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Is this the best approach?

Started by Wild Flower, June 05, 2014, 10:02:10 PM

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Wild Flower

At Monday I was obsess with this guy, but today I feel like he gone to the weird side on me. Although I want him, but I don't want to have him in the way I am having. He's almost obsess with me, he follows me everywhere, talks to me all the time, and it's just getting odd. If he wants me he needs to tell me he wants me. I know he wants me. I can't deny I flirted with him, but I don't want to be in this place where I am just a fantasy for him. Enough is enough. I don't converse with nothing in return. On the plus, it reminded me how men obsess over the pretty girl, and it's a good feeling, but it's an annoying feeling.

Then the moment I go talk to "other guys" in front of him, he doesn't say a weird, and he makes all these faces like he's utterly confuse/mad/anxiety. It's kind of pathetic, and the moment I walk up, he follows me like a puppy trailing behind me. I am trying to make him jealous so he can say what is on his mind, since technically he can't say anything about "us" since there's no "us".

I need to be kissed. And I'm not going to be the "girlfriend" and make everyone think I am in a relationship when nothing is happening. And he has a girlfriend, which I don't think he cares about anymore. His girlfriend at home is just "the girlfriend at home".

------It's too blantantly obvious now, and at first I thought he wasn't ALL that into me-----

I don't even know how to approach the topic... since he might just deny everything.

The best way I could do it is like this, "Someone told me that they think we're dating. I think it's best we're not ogether all the time, and even though you're a really nice person, I don't like that kind of gossip going around." I plan on telling him that in private tomorrow after I ignore him for the whole day.



"Anyone who believes what a cat tells him deserves all he gets."
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Li

ok well the part saying that others think your dating has a chance of working but telling him you shouldn't be together all the time (even if its right to do) may actually just put him into a down spiral...may being the key word. even putting it nicely still has it chances of down spiraling. now i'm not saying to not say it....actually you should...i'm just saying be prepared for either no emotion/hidden emotions or a lot of emotions. but it may help and convince him to come out already and tell you how he feels. but you may want to take into account that he may also be waiting for the best opertunity to let his current GF down easy. so what i'm saying is you have the right idea but beware of how he could react.
Be you and let others be themselves.
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LorisA

I'd say honesty is the best policy here. You should tell him how you're feeling and, even if he denies it, at least he knows. Then maybe he'll understand.
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Taka

what if you just tell him rather casually that you wish you had a boyfriend, since you seem a little interested in him. you give him a chance to tell you that he wants you, and if he doesn't, you can tell him you'll start looking around for one. if he still won't say anything, and just keeps tagging along, you can tell him rather straight out that he's bothering you and should focus more on that girlfriend of his.

and don't try to avoid hurting him, a painless rejection doesn't exist. and it often feels better to know sooner than later, and being told straight out rather than having to figure out in other ways or from rumors.
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