Well we have decided best for us to live apart so I bought a house 14 doors down from my current house.  My wife seeing me change says its too hurtful and I sure understand that.. she loves me and I love her.
We will work together every day but need to start the process of ending a wonderful 31 year marriage..
I am excited to be able to be more me.. at home in the future.. and have some space.. it takes a lot of energy to act male now.
At the same time, my wife misses male companionship.. she likes guys ... and I don't blame her so I am working in therapy to accept that its time to let her go.
Part of loving someone is knowing what is best for them.. and she needs to move on..
However, I get to interview any dude she meets..poor dudes...LOL.. just kidding sort of.
I am now out to everyone... and everyone so far very supportive.. its wonderful ..
See a new endo in the morning that is closer to me.. looking forward to that.
Carrie

I am so sorry it ended Carrie. I know exactly how it feels. 

Hugs! I have read your updates, and all I can say is that you are a very caring person. Please take good care of yourself.

Unfortunately I know how it feels too. Sometimes though we just gotta let go. You never know who may be around the corner perfect for you. It took me a year or so from my split up and divorce for fate to bring me and someone together that I had a chance meeting with over twenty years ago for less than two minutes. So you never really know what's for the best.

sorry it went this way

Sorry the marriage is ending, hugs.

Hey Girls
Thanks so much for the caring responses.
Seriously.. I am really ok.. I am just a woman.. and I accepted it.. sometimes I still go WTF .. but if I do the logical thing my therapist taught me.. I come back down to earth and reality.
Love ya all
Carrie

Say hey,
Good luck, you're doing better than I am right now.  I moved into a renovation project airstream and yesterday the fridge quit working, (sigh).  I totally get that you love each other, Donna and I do too.  But sometimes that is just not enough, and it is best to lovingly allow each other to live in our own truth.  Hope I'm not trailer trash come winter though.

j

Thanks Julie,
I am fortunate but do worry about the future as a gal... losing my male privilege could be tough. I am hoping for the best.
I have been lucky in love and business.. hope that happens again.. UGH!
Carrie

Good luck, at least it seems you are being able to part on somewhat amicable terms. In my own experience, loosing a marriage is hard, and whilst my relationship was about 10 years, yours was 31 years, I couldn't imagine that. At least no one is being put out on the street and from the sounds of things you aren't hating her for the way she feels, you actually seem to be putting forth good effort to understand and empathize.