. its probably his way of saying " i like you a lot but i'm just confused"

Quote from: Grim Reaper Brianna Terryal on June 03, 2014, 09:34:39 PM
i agree. its probably his way of saying " i like you a lot but i'm just confused"

I am still thinking about him! It's driving me crazy, but yeah I think he's confuse about me. I know he knows I am feminine or something, and I know he likes me a lot especially when my feminity comes out (I know when I reveal it on him, he gets closer to me..). He introduce me to all his "friends", but he always come to me and hang around me. It looks like we're in a relationship.

This morning, he pinch me and I was like, "what do you want". And he was like, "Nothing. I am going crazy and it's only Tuesday!"

What motivates him to be with me? He told me I make him feel normal. I think he wants to be with me because I make him feel the way his girlfriend makes him feel... but I don't know how to unleash that on him without making him feel disturb or homophobic. But I want him to become more masculine around me, since there's time he sees me as a guy still.

He is also atheist.... it's just a huge conundrum.

Quote from: Wild Flower on June 03, 2014, 10:17:57 PM
I am still thinking about him! It's driving me crazy, but yeah I think he's confuse about me. I know he knows I am feminine or something, and I know he likes me a lot especially when my feminity comes out (I know when I reveal it on him, he gets closer to me..). He introduce me to all his "friends", but he always come to me and hang around me. It looks like we're in a relationship.

This morning, he pinch me and I was like, "what do you want". And he was like, "Nothing. I am going crazy and it's only Tuesday!"

What motivates him to be with me? He told me I make him feel normal. I think he wants to be with me because I make him feel the way his girlfriend makes him feel... but I don't know how to unleash that on him without making him feel disturb or homophobic. But I want him to become more masculine around me, since there's time he sees me as a guy still.

He is also atheist.... it's just a huge conundrum.

wish i could help you on that one. i have so many guy and girl issues that i'm highly jealous lol. wish i could just think about someone and it sends electric down my spine. all i can say is that i wish you all the best. maybe i'll pick up a few pointers 

Quote from: Wild Flower on June 03, 2014, 10:17:57 PM
What motivates him to be with me? He told me I make him feel normal. I think he wants to be with me because I make him feel the way his girlfriend makes him feel... but I don't know how to unleash that on him without making him feel disturb or homophobic. But I want him to become more masculine around me, since there's time he sees me as a guy still.

Just throwing this out there because I don't know enough about the situation... but have you considered whether he's bi or bi-curious? He's clearly noticed your attraction to him and seems to be responding in all the usual ways... but here's the thing: if he's responding because he perceives you as being either a bi or gay male, then that's the scenario he's likely to want to explore with you. That sort of situation could trigger your dysphoria quite badly because he'd want you specifically because he perceives you as male. You can imagine how horrible that can feel when that's not how you identify.

Quote from: Wild Flower on June 03, 2014, 10:17:57 PM
He is also atheist.... it's just a huge conundrum.

Erm... how is this relevant? I'm confused.

Quote from: Wild Flower on June 03, 2014, 09:02:19 PM
I present myself as a heterosexual man, and there is this guy who calls me "boy" 90% of the time, and he called me a ho/bitch once. He follows me everywhere, waits for me, sits with me, talks with me, and then he told me today, "You're only normal if unicorns exist". "You're different". "You're weird like me, if not a little weirder".

Then he has a girlfriend, and I feel like he wants to flirt with me, and then he pulls away, and then he flirts with me, and then he pulls away with the whole "girlfriend thing".

He smiles at me a lot too. I just don't understand what he wants from me.... and I don't want to accuse him of anything when he's innocent about everything.

You should have point balnk asked him what he was talking about. Esecially the "wierd like me if not wierder" part. Since he brought that up, he isn't or may not be quite as innocent as you thing. Defintaley something's on his mind but I wouldn't let him beat too much around the bush, especially if he has a girlfriend.