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Came out to shocked spouse

Started by Jessi Lee 1970, June 09, 2014, 04:28:48 PM

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h3llsb3lls

I came out to my husband a few years ago, but have only started to get serious about transitioning recently. He was a little concerned but has grown much more comfortable with it and is fully supportive now. It takes time, and compromise to make it work and both parties have to want it to. Much luck to you all!

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Figured it out the first time: 1994
Figured it out again: 2002
Figured it out again again: 2008
Figured it out and told someone: 2011
Came out to parents: June 2014
Came out to closest friends: June 2014
First outing as Erik: June 28th 2014
Came out to conservative sister: September 2014
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rosinstraya

Quote from: Jessi Lee 1970 on June 20, 2014, 01:09:42 PM
We seem to be ok at the moment... its only been since the 8th of this month when I told her. She still varies between shock and understanding, so going slow seems to be best right now. Its difficult for me as I have released a secret I've held for 44 years and it felt like the gunshot at the beginning of a horserace. I have to constantly remind myself this is soooo new for her.

Hi Jessi,

This is all so true and so very difficult. I felt that my situation would not be a shock as I have never presented as a macho type - I was so very wrong. She was dumbfounded. Over the last 5 months there have been ups and downs, hopes and difficulties. Lately it feels more easy and I feel in a better place, but I know also that my trans situation could lead to our separation. I don't want that to happen, but I cannot unmake the truth.

All the very best with your journey.

Hugs,


Ros
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Jessi Lee 1970

Well we've almost reached the one month mark... and we are still together. Things for me have come to a glacially slow pace... beard is back at her request (I hate this thing...) but my legs are shaved (and sexy as all heck.... I walk 10-12 miles every day at work at a fast pace). It seems sometimes that she feels she might be able to cure me although she says to my face she knows its not any more possible than to cure the fact I have two arms... I just feel sooo frustrated that if I had had a terrible accident at work that had done to my boys parts what I would like to make correct she would have understood and stood by me. Of that, I have no doubts. Patience... sucks...lol
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