Quote from: Lauren5 on July 02, 2014, 10:16:16 PM
Customers keep calling me sir at work, even when I look like I did yesterday.
Why do I even try?
I know it hurts, especially when we do try but, don't let those jerks get to you, I see a woman in that picture and your trying is paying off. I am curious though and, sorry if this upsets you but, do you have a female sounding voice yet and if so were you using it that day?
Quote from: Evelyn K on July 03, 2014, 03:04:54 AM
That some of my peers believe we live in a world of pink unicorns that sh*t skittles.
Ignorance is bliss they say and it's true, till you open your eyes and realize the truth and perhaps how miserable you were/how bad you were hurting others. That can be said for anyone regarding anything though but it's still true. Me, I used to be blind to the truth, not by choice though, now my eyes are open and things are a ton harder on me, no more pink unicorns and roses and such. (Oh come on, skittles made that way, even I was never THAT blind
) Just remember some people aren't ignorant/blind to the truth because they want to be, while others do that as a coping mechanism and others are just plain ignorant/blind to the truth.
Quote from: learningtolive on July 03, 2014, 08:38:41 AM
Reading so many stories on the site lately about transwomen being attacked. It's really sad to see how rampant it is and how little sympathy the general public has. And the sad thing is, there is very little we can do to stop it. The fact is society sees us as screwed up men that deserve what we get. They blame us for their violent acts. I don't get it. Most of us just want a normal life. I can say that I'm not looking to trick men or anything. I'll be honest about what I am when I start dating in order to avoid this conflict, but sadly this makes me even more afraid to disclose too. It's like there is no right or wrong way to handle disclosure because it's damned if you do and damned if you don't. Maybe I just have to accept that I'll end up alone for being trans. That no man could ever accept me. If I tell him, I'm a horrible monster that deserves what I get. If I don't tell him, I'm a decieving monster who deserves what I get. Why does there have to be so much hate for us?
Mattie, I know how you feel, it's always scary to put your trust in someone and tell them that. However, don't let the news like that get to you, I'm sure there has been a lot more good news for trans people out there than what gets reported and shown/shared. Take me for example, my work when I came out to them could have fired me, instead I went to the HR department (Along with them) and it all worked out for the most part (They're still working on not misgendering me) but, this was the first case they'd ever had from what I was told, they weren't used to it, so when I won sort to speak, it was a big victory for me. Now obviously nothing was done to my knowledge to inform the media of this victory as no reporters, no court etc. were involved but even so, this was a very good thing. The only bad thing is that until I can legally change my name all the forms, schedules etc. will still list my birth name and same with any form that lists my sex which is a shame really but, I understand, legalities and such, still doesn't make it right tbh but I'm not going to worry about it especially since the sex isn't listed out in the open like the name is such as on the schedule. (They did let me have a name tag with my newish name I now go by though)
Anyway, that's just one example of what I mean. Also, keep in mind Mattie that, the biggest news that gets the most attention is "usually" bad news, so that's why we see so much bad news reported vs. the good news. Also, you and we are NOT monsters, never call yourself that! Remember, a monster isn't something that's based on looks but rather based on the actions it does, the only reason people call a Vampire or a wear wolf, a space alien etc. etc. a monster is because it looks different, maybe perhaps scary looking and the fear of the unknown too. People are scared of the unknown and judge based on that and something being different. So remember, the REAL monster here is not someone/something that looks different, but rather those that treat others badly/cruelly.
EDIT: Oh and also, a little extra piece of news about my work, I was told that the decision they made, whatever it would be would not be just for me but for ALL employees who work for the company, not just that one I was working at but all of them. No idea if that included out of state ones or if it was done/implemented but, if true then, it wasn't just a victory for me but for all of us!
