So I have been full time basically this whole year and now I finally looking like a girl. I'm having a problem with my parents, especially my mom. They still call me by my birth name and misgender me constantly out in public. I keep telling them to call me Riley and refer to me as she, it's a safety issue at this point. I've told them that and they insist that it's hard for them. I tell them it's a matter of respecting me, they're daughter. What should I do because I'm at a loss now :\

Are they trying at all, maybe just forgetting a lot, or just flat out not accepting it and refusing?

My mom had a hard time, and I did understand that, those kind of changes aren't easy to adapt to. I came out of her body as a boy, she nurtured me as a boy, raised me as such, all the while seeing me seemingly grow up into a man, all the while 20 something years calling me by the name I was given when I was born to her, Michael.

There were times during my early transition that it used to upset me really bad, I would constantly correct her (as well as my siblings) that I was a she, not a he, that my name is Megan, not Michael. I didn't want to be pushy about it, nor cause upset, but if I didn't correct her then being so used to me as I was in the past, she'd have gotten too comfortable with it and kept on referring me as him, we'd get nowhere and our relationship would have collapsed. At home it just bugged me, outside and about with people around it made things embarrassing. Sometimes she'd snip at me, that she was trying, its just not an easy thing to get used to, it takes time. I was putting her through a lot, this whole wanting to be a girl thing, some serious mental stress, and she'd constantly remind me of this. While I was living it, she had to as well because she loved me and was there with me all the time. I tried to give her a break sometimes, see if she'd correct herself, see her own slip up, but it was really hard.

But sometimes people, especially loved ones, they don't really want the change, its scary to them, like they are losing you (as well as what are people going to think?) so even though they do try, at the same time they also try to see if they can somehow keep it from being, that maybe you'll change your mind about the whole thing if they keep reminding you of who you were to them. Its not easy to let go of what you love. But they aren't letting go unless they give up on you. Over time my mom took to me like I had been her daughter all along, only once in a great while I might here a small slip up, but let it pass, because just as I have come a long way, so has she.

Its really tough situation, I was in a similar predicament with my dad. But if they've been somewhat accepting so far then I'd say just give them more time.

When I came out to my parents I was already about 2 years into my transition. I was living a double life for a while that they had no clue about. So for them their transition about me had just started and until recently my dad finally started using the proper pronouns and the right name consistently. Every now and again he misgenders me but I know it's not intentional. My dad is a creature of habit and it takes him forever reprogram sort of speak and that goes for anything, not just my transition. It's super tough to be patient when your identity is being invalidated, intentionally or not by our parents but at the same time we gotta try to see it from their perspective and do our best to let them know how crappy it makes us feel in that same moment.

So basically if they're actually making an effort, just continue to call them out on it until they stay consistent. You have to make it known that it makes you feel extremely uncomfortable and that invalidates who you are. I know it gets old after a while and especially if it seems you're getting nowhere with them but trust me if your parents really love and care about you they will change in due time.

I'm just about a year and a half into my transition, time flies! They've been supportive but it seems they can't really accept me. for the most part I don't bug them but it's just out in public I would really love them to call me Riley and gender me correctly. Being called he while I was in a tank with some obvious cleavage was rather embarrassing today.

It hits a point when they should be embarrassed. People will wonder if they are all there when you are obviously female.

My mother has been pretty good about it. My step father is as well, but he forgets due to medication (for Parkinson's ) and he has good days and bad days. My in-laws did it when we visited a few months ago. My mother-in-law was very apologetic and I told her that as long as you correct yourself immediately it doesn't bother me. That way it looks like it was just her not thinking straight, not that I am transgender. She said to help her, just ignore her when she calls me by my old name. That helped with the name, but not the pronoun, but she is getting better about it.