Hi all, so I had surgery with Mr. Bellringer at Charing Cross last August. After many complications with blood loss and infection everything quietened down and I have never been happier with my body. I needed to go back in to be dilated under GA cause I couldn't fit the smallest dilator in (still having some issues).

Here's my real problem. I have only had orgasms like in my dreams? Almost like wet dreams but dry dreams? Anyways, I feel like my clitoris is too small and not very sensitive at all.

Any ideas if this is normal 10 months post op? will I ever get sensation back? How do I even begin to try and orgasm?

I'm at a loss right now.

I have seen and maybe answered on a few of your post.

First off sorry you had issues. That is one thing i wish none of us ever have to go through but they do happen.

It is surgery.

Not sure how Dr Bellringer does his GCS but 10 months is still early in the healing process. Some can happen over a year or so.

I still get spots on my BA that come back alive after now over 8 years.

I am like 15 months now and still have spots that remind me down there they are in reconnection mode.

Most seem to want to do it when i am in public and can not,,  lets say show the pain or pleasure. LOL

As any surgery not everything might come back. That is risks we take.

But if you get night Os then there is still emotional connections so you just need to find what will turn them up.

Hugs
Isabell

One more note, Some people have permanent troubles due to being in the stirrups to long

Izzy

Quote from: RonnieMay on July 03, 2014, 08:33:55 PM
Any ideas if this is normal 10 months post op? will I ever get sensation back? How do I even begin to try and orgasm?

I'm at a loss right now.

I tried with my clitoris two months post-op and had no luck. Although it was sensitive, it felt different and didn't trigger the right responses. Pre-op, I never touched the glans, it was always too sensitive. Anyway, I switched immediately to my "g-spot" and found I was getting closer to climaxing. I used a Lelo vibrator specifically for this. After a few failed attempts, I managed to climax and orgasm, but only after a huge mental effort. Gradually, I grew accustomed to this novel way of climaxing and found it easier and easier each time. I haven't even bothered yet with my clitoris as it's too easy with the g-spot. But maybe with a partner.

So if your libido and clitoris are getting you frustrated, try another way. Leave your clitoris until it's fully healed and connected and instead aim for the g-spot. It certainly helped get my sanity back after some frustrating weeks.

Funnily enough, I had a wet dream for the first time in my life a few weeks ago. I woke up having an orgasm. It was a fascinating feeling, because it was a pure feeling that lacked the accompanying sensation of a vibrator or anything else touching that area. I was wet down there too.

Quote from: Nicolette on July 05, 2014, 06:43:28 AM
I woke up having an orgasm. It was a fascinating feeling, because it was a pure feeling that lacked the accompanying sensation of a vibrator or anything else touching that area. I was wet down there too.

This is what happened to me! I always struggled with my 'other' G-Spot. I'm going to buy a 'special' vibrator though perhaps I could 'come' that way. Thank you for your input!
Saff xo

Ronnie, I found that the Gigi vibrator works really well. It places pressure at the right spot. It's quite compact and the rechargeable battery lasts for ages. It dawned on me that even if a surgeon screws up or your own body screws up the healing process, there's always that g-spot, accessible no matter what.

RonnieMay, if you've had orgasms in your sleep afterwhile you wake up then you haven't lost all sensation.

This happened to me last night, although i was half asleep and half awake but it was due from having a very sexy dream lol

Everybody is different at healing, so just be patient. After that you can try the G spot. I felt really sensitive down there, whist i had a prolapse and getting a warm tingling sensation. Guess it was rubbing in my G-spot 

Good luck anyways.

nessa76

I am 19 months, and life is both erotic and erratic as far as nerves go.  Orgasm takes about three things though

First, just being in the mood!!  If I am stressed, that is a sure killer for the fun. If I take time and do things to pamper myself, which can mean sexy PJ's or Night gowns, and a nice relaxing bubble bath, and maybe a bit of porn or beefcake to look at, then I improve my chances.  If its just dinner at home, there is nothing wrong with wearing a formal dress and maybe one of my pre-styled wigs.

Second is attention to my whole body.  I do not Orgasm only from my crotch, a couple of little vibrating eggs in my bra, or someone fondling my breasts gently is wonderful, vibrating pillow or massage stuff as well at any number of points all over your body.

The last item is realistic expectations, and a decision to judge each session of Eros all by its own, whether it is with a partner or by yourself.  We cannot realistically expect a quasi-male "O" every time, or a total toe curler Every time.  We are exploring life each time and if we expect to get something NEW each time, we will, and it will be fantastic.  Be happy with what happens, and the happy times will start coming closer and closer together.

You might just be hitting the wrong spot, Mr Bellringer did my surgery 3 years ago, and my clit is quite small but also very sensitive, but if I miss the spot it can be a bit like kneading dough. You've had complications so you may have been hesitant to explore your lovely new vulva, and it sounds like you're stressed about things, which definitely won't help with achieving orgasm. I hope that any problems you're having are only temporary x