Grace, I will more than likely be asking a number of questions pretty soon!
I know it's never too late to do (just about) anything in life. But, wow, why did it take so long?! Eventually, after yet another bout of depression, just felt "I have to be honest and deal with this!"
My partner of 20 years is pretty understanding, but it certainly hasn't been an easy ride coming out to her and saying what's been going on. Been seeing the doctor and the psychologist, have had feelings of happiness and relief - and very severe lows.
I'm going step by step, some of them are a bit larger and some a bit smaller than others.