Hello!

My therapist is on a medical leave and I am going to be seeing her intern until she gets back. I met with her for the first time today. This intern has one more year left of school and is a lovely young woman. One thing she said bothered me a tad, and considering I have the chance to be her "trans experience" prior to entering the real profession, I need your opinion here.  When I told her I was trans, she phrased her question as such: "And is this a fairly new process you are going through?". 

Instantly I thought - new process?? I've been on T for 3 years!!! WTF.

Do you think this is worth mentioning to her considering the circumstances of being able to kind of push her on the path to being a trans accepting therapist?  I was thinking I could say something like when you are talking to a trans person, it is best to just ask when they began their transition, because stating it the way she did can cause some insecurity? I don't want to seem super particular though. I also don't want to undermine her position as she is acting as therapist, but I just want to make sure that I don't miss an opportunity to try and educate.

Thoughts?

I think it is good to give people as much education as you can. It is important for you to talk to someone who you can be comfortable with, and it is important for her to learn and grow.

Did she not have access to your therapist's notes? Do you look totally male? Could she have assumed you were MTF by looking at you and seeing a guy who says he's trans?

Ugh wtf? Lol. Unless she thought you were MTF. If someone said that to me I'd be LIVID. But then I don't really tell people to begin with so they'd have to bring it up on their own, making it more offensive....anyway.

I'd bring it up. I might say something like "there was something you said the other day that I think, in the future, you could phrase better..."