Quote from: Jenna Marie on June 22, 2014, 10:45:16 AM
(I will say that dilation has ended up being much less of a deal than I expected... it was a thing that took over my life for the first couple months, sure, but now that I've finally managed to get down to 15 minutes once a week, it's a mildly annoying chore that takes less effort and time than doing the dishes. And if I were having sex with a guy at least once a week, I could stop even that much. )

good to know

it was everything to me, the first thing I did upon waking from SRS was lift the covers to make sure it was gone.  For the first time in my life I was able to smile after doing that.

Quote from: Ducks on June 22, 2014, 02:21:39 PM
it was everything to me, the first thing I did upon waking from SRS was lift the covers to make sure it was gone.  For the first time in my life I was able to smile after doing that.

Oh I so much long for the day I can do that. I'm veeeeery happy for you.

Ally

For me in my transition right now at this point I've never felt more normal than right now but to feel a 100% whole it's a absolute must and for the longest time I thought it could never happened but now it soon will be a reality.

Not at all important.  I may end up getting an orchiectomy, but the full surgery is never going to happen.  My dysphoria has never really been about what's between my legs, but instead with how people interact with me in my daily life.  If I pass as female with my clothes on, I'll be good to go.

Quote from: __________ on June 22, 2014, 04:17:49 PM
Not at all important.  I may end up getting an orchiectomy, but the full surgery is never going to happen.  My dysphoria has never really been about what's between my legs, but instead with how people interact with me in my daily life.  If I pass as female with my clothes on, I'll be good to go.

As Unknown poster put it, not important to me. I'm fairly older, turned 60 this year, married and staying that way, and while I'd much rather have been born with the proper equipment, and/or wave the ole magic want and *poof*, that's not going to happen. I'm old enough to have some surgeries on my body - mostly knees - but I know I want to avoid as much voluntary surgery as possible. I don't hate my junk, Mr. Happy and I have had some fun times over the years. My main complaint with him is the night time erections being incredibly annoying. And with HRT, that should go away. But you never say never. Life is a journey and at this waystation, the answer is no.

Quote from: Jenna Marie on June 22, 2014, 10:45:16 AM
(I will say that dilation has ended up being much less of a deal than I expected... it was a thing that took over my life for the first couple months, sure, but now that I've finally managed to get down to 15 minutes once a week, it's a mildly annoying chore that takes less effort and time than doing the dishes. And if I were having sex with a guy at least once a week, I could stop even that much. )

Even at 15 minutes once a week I find my mind still won't entertain the idea. The months where it's more frequent, I just don't want to depart from my life for that long. I missed 34 years, I don't want to give up any more time than I have to.

What's most important is I don't see how SRS would change my day to day life at all, let alone for the better.

But, maybe a purely cosmetic thing would be ok for me cause I don't have a use for depth and ain't that the biggest problem here? I mean, it would be nice to have something that met expectations when I'm naked. I have no idea if anything like that even exists so if anyone does know, let me know please.

Quote from: __________ on June 22, 2014, 04:17:49 PM
Not at all important.  I may end up getting an orchiectomy, but the full surgery is never going to happen.  My dysphoria has never really been about what's between my legs, but instead with how people interact with me in my daily life.  If I pass as female with my clothes on, I'll be good to go.

I thought this until last year when I finally went full time and applied for my Civil Identity Change. I'm still not obsessed about what's between my legs but from the moment I visualized myself with all of my official documents, including my birth certificate, saying that I was a female, it was obvious to me that I couldn't go to the end of my life as I was. GRS became a must and, interestingly, even my wife fully understands that.
I have also learned since, from others who went into GRS with a similar, practical mindset, that the psychological change that comes with this surgery is much bigger than you might expect. So, for me, eight weeks to go and counting down!

Quote from: Donna E on June 22, 2014, 04:53:19 PM
I thought this until last year when I finally went full time and applied for my Civil Identity Change. I'm still not obsessed about what's between my legs but from the moment I visualized myself with all of my official documents, including my birth certificate, saying that I was a female, it was obvious to me that I couldn't go to the end of my life as I was. GRS became a must and, interestingly, even my wife fully understands that.
I have also learned since, from others who went into GRS with a similar, practical mindset, that the psychological change that comes with this surgery is much bigger than you might expect. So, for me, eight weeks to go and counting down!

best wishes

Yes, there are some surgeons who will do a cosmetically perfect, sensate vulva with only a 1" or so vaginal "dimple" that doesn't require dilation. It's less common, but it's not unheard of.

Quote from: Jenna Marie on June 22, 2014, 05:59:58 PM
Yes, there are some surgeons who will do a cosmetically perfect, sensate vulva with only a 1" or so vaginal "dimple" that doesn't require dilation. It's less common, but it's not unheard of.

Well, I gotta start with figuring out who would help me out here. I've been interested enough in the idea to actually want to do some Googling (vs feeling it was something I had to do) but having trouble finding current information. :/

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Misato : Well, I know for a fact Brassard does it, from seeing it on his patient information when I signed the contract.  I have also heard that McGinn and Suporn will. You might want to contact surgeons directly if you want the most up to date information...

The big surgery is my dream. I don't know if I'll ever reach it...maybe I need to get myself out there and find me a sugar daddy, but then I'd most likely have to dish out. Eh, ick, okay, I can wait. How could ever think that, mind is in the gutter right now. 

I have to have what's between my legs be right, otherwise I'll never be completely right with myself. I'll always have to look at it, always have to continue to hide it, and never ever become intimate with anyone as I wouldn't allow it to happen until I have the right part. Hormones will put me in a more balanced state of mind and keep me somewhat feminized in looks, tracheal shave would give me more confidence that I wouldn't fear anymore with my adam's apple giving me away as trans, having my nuts removed would get rid of much of that testosterone production so the estrogen could flow through me without resistance against an opposing force, but the big surgery, that would make me whole, at least as whole as I'm going to get in this life, and that's enough for me.

Quote from: Megan Joanne on June 22, 2014, 07:42:14 PM
The big surgery is my dream. I don't know if I'll ever reach it...maybe I need to get myself out there and find me a sugar daddy, but then I'd most likely have to dish out. Eh, ick, okay, I can wait. How could ever think that, mind is in the gutter right now. 

I have to have what's between my legs be right, otherwise I'll never be completely right with myself. I'll always have to look at it, always have to continue to hide it, and never ever become intimate with anyone as I wouldn't allow it to happen until I have the right part. Hormones will put me in a more balanced state of mind and keep me somewhat feminized in looks, tracheal shave would give me more confidence that I wouldn't fear anymore with my adam's apple giving me away as trans, having my nuts removed would get rid of much of that testosterone production so the estrogen could flow through me without resistance against an opposing force, but the big surgery, that would make me whole, at least as whole as I'm going to get in this life, and that's enough for me.

It would definitely feel so right. This thing I have now is definitely not right and never has felt right.

Quote from: Jenna Marie on June 22, 2014, 07:03:28 PM
Misato : Well, I know for a fact Brassard does it, from seeing it on his patient information when I signed the contract.  I have also heard that McGinn and Suporn will. You might want to contact surgeons directly if you want the most up to date information...

Ain't this been a heckuva day for me?

I gotta do a lot more thinking and research about this first.

Still, thanks much.

Quote from: __________ on June 22, 2014, 04:17:49 PM
My dysphoria has never really been about what's between my legs, but instead with how people interact with me in my daily life.  If I pass as female with my clothes on, I'll be good to go.

This is mostly how I feel about it too. I still want to get the surgery done, but it's mostly so that the sofa will match the wallpaper. (Did I break another metaphor?) It will be nice to get rid of something that's mostly in the way, but my social transition is already done. And that was always the important part for me.

If "the big surgery" means full SRS then it is not as important as it once was.  Sure, it would be great to have full female parts (labia, vagina, clitoris, etc.); but since I don't have any intention to have sex with a man and due to my age less could be acceptable.

The minimum acceptable could be total removal of the penis, scrotum, and testicles with a proper urethra relocation like a female.  Also, body and facial feminization to the a passable degree so I could present as female on occasion without question. 

However, labia would be nice for effect and to limit splashing.

It's very important to me.
I have cravings, that I can't really take care of, and being a hetro female I need the right parts.  Or, let me put it this way, if I can't have surgery then I may as well be dead.

It's the very last thing on my list of things to obtain.

There are sooooooooo many more important things than that to take care of.