So my Boyfriend's roommate is jealous of how I look or how pretty I am (I'm not). She is just my height 5'6 or possibility a little taller. But about a week or two ago I guess she got jealous (she kept saying I was jealous of her). I even commented that she looked pretty one day and appeared she lost weight. She took it as I was making fun of her. i wasn't. So she told everyone on the block i was trans or a hermaphrodite and that I was really a man. So, this week i walked by BF and Karen's friend, Country (or James), and they are were saying "it's really a man." As soon as I got back to the apartment I was balling. Up to that point, dude always called me mathilda or mattie but then it was Matt Man or "Mattie Sir." Before this he would comment on how pretty I was. I said soemthing along the lines of please call me Mattie, but then my BF's  piece of dirt roommate said "who cares"; it's no big. Well my friend moved today. I went back to get something but they were gone. He claims he stuck up for me when she claimed i drank a cup of her coffee. i doubt it but I'll believe him. Plus, I bought her a gallon of premium coffee three weeks ago not the crap she buy and i didn't even get a tahnk you and she still harasses me. Plus, I bought them a $100 in food from my SNAP card. Wait it gets worse. Much, much, MUcH WORSE (Sorry I now its TL;DR but I had to get this off my chest I'm about ready to call it quit, meaning

I ran into the guys today and not only did they make fun of me, but also beat the ->-bleeped-<- out of me so bad I went to the hospital. I was knocked unconscious by five or so guys and no one would help me. But not only that but they went thru my bag and stole my hormones. Now, In addition to having a gaping hole in my face I also can't afford hormones and the ones I just bought are gone. They threw them down the sewer and I can't get more for weeks. At least two. I just can't believe it. My BF said he stook up for me about the coffee but IDK. The other day he said none of his friends like me but his one friend came back around and he def likes me. We excahnged numbers and have been texting. All my BF's sane friends like me and i think he is starting to see that.

Here are show you the damge. it was horrid:



BEFORE (with makeup as the hospital washed off the makeup in frist pic. Upside: Hospital was very, very nice!!!!



On the flip side, if you need a UNIX SGI supercomputer, i.e. the Indy2 with A R4400 processorand two Seagate Hawk 4 4.49 GB and a CD room drive sled plus a monitor, we could make a deal. Or I could just could trade parts since the only thing i care about is getting those hormones back. It's a really good computer. Look it up. I'll send pics if intersted. I know you are prolly not allowed to do this on this site, but pleae make an exception since I really need the hormones. I called the pharmacy and they will refill them, but I need $19 for the E and $24 for the spiro. The prometrium is just a bonus and can wait. Hell I really just need the E. So if anyone wants to make a deal even for the Seagate hawk 4 4.29 GB SCSI Harddrive, I'd be forever thankful. I tried to sell it b4 on CL but no luck. And with EBay I'm 'fraid ill start re masculizing again. It's ironic, I was thinking about stopping, and now I want nothing more. Guess I have my answer.

OMG!! I wish I could give you a hug right now! Thats so f'd!!!! ugh sometimes I wish I had super powers to find these hateful people and throw them in jail myself. This is not right at all and your bf's roommate has some serious issues. I hope one day she understands the damage she caused by doing what she did.

This is why I'm so paranoid of telling anyone I'm trans. Too many people think its ok to cause us harm.

Hope you're able to get your meds back asap! I can't hug you in person so a digital hug is the best I can do

* Hugs  Joanna!!

Press charges for gang assault, theft, hate crime? Did police get involved? What's their bail set at?

Sorry to hear about this Joanna. This only reaffirms to me to avoid all men like the plague and to keep my trans lifestyle as stealthy as possible.

I am really sorry this happened to you and wish I had something helpful to say.  Please hang in there. 

Joanna, I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you heal physically and emotionally from this quickly, hugs.

Yes, some areas are very rough. From past posts you live in SW philly in the hood and that is a very tough place to live.

Oh, hugs, Joanna. That's horrible.

Please involve the police. You were the victim of a serious crime.

As long as and until we stand up in whatever way we can (by reporting the crime), people will keep doing this, and worse.

If this is ruled a hate crime (sounds like the evidence may be there), it could easily be a felony.

Oh, I'm fine. But, I'm sure in a couple hours ill come around and be crying. At least my BF told me he loves me. He doesn't express emotins that well, not that he is stoic, I wouldn't like that and he is far from it, but even though he hasn't said it, he feels it cause sometimes he just hugs me tight and it was nice to hear him say it. With no caveat. So, silver linings and all.

Quote from: Evelyn K on June 29, 2014, 04:33:16 AM
Press charges for gang assault, theft, hate crime? Did police get involved? What's their bail set at?

Sorry to hear about this Joanna. This only reaffirms to me to avoid all men like the plague and to keep my trans lifestyle as stealthy as possible.

No, I kept the police out of it. I'm from Philly and in this area, snitches don't get stitches, I already have 30 of them, they get bullets. I'm not kidding. A week after I moved in someone was shot in this store I left five mins before. Not that I woulda got shot. It was an execution. These people have no respect for life. But my BF and I are regrouping going to our safe zones, which are our parents homes. We both come from nice areas and if some of these people saw where he came from they'd ->-bleeped-<- a brick. He lives in a mansion. I just live in your typical suburban home. It's nice and I come from a nice family, but he be rich, rich, rich. We have out problems but when push comes to shove he is always there for me and vice versa.

But, yeah I hear ya about men. Most are scum. I just found a good one. I'm lucky. Except when I'm not. But, I also def keep the trans thing on the DL. This old hag just couldn't keep her mouth shut. And this happened. I even told her multiple times, this isn't the area and African Americans in this particular place are not fond of trans peeps. In fact, there's a rash of unsolved murders of trasn women of color around these parts. Nobody knew I was trans until a couple weeks ago when she decided to tell peeps cause she's a b...tch. She is so negative.

On the upside, now my BF will sytop talking to her cause he blames her. I didn't even have to convice him. He said it. And she was alrady on her last leg. She just gets jealous cause she can't get a man and here I am a trans woman and have this hot guy she drools over who want touch her. It's because of one thing: IRL, I'm really really nice. Too nice. But also sweet. It takes time to get to know me, but once you do that's how I am. She's just all negativity all the time. She has nothing nice to say. And I had to bleed for it.

Okay, this is getting into TLDR territory or surpassed it awhile ago lol

Quote from: suzifrommd on June 29, 2014, 10:16:00 AM
Oh, hugs, Joanna. That's horrible.

Please involve the police. You were the victim of a serious crime.

As long as and until we stand up in whatever way we can (by reporting the crime), people will keep doing this, and worse.

If this is ruled a hate crime (sounds like the evidence may be there), it could easily be a felony.

No, I can't. Not only do I not want to be shot because I'd be a witness to a crime that could carry 15 years. But, I'd be in the paper. I appreciate trans pride and all that. But, I have to come first. All I want to do is live a long, peaceful life with my BF travelling and working. Nothing more. Kids would be nice if the world doesn't go to hell. I'm just not activist material. I'm a magzine editor who love writing abotu beauty products and makeup and babies. In fact, it's exactyl what I have done with the last 10 or so years of my life,

Joanna why doesn't your BF spot you the cash for hormones then?

  Just a warning not to turn this into a male bashing topic. 

Yeah, I can understand not wanting to include the Philly PD.  I'll leave my comment at that.  However, please make sure to avoid these people in the future.  As transwomen, we have to be more cautious of our surroundings than usual cause you never know what happens.  And it's partly for this reason that I desire stealth as well.  I can't even tell you how sorry I am that you went through this and hope it will never occur again.  Please be safe Joanna.

Quote from: Evelyn K on June 29, 2014, 10:39:21 AM
Joanna why doesn't your BF spot you the cash for hormones then?

I never talk to him about hormones. Ever. never. Ever. I don't talk about any trans stuff and he told me awhile ago it weirds him out. yeah, that may sound trans phobic, but I could care less about trans phobia, I'm practically trans phobic. I'm trying to sell some stuff so I'll be okay. I hope. Once though he couldn't stop talking about it. He had to read about it for a long time cause he knew stuff that you wouldn't expect a non-trans person to know, even all kinds of stuff about FTMs. But that might be because if I dress to male, people ask him if I'm an FTM. It happens alot. I find it funny. I'm a "man" "or part man" that wants to be 100 percent (or as close as I can get) to being a woman, who dresses like  man sometimes, but just looks like a pre-T FTM. That got confusing real fast lol

He never even mentions my thing when we shower together he just calls it my pussy. Since that is the goal. I know a lot of peeps are all trans pride and all, but I'm all identity politics hurt more than help. Plus, he helps me so much already on so many fronts that I just feel it would be pushing it. I'll be able to sell some stuff, hopefully. If insurance paid for HRT, this wouldn't be a problem. Hopefully Pres. Obama willl make insurance companies do it, since as far as trans things go, he has been by far the most trans friendly president ever. By like 10 million miles.

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on June 29, 2014, 10:40:53 AM
Just a warning not to turn this into a male bashing topic. 

I wouldn't even call them real men. Come on 5 on one. None were men in my opinion but rather cowards. Can we bash cowards Jessica?

I am glad your Ok Joanna.

sorry for what happened.

Joanna, do You have a Paypal account?

That is so devastating Joanna.  I have to say you seem to be handling it with more grace that I think I would.   I wish you could move to a safer environment.   I am worried about you

PP acct.  +1

That's terrible! If it were me, I'd definitely press charges, as I'd want to personally see their butts thrown in jail (or worse). I realize you have your reasons not to, but things never get better if no one stands up to that behavior. If nothing else, I'd say that if you're somewhere where there is no recourse for that sort of crime, then it would be best to relocate as soon as possible. Certainly cut any responsible parties out of your life if you can. Stay safe.
Hugs.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on June 29, 2014, 11:25:14 AM
I never talk to him about hormones. Ever. never. Ever. I don't talk about any trans stuff and he told me awhile ago it weirds him out. yeah, that may sound trans phobic, but I could care less about trans phobia, I'm practically trans phobic. I'm trying to sell some stuff so I'll be okay. I hope. Once though he couldn't stop talking about it. He had to read about it for a long time cause he knew stuff that you wouldn't expect a non-trans person to know, even all kinds of stuff about FTMs. But that might be because if I dress to male, people ask him if I'm an FTM. It happens alot. I find it funny. I'm a "man" "or part man" that wants to be 100 percent (or as close as I can get) to being a woman, who dresses like  man sometimes, but just looks like a pre-T FTM. That got confusing real fast lol

He never even mentions my thing when we shower together he just calls it my pussy. Since that is the goal. I know a lot of peeps are all trans pride and all, but I'm all identity politics hurt more than help. Plus, he helps me so much already on so many fronts that I just feel it would be pushing it. I'll be able to sell some stuff, hopefully. If insurance paid for HRT, this wouldn't be a problem. Hopefully Pres. Obama willl make insurance companies do it, since as far as trans things go, he has been by far the most trans friendly president ever. By like 10 million miles.

Story seems to fall apart right around here. None of this make sense. Your "boyfriend" doesn't want to know what you are, or your special needs?

Sorry. Just my opinion. Others may differ. I really wish you good fortune whatever happens.

Quote from: JenSquid on June 29, 2014, 03:00:53 PM
That's terrible! If it were me, I'd definitely press charges, as I'd want to personally see their butts thrown in jail (or worse). I realize you have your reasons not to, but things never get better if no one stands up to that behavior. If nothing else, I'd say that if you're somewhere where there is no recourse for that sort of crime, then it would be best to relocate as soon as possible. Certainly cut any responsible parties out of your life if you can. Stay safe.
Hugs.

It seems like a lot of bad karma and bad decisions follows trans women around these parts. I guess this is the reason why so many choose to stay dissociated from others in our community IRL.

Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on June 29, 2014, 07:43:47 AM
Joanna, I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you heal physically and emotionally from this quickly, hugs.

Yes, some areas are very rough. From past posts you live in SW philly in the hood and that is a very tough place to live.

Wow I just googled southwest philly. Forget transitioning, I would invest on getting my a** out of there! Joanna you're worth more than this. You should do this for yourself and get yourself into a safer environment.