Yeah, I am contemplating getting my ears pierced too. The only thing which deters me, is that I have to wear those small metal needles for a month until everything is settled. And it has to be done on a daily basis, which might result into questions.

Nah I used to think pierced ears was a girl only thing and now, heck it is odd seeing guys without them.

Transitioning in 21st century is easier... We get away with wearing pink clothes and not being asked WTF?

+1 on ears peirced.  Though big dangly earrings not my thing.

Eventually I want to get my tragus peirced.  (Thats the little flap of cartilage covering your ear hole- nothing rude). 

Maybe a little nose stud.
The idea of sneezing through the hole disturbs me though.

Quote from: Nicolette on May 28, 2013, 06:56:02 AM
This doesn't make you any less female. Well, you know, clothes do not maketh the woman. Bras and panties are utilitarian things. I wear a bra because I have to as I have a heavy bosom. I wear knickers because of hygiene and tucking. I don't wear nail varnish. I may have had more of an attachment to these things in the days of my early discoveries. But those were days of experimentation, like teenage girls going through puberty, trying to find a footing, working out who we are. In fact, certain things actually now make me feel less womanly, even dysphoric, because of the associations they had back in my clubbing days. I feel clothes for me were used as a substitute when I felt nothing tangible about me was feminine. Today, my favourite things have sort of become distilled into just being, feeling, seeing a woman in the mirror. Clothes and stuff take second or third place.

This. It's not really about boots, makeup, clothes, dress, pink, glitter, lingerie, nails, hair, whatever. That is all superficial stuff. And it surely isn't what matters at the end of the day. As a group, we are criticized for conforming to ancient gender roles, and unfortunately, for many, it is true. I wouldn't ever do any of these just to be "a real woman" but because I either like them or I want to pass (for example, in formal situations where all women are wearing makeup and almost becomes imperative to do so or else you might draw attention to yourself).

This is really NOT about any of those, not at least for me. I wouldn't go down this road and risk losing almost everyone and everything to get to wear high heels and pretty dresses at the end of the day. It's about being me, feeling at ease with my own body, and that's it.

I would also like to argue that it's not so much about "favorite thing about being a girl", that actually looks a bit fetishist, there are obviously advantages to being a girl and to being a guy but in the end I don't really think in terms of what's good about being a girl or a boy. It's more like you either know you are or you don't, I don't question that much of it anymore than being black-haired person, or being white.

There are sure advatanges to being a woman but, in my experience, this is never about acquiring certain benefits women have. Especially because the suffering, all the hard work, is only worth if you are aiming to be your genuine self, not to wear heels at the end of day srsly.

This is more about celebrating the little things transition brings.

Taking my bra off at the end of a long day.

is there a better feeling at the end of a day?

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on August 06, 2013, 06:27:49 AM
Yeah, I am contemplating getting my ears pierced too. The only thing which deters me, is that I have to wear those small metal needles for a month until everything is settled. And it has to be done on a daily basis, which might result into questions.

I thought I was going to get questions too, but I didn't.  I've had my left ear pierced since the 90s, so I started wearing a stud in the left, and one night I just went for it and pierced my right one too (although I recommend having a professional do it).  I thought it was going to generate a lot of questions etc.  But it has been 6 months since I've had holes in both of my ears and nobody has said a single word (I live in the south and work at a pretty conservative workplace).   

When I'm at work I wear tiny 3mm silver balls they are noticeable, but extremely understated (nothing sparkly or girly at work).  But I have to admit, nothing makes me feel more girly than wearing earrings in both ears.  I just splurged on a pair of real pearls with 14k gold studs, and I love them (I'm wearing them right now).

Also 1 month is the bare minimum you want to let your ears heal.  I would not recommend going without something in them for at least 3-4 months.  After the first month, you can switch to clear piercing retainers (search "clear labret" or "piercing retainer") if you are getting questions.  They are not invisible, but they are not really noticeable unless someone is looking for them (you can even get away with wearing clear labrets when in military uniform).

all the best,
J.

My favorite things about when I'm a girl (which isn't too often since I'm still behind a closet door).

1. I get to feel happy for real, instead of just pretending.
2. Jewelry, Jewelry, Jewelry
3. painted nails
4. That feeling you get when you get your eye makeup just right.
5. The feel of smooth skin right after shaving my body hair.

J.

Favorite thing...

Girl's night in~ Nothing beats sitting around, drinking alcohol, painting nails, just talking, and watching really awful yaoi.

I'd have to also say giggling makes a nice second... I might be suffering from 'guy voice', but at least as far as I can tell, when I laugh, I sound like a girl.

If you're brave enough you can do them yourself at home.

I did mine at home, never had an issue and now theres 1000's of how to's on youtube

Quote from: Kaylin Kumiho on July 22, 2014, 12:19:13 AM
Favorite thing...

Girl's night in~ Nothing beats sitting around, drinking alcohol, painting nails, just talking, and watching really awful yaoi.

Amen sister...

Oh, the talking!
My Cisfemale friends have totally shifted to talking to me like a girl now.  Sooooooooo more free flowing and natural.

Thin short necklace

Hmmm, I really had to think about this for a moment. I've never really thought about it like that...here are some of my preliminary thoughts on this topic however:

(1) My long hair;
(2) Always having my nails painted and done;
(3) Not having any man tumors;
(4) People seeing me for who I really am instead of that fake poser I used to parade around as;
(5) My boobs. Love my boobs!

... Long hair. Perfumy olive fragrance as I caress it and lie on it. "I made this. This is mine."
... Glowing mat skin. Buh-bye big pores and oily face.
... Manicured nails. Buh-bye stubby fingertips. Sometimes with black nail polish!
... Being attractive...
... Constant happiness, joy and contentment.
... Breasts? Probably. But not quite yet.
... Knowing there's a chance I can share in the womens average lifespan.

After coming out to a few people, I've noticed that it's so much more acceptable for me to express my feelings without holding anything in when I need to. Yes, I want to be visually accepted as a woman too, but the emotional end of things is by far the most freeing thing I could imagine.

Oh yes... soft skin and tiny pores.  A cis straight male even mentioned how good my skin was the other day.   

Good question ...