These outings also help to prepare us for any possible negative reactions too. Women are often the target of crass comments or stares by the public and a trans woman is especially at risk. You have got to have some thick skin and some courage to be a trans woman.

Thats right Eva, at my transgender support group the other night this lady said "Being transgender isnt for sissys."  Gave me something to smile about on my way home. 
Dani

Thanks to everyone who has answered this, all good and insightful stuff.  I really am glad I found this place, and to Dani...HI, :-)

I honestly don't know how passable I am. I haven't done anything yet (no hrt, did a little therapy but stopped for my own reasons). I go out presenting female when I can. I wear a wig for my have, but I've been told my glasses give me away, but not much of my face. I imagine I must appear to be a woman who works out, since my arms have a bit of muscle to them from work.

Honestly, I'm happy. I have not been stared at, people have generally been polite or at the very least not jerks. Last time I was out, I got some "good looks" as my friend told me.

If you don't invite risk or problems, I doubt you'll have any.

Quote from: ChelseaAnn on June 27, 2014, 02:47:49 PM
I honestly don't know how passable I am. I haven't done anything yet (no hrt, did a little therapy but stopped for my own reasons). I go out presenting female when I can. I wear a wig for my have, but I've been told my glasses give me away, but not much of my face. I imagine I must appear to be a woman who works out, since my arms have a bit of muscle to them from work.

Honestly, I'm happy. I have not been stared at, people have generally been polite or at the very least not jerks. Last time I was out, I got some "good looks" as my friend told me.

If you don't invite risk or problems, I doubt you'll have any.

This is nice, you sound as if you are happy and have had pleasant experiences.  I am sure that when we become true and aligned with that inner nature we send off a vibe that gets us the response that you got.  Way to go    and thanks.  Dani

I know my life is pretty different, but I spent awhile in a kind of in-between part of transition. I think it's important to spend time being who you want to be even if it isn't perfect. It sounds like you handled the situation beautifully.

Thanks so much Felix and speaking of beautiful, so are your words.  To have a place like this where people can share there own experiences and hope is extraodinary, and as a side note I am now on day 5 of my hrt.        Dani

Hi again, well I have not read this thread for quite some time and got to thinking as long as this is about me being partially passable I may as well post a couple of pics.  Now keep in mind the ones who responded to this were right on when they said this is mainly about inner confidence.  So I figured what better than a part two that actually shows who I was a couple of months ago. On the one pic I did not purposefully leave the facial part out it was the fact that I had to set the timer on the camera then run to the spot for the pic, but I have lots and lots of mosquitoes and as I was doing this I was their dinner (it was a one pic day).  The facial pic was out of focus due to timer stuff and I am blind without my glasses  .   I have been on hrt for 10 days now, so as long as these pics are part of this thread I will be able to revisit this later on down the road.  One last thing to note is that due to going to Wal-mart in this fashion was what ultimately led to my latest post on the coming out thread.  This whole thing is very freeing.  Have a great day     Dani[/URL][/img]

Sorry this is weeks later, but you look great and it sounds like you are doing great. Grats on the progress.

 Hmmmmm, I have thought alot about my attire, tastes, and attitudes since my last comment on this thread a month and a half ago (kind of suprised it's still here) and here is an update.  I realize now that there is just too much of a certain personality trait that has always ran through me for as long as I can remember.  To title it seems odd but if I had to give it a name it would have to be danger, I have never felt comfortable unless I was on the edge of some sort of personal precipice of some kind, along with a large helping of defiance, lawlessness, and things I probably should not mention.  So I believe I have come to a reasonable idea of how I will dress, I suppose there will be times I may be inclined to dress more on the feminine side but most times no.  For me I think it will be good quality leather motorcycle jacket with a nice lace cami, jeans and some woman's harley boots (I've already started a fair collection of these boots).  Even though my gender will be changing my core being will remain.  Anyone else feel the same?  Forever walking the line.  Dani

Just realized this needs a P.S....  My aim is not an androgynous one as my 'ideal' is people seeing nothing but a woman.  Now whether or not that will ever be in the cards for me....well who knows, I'll be happy with what I get.

Seems like a great fit for your personality then
I absolutely adore Gemma's outfits in SoA!!
I think you could work that style very well (:

Im wanting a very girly closet with plenty of cute tees

Quote from: Madeline182 on August 22, 2014, 10:52:41 AM
Seems like a great fit for your personality then
I absolutely adore Gemma's outfits in SoA!!
I think you could work that style very well (:

Im wanting a very girly closet with plenty of cute tees

Thanks for the encouraging words, and (laughs) had to look up Gemma and Soa, I dont watch much TV.  Yeah thats a good look!  She has in my book always been a knock out, (Married with Children days).  Now she has not only the tough persona from the sitcom but the look to go with it.  My closet has the same    Dani