I was out shopping for dresses yesterday (found a perfect print which I love) at target then went to a large busy grocery store . This has happened every time I go to that grocery , I'll be walking around and a lot of women seem to look for an opening to start up a conversation or just to smile and make small pleasant comments . Its quite a different experience than walking around male.

nope I havent noticed something like that

anyone can be friendly

This has always happened to me. I have always found women to be way more open and try to strike up causual conversations than men. As a guy or girl.

No. Before transition I was used to women being sweet and nice and men being short on words and never opening up a conversation. Now they're bitchier and much more short, and seem like they're in more of a hurry. The men are more friendly, and they're the ones that are usually smiling and trying to talk to me on an elevator or in a line somewhere.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on June 07, 2014, 12:38:43 PM
No. Before transition I was used to women being sweet and nice and men being short on words and never opening up a conversation. Now they're bitchier and much more short, and seem like they're in more of a hurry. The men are more friendly, and they're the ones that are usually smiling and trying to talk to me on an elevator or in a line somewhere.

wow I think I should experiment at another grocery, although I was getting looks from guys especially one of the managers . He's about 6'2 and a some what a hunk, but I could be just fantasizing .

i do not talk to me and avoid them like i avoid std's i just do not feel comfortable or safe round them
girl power all the way

but yes most of my friends are older than me i just find them a lot more friendlier and i like the more supportive/motherly/comforting characteristics.

I haven't started hrt yet, still losing weight, but your post and the responses have made me wonder.

For some reason animals, children and old people have always loved me. Maybe I have a weird smell that appeals to them. Older women though have at times made me feel uncomfortable. Like I am a piece of candy they want to gobble up. This I hope changes, even though I am not sure why this bothers me.

Mikaela

People in general look at me lately and feel compelled to talk to me or be nice to me - way different than what I experienced as a guy. I don't know if it's my physical changes they see, or maybe it's my demeanor or my better attitude, but I like the change.

Quote from: Eva Marie on June 07, 2014, 02:35:36 PM
People in general look at me lately and feel compelled to talk to me or be nice to me - way different than what I experienced as a guy. I don't know if it's my physical changes they see, or maybe it's my demeanor or my better attitude, but I like the change.

A lot of time it is facial expressions that depend upon whether people feel you are approachable and friendly or just a billy or willamina bad A$$. I know because I have tried different facial expressions and squinting eyes and a forhead that's kind of scrunched up and lips pursed tightly, people tend to avoid you. If you have wider eyes with with a more nutral natural mouth shape, people seem to find you apprachable. Even with the wider eyes, men are friendly. I don't know but it is something to do with the body language of your facial expression. But really, who wants to talk to a POed butthole? Not me even.

Quote from: Eva Marie on June 07, 2014, 02:35:36 PM
People in general look at me lately and feel compelled to talk to me or be nice to me - way different than what I experienced as a guy. I don't know if it's my physical changes they see, or maybe it's my demeanor or my better attitude, but I like the change.

I find it quite fun. yesterday when I was at the grocery store I went to the ladies room and came out and a woman waiting had this big smile , then an older woman with her husband saw my cane in my cart ( I use a cane) and said we could be twins.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on June 07, 2014, 12:38:43 PM
No. Before transition I was used to women being sweet and nice and men being short on words and never opening up a conversation. Now they're bitchier and much more short, and seem like they're in more of a hurry. The men are more friendly, and they're the ones that are usually smiling and trying to talk to me on an elevator or in a line somewhere.

Come on now. That is because you are pretty and women feel threatened or jealous because of the attention you get from men. I figured that out a long time ago just by listening to my friends that are women to know that they will critisize everything about another woman if they feel that woman is better looking than themselves.

I don't know, I out as trans, and I find that now men stay distant, even as before. But women see to come and ask for a lighter lol, and stick around for a chat. Men asked, well everyone asked for a light before, but it was just sure here click, there you go bye.

But now, women stick around and chat, even to a trans person, or cross dresser, however I'm see to ne honest, you know I might say I'm trans but, even saying that might not change the cross dresser impression. But either way fashion talks are always nice, I got one of those the other day. I wish I had the legs for something like that.

I've always pointed out what looks nice and/or suits a person, but to have these conversations started up by someone ells is really rather nice. I suppose its nice to be on the receiving end of these compliments.

But as far as negative reactions go, I find its just as likely amongst both.

I feel that women always try to appear more friendly, but that doesn't mean all of them really are.  You know, the types that will smile to your face while stabbing you in the back or giving you a backhanded compliment.  There is a difference between mean women and men, but that's only if I'm being overly general about it as there are "bitchy" guys and girls that act like jerks.  There are all different kinds of people and personalities out there.  Gender doesn't always have to define how someone interacts with other people, so you can meet plenty of friendly men and women. Having said all of that, I've always gotten along better with women.

I honestly don't know what it is, but little old ladies and I have always gotten along well. (I think it's because I'm actually an old woman myself at heart).

I've actually found both men and women more friendly to me as a man. Course one other factor about me that changed is I now have a huge gut. Maybe people just like fat folks? LOL I dunno.

I used to have something of a scowl on my face most of the time and was not about to make eye contact with anyone. I think I must appear more at ease and approachable since transitioning. Maybe people were always smiling at me, but I never noticed. Bottom line is they haven't changed, but I have.

I imagine women are more inclined to smile and be friendly with other women because doing so with guys can just result in "the wrong message"...

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 07, 2014, 05:49:44 PM
I imagine women are more inclined to smile and be friendly with other women because doing so with guys can just result in "the wrong message"...

makes a lot of sense

I can't get over how much ladies talk in the rest room. Sometimes I feel like I am on a talk show. The men's room always seemed like something out of Orwell's 1984. Shuffle in, look ahead, go, leave. I love being female it is so human and alive now.

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on June 07, 2014, 06:09:29 PM
I can't get over how much ladies talk in the rest room. Sometimes I feel like I am on a talk show. The men's room always seemed like something out of Orwell's 1984. Shuffle in, look ahead, go, leave. I love being female it is so human and alive now.

I haven't experience this at all. I had one conversation awjile ago, but we were right next to each other and I was doing my makeup, so ya kinda have to talk for politeness sake. In fact, I find the men's room was cleaner. Everyone time I use the toilet, someone pees on it. Gross. I imagine it's cause some prissy little thing doesn't want to touch the seat and hovers and then feels she shouldn't wipe it up. Bleh.

On the whole, everyone is nicer but that's prolly cause I'm nicer. Women do talk and smile more. I talk to women all the time now when I'm alone. But I'm with the BF alot so with him  we're just kinda in our own little world. Men talk to me all the time. ALL THE TIME. I can't move without getting hit on. I just say thank you. Today this one guy even said I'm so pretty that if he had money he'd ask me to marry him right there. It's very validating. Heheh. But, Good. Now my BF will now I have options as I want to kepp him on his toes. But even he is being different and I have to have sex with him all the time now. Poor me lol  In the last two months I have gotten much prettier. I look drastically different. So for folks wondering when changes start, between month 11 - 15 I became pretty. Or prettish. I'm just not ugly anymore. There. Fixed it.